New Life Ministries
Allow God to help you grow as you submit to His authority. “So humble yourselves under the mighty power of God, and in His good time He will honor you.” – 1 Peter 5:6
- Humbling yourself before the God of the universe.
- Admitting that God is all-powerful and releasing your struggles to Him.
- Refusing to escape into the old patterns, habits and attitudes
- No longer saying, “I can handle this myself.”
- Submitting to God’s way of doing things, even though you don’t understand it.
- Getting past your pain and fear and clinging to hope in God and His love for you.
- Setting aside your human understanding and becoming childlike, acknowledging that you have no answers that work.
Accept the full reality of your situation. “Lord, you have examined my heart and know everything about me.” – Psalm 139:1
- To stop lying to yourself about the failures, sins and heartaches in your life, and to begin to acknowledge the truth about your situation.
- To consider what you criticize in others as a clue to what you may be denying in yourself.
- To face your past, your pain and your failures head-on.
- To stop blaming others for your difficulties.
- To seek, receive and apply God’s wisdom
- To look at what you’ve done in the light of God’s mercy and grace.
- To accept that you are unable to help yourself without God’s help.
- To name your character defects and mistakes rather than deny them.
Begin to open up about the reality of your life. “Confess your sins one to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed.” – James 5:16
- You submit yourself to God’s way of handling secrets, respecting His desire for openness and vulnerability among His people.
- You are willing to overcome your fear of rejection by revealing your failures to another person.
- You reject your habit of self-protective secretiveness.
- You admit to at least one other person that you have fallen short of God’s best, including your character defects and judgment errors.
- You have stopped trying to mask your true feelings.
- You have chosen to humble yourself before both God and others.
- You renounce your independence and admit that you need help from fellow believers.
- You put your vague sense of guilt into written or spoken words and express the situation without making excuses.
Take responsibility to make necessary changes for spiritual growth to occur. “For we are each responsible for our own conduct.” – Galatians 6:5
- You face your problems rather than escape them.
- You take the time to grieve your losses and experience pain.
- You believe Jesus’ words: “Blessed are those who mourn for they will be comforted.”
- You stop playing the role of victim.
- You are willing to bear the full responsibility of your misconduct.
- You no longer blame others for your sins.
- You reach out to Christ, who is fully capable of understanding your emotional pain having suffered abuse and rejection Himself.
- You look beyond your losses at God’s deeper purposes.
- You accept the hope that God’s plans for you are always good and loving.
- You refuse to allow anything from your past to be an excuse for lack of growth or character development.
Forgive your own failures and the failures of those who have hurt you. “If you forgive those who sin against you, your heavenly Father will forgive you.” – Matthew 6:14
- You hand back your rights to God (the rights you usurped from Him) and invite Him to be in charge.
- Asking for forgiveness and making restitution for the damage you’ve done.
- You no longer energize yourself with rage or hatred.
- You step out of the past and into the present.
- You accept the pardon of the Cross for others as well as for yourself.
- You obey Jesus’ instructions to forgive so that you can be forgiven.
- You begin a process of forgiveness which may continue for a lifetime, living in the light of God’s forgiveness.
- To sift through your life and discard the resentments and hurts of the past.
Transform your pain into a purposeful mission out of your desire to share with others and love them. “All praise to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ. He is the source of every mercy and the God who comforts us. He comforts us in all our troubles so that we can comfort others. When others are troubled, we will be able to give them the same comfort God has given us.” – II Corinthians 1:3-4
- To step out of your pain and into the needs of others.
- To participate in God’s process of working all things together for good.
- To seek ways of applying past pain to positive purposes.
- You stop saying “Why me, Lord?” and start saying, “What do you want me to do?” Being a giver instead of a taker.
- Learning to listen rather than always needing to be heard.
- You allow your humbling experiences to give you a servant’s heart, investing your spiritual gifts in the lives of others.
- The discovery of your God given spiritual gifts and the utilization of those gifts in reaching and serving others.
Protect the spiritual gains you have made and persevere through life’s inevitable struggles. “So make every effort to apply the benefits of these promises to your life. Then your faith will produce a life of moral excellence. A life of moral excellence leads to knowing God better.” – 2 Peter 1:5
- You establish boundaries that prevent your return to sick and sinful behaviors.
- You continue to forgive and to be forgiven.
- You avoid secrecy by remaining accountable to others, while being a trustworthy confidant for their secrets.
- You choose to be part of a godly community reading God’s Word, meditating upon it, praying daily, and practicing spiritual disciplines.
- Developing, with God’s help, a deep and godly character.
- Being patient with yourself when you slip.
- Moving forward while remembering where you’ve been.
- Continuing the process of surrender – day by day, year by year.