7 Steps to Starting Fresh with God

New Life Ministries

Surrender
Allow God to help you grow as you submit to His authority. “So humble yourselves under the mighty power of God, and in His good time He will honor you.” – 1 Peter 5:6

  • Humbling yourself before the God of the universe.
  • Admitting that God is all-powerful and releasing your struggles to Him.
  • Refusing to escape into the old patterns, habits and attitudes
  • No longer saying, “I can handle this myself.”
  • Submitting to God’s way of doing things, even though you don’t understand it.
  • Getting past your pain and fear and clinging to hope in God and His love for you.
  • Setting aside your human understanding and becoming childlike, acknowledging that you have no answers that work.

Acceptance
Accept the full reality of your situation. “Lord, you have examined my heart and know everything about me.” – Psalm 139:1

  • To stop lying to yourself about the failures, sins and heartaches in your life, and to begin to acknowledge the truth about your situation.
  • To consider what you criticize in others as a clue to what you may be denying in yourself.
  • To face your past, your pain and your failures head-on.
  • To stop blaming others for your difficulties.
  • To seek, receive and apply God’s wisdom
  • To look at what you’ve done in the light of God’s mercy and grace.
  • To accept that you are unable to help yourself without God’s help.
  • To name your character defects and mistakes rather than deny them.

Confession
Begin to open up about the reality of your life. “Confess your sins one to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed.” – James 5:16

  • You submit yourself to God’s way of handling secrets, respecting His desire for openness and vulnerability among His people.
  • You are willing to overcome your fear of rejection by revealing your failures to another person.
  • You reject your habit of self-protective secretiveness.
  • You admit to at least one other person that you have fallen short of God’s best, including your character defects and judgment errors.
  • You have stopped trying to mask your true feelings.
  • You have chosen to humble yourself before both God and others.
  • You renounce your independence and admit that you need help from fellow believers.
  • You put your vague sense of guilt into written or spoken words and express the situation without making excuses.

Responsibility
Take responsibility to make necessary changes for spiritual growth to occur. “For we are each responsible for our own conduct.” – Galatians 6:5

  • You face your problems rather than escape them.
  • You take the time to grieve your losses and experience pain.
  • You believe Jesus’ words: “Blessed are those who mourn for they will be comforted.”
  • You stop playing the role of victim.
  • You are willing to bear the full responsibility of your misconduct.
  • You no longer blame others for your sins.
  • You reach out to Christ, who is fully capable of understanding your emotional pain having suffered abuse and rejection Himself.
  • You look beyond your losses at God’s deeper purposes.
  • You accept the hope that God’s plans for you are always good and loving.
  • You refuse to allow anything from your past to be an excuse for lack of growth or character development.

Forgiveness
Forgive your own failures and the failures of those who have hurt you. “If you forgive those who sin against you, your heavenly Father will forgive you.” – Matthew 6:14

  • You hand back your rights to God (the rights you usurped from Him) and invite Him to be in charge.
  • Asking for forgiveness and making restitution for the damage you’ve done.
  • You no longer energize yourself with rage or hatred.
  • You step out of the past and into the present.
  • You accept the pardon of the Cross for others as well as for yourself.
  • You obey Jesus’ instructions to forgive so that you can be forgiven.
  • You begin a process of forgiveness which may continue for a lifetime, living in the light of God’s forgiveness.
  • To sift through your life and discard the resentments and hurts of the past.

Transformation
Transform your pain into a purposeful mission out of your desire to share with others and love them. “All praise to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ. He is the source of every mercy and the God who comforts us. He comforts us in all our troubles so that we can comfort others. When others are troubled, we will be able to give them the same comfort God has given us.” – II Corinthians 1:3-4

  • To step out of your pain and into the needs of others.
  • To participate in God’s process of working all things together for good.
  • To seek ways of applying past pain to positive purposes.
  • You stop saying “Why me, Lord?” and start saying, “What do you want me to do?” Being a giver instead of a taker.
  • Learning to listen rather than always needing to be heard.
  • You allow your humbling experiences to give you a servant’s heart, investing your spiritual gifts in the lives of others.
  • The discovery of your God given spiritual gifts and the utilization of those gifts in reaching and serving others.

Preservation
Protect the spiritual gains you have made and persevere through life’s inevitable struggles. “So make every effort to apply the benefits of these promises to your life. Then your faith will produce a life of moral excellence. A life of moral excellence leads to knowing God better.” – 2 Peter 1:5

  • You establish boundaries that prevent your return to sick and sinful behaviors.
  • You continue to forgive and to be forgiven.
  • You avoid secrecy by remaining accountable to others, while being a trustworthy confidant for their secrets.
  • You choose to be part of a godly community reading God’s Word, meditating upon it, praying daily, and practicing spiritual disciplines.
  • Developing, with God’s help, a deep and godly character.
  • Being patient with yourself when you slip.
  • Moving forward while remembering where you’ve been.
  • Continuing the process of surrender – day by day, year by year.

Comments

  1. benjamin bonacci says:

    Need to change my life before I die!!!!!!

  2. I got baptized but life has been gettin so much harder, and the fight.. I just need a fresh start with God, and to fall in love with him all over again..

    • I want the same just don’t no where start. I try everything.

      • I feel the same way, but I feel the best way to start is by kneeling down now and having a short time alone with God and thinking only of his love for u. The love of God is simply unimaginable. Even when we go through pains. He just loves us. Don’t know if I made sence, but God will guide you through.

  3. everyone seems to turn to god only when things arent going rite we need to apritiate
    and thank our haven father every day no matter whats going on in our lives. open your heart to him hes our lord our savior. god gave his only son to die for our sins. god can do big things for us. believe in him anything is possible put ur faith n trust let god guide me and never leave me

  4. Luis Mitchell says:

    Sometimes I feel like the biggest hypocrite but today I start fresh.

    • I can totally resonate with that. Thank you for posting I am beginnig my relationship with God recently after falling from him almost a decade ago. It takes courage to post something like that and I congratulate you on your humbleness to admit something that most people hide. And also to thank you for doing that because this has strengthened me in my decision.

  5. I been struggling with my flesh and the will of God for my life but to day I start fresh giving my self fully. Eny one who reads this please pray for me

  6. constance bowens says:

    Today is my fresh start with my savior. I was cleansed at that very moment, because I let go and let God…. I know, I have to think differently now. What if this was my last day on earth? Knowing it want be easy,but with God on my side nothing will be impossible. I embrace
    the moment and remember God never sleeps. This joy I have is from sweet Jesus praying to God for this vapor. Thank you Lord for unlimited chances…… I wasn’t true to myself before…

  7. I want to start fresh with god in my life. I am stuck in a groove. have always tried to find ways to deny the existence of the true God. I am helpless and don’t know where to start

  8. Jose Gonzalez says:

    No matter what happens we need to keep pushing on.Just the fact that someone’s on this site shows that the spirit is already working with us.We can’t let nothing stop us from pushing foreword.No guilt,no pain no loss.Keep pushing foreword,the Spirit is the key.It can be renewed every day and give us a fresh start.The Father has many secrets that he is revealing and giving out lots of healing and blessings both spiritual and financial to those who align their lives with Gods plan and fallow against all odds,l
    After the smoke clears life becomes sweet,nice,beautiful we learn to be happy and get smarter and stronger from every obstacle.And be better people and actually end up in a very blessed position to where we can help our parents and buy pur nieces and nephews nice things,take our parents out to breakfast.have peace to just relax at home on weekends and do little hobbies or watch movies maybe catch up on shows.have strength to overcome deaths,break ups,medical issues and come out on top thru Jesus Christ and build a testimony that can inspire other people.
    Jesus

  9. Patricia says:

    I too want to start over with the Lord. I was away from the Lord for so many years, I wish I had never done the things I did, my heart Got hard. I’m afraid that I may have done the unpardonable sin, I didn’t heed the confiction’s of the Holy Spirit. Would anyone who reads this please pray for me? I’m going to ask the Lord again for forgiveness. I love him and need him.

    • Patricia, I prayed for you tonight. God Bless you.

    • I pray for you also. May the love of God envelope you and his spirit lead you back to the fold in Jesus name. Amen

    • Hi Patricia
      Even though your post is over a year old, I felt led to respond to it and encourage you that I too have been through the same thing. If you are wondering if you have committed the unpardonable sin, then rest because you haven’t. Those who commit the unpardonable sin don’t even care if they have or haven’t. The Holy Spirit is the ONLY One Who can reveal Jesus to us and being us back to God. Without the Holy Spirit, we are utterly lost and hopeless.
      So your desire to come back to God and repent is a good thing. :)
      It is the Lord who is drawing you back.
      Draw near to God, and He will draw near to you. (James 4:8)
      Hope that helped!

  10. Just me says:

    You never leave me G-d, I always leave you.

  11. It’s hard to really know if a fresh start is truly what I want. I want to want it and not want the things my flesh had an appetite for before I was saved. Those desired come back and I resist but sometimes yield knowing they are sinful. In my mind I know I will ask God to forgive me but I want to rise above that and live in victory over those things. So I do want a fresh start but I also want to hate what God hates and return to my first love status with Jesus. Lord please save me from me and help me keep pushing towards you. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

    • I understand brother, I do….. and know you said that like I feel it in my heart, let’s go in peace……

  12. Just reading this comments make me see reason to start afresh again many people seem to have the same issues with God. I believe in God words that says if thou would amend your ways then I will cause thou to dwell in this land.I pray as many of us that are going through this stress may receive God mercy through Jesus Christ lord Amen

  13. Its was a huge encourgement to see so many post between strangers . One after another listening ( reading ) about someone’s hardship or struggle followed by someone elses supported reply . Very touching and Godly to me !!!!!!!!
    He IS at work making the best improvements in our lives .
    Just ask yourself. ” Why would you NOT WANT a QUARANTEED HAPPY LIFE ? ” At no expense .
    There is absolutely NOT 1 thing in our flesh life that will ever ever compare to the true living God has anned for each and everyone of us. Stay strong , patient ( most of all in your faith 100 percent. .

  14. I’ve messed up so bad and I need a new start but everything and everyone seems to be against me. I’ve repented so many times I don’t want to make him more upset with me. It’s so bad.

  15. I want to pray for everyone. I’m trying to find myself. I searching for God. He says in His word if I draw closer to Him He will draw closer to me. Everyday I don’t pray I forget until it’s convenient for me. I want to live for Jesus but I don’t know how to go about doing just that. I’m shy I need to take baby steps in talking to people. I’m longing for Him and I’m very anxious and eager. I’m depressed feel like giving up. I’m unhappy and I just want His will to be done. I’m so selfish, please someone tell me where to start!!!

    • Stop condemning yourself, and know that God loves you so much. :)
      Look to Jesus, the author and FINISHER of your faith. He (God) Who began a good work in you is FAITHFUL to complete it. :)
      Keep looking up, for your redemption draws near.

  16. Dominique says:

    Hi everyone,
    It’s been a while now that I began to seek God and only started to fully understand what it meant to be a christian by trying to live for Him only. Right now I feel so discouraged, it’s like I’m going over the same cycle of sin EVERY DAY… It’s not even every day anymore it’s more like every hour. I’m so fed up, sometimes I feel like giving up because I know I can’t go on like this. Recently I’ve been feeling so down and sometimes it got to the point that I began to have thoughts about ending my life. I’d look at everyone else and their life would seem to be going fine but mine is a total mess. I keep sinning and it seems like I just can’t stop. I repent and I fall and repent again, I feel like maybe I want meant to do this. I will sin so bad and be afraid and worried to return to God because I’m just so ashamed of myself. I really need help… I don’t know if I’m the only one who is going through this but it has really taken a toll on me up to the point where I felt like it was a burden for example, I felt like it was a sin to be happy or laugh around so I began to get really serious and stop myself from doing such things. Please please help…

    • Hi Dominique
      First off, you need to know that you’re NOT ALONE! :) Thousands, perhaps even millions of Christians struggle with this same issue. I have definitely gone through it: repeating the same sins over and over, feeling trapped and stuck; wanting to please God and live victoriously, but would find myself back in the same rut.
      I am here to tell you though, that God is able! I have been a Christian for 13 years. However, there were sins in my life that I kept repeating. I even confessed them a few different times to different people to try to achieve victory. Then, after being free for a few weeks or a couple months, I would fall back in to a secret cycle of habitual sin.
      Now, I can honestly tell you that I am free of these things. What made the difference? Here it is: looking to and totally depending on Jesus instead of my own good works and efforts. No longer trying to live by my own works for justification and acceptance.
      Jesus became sin for me, so that I could be the righteousness of God. It was a trade. A gift.
      So even if I found myself sinning, I would confess out loud, “I am the righteousness of God through Christ Jesus.” Over time, I found myself free from the addiction, and still free! Also, I am staying accountable to people who love me and care about my spiritual well being.
      I encourage you to check out Joseph Prince and his teachings. They helped me immensely. It’s all about Jesus. :)
      Hope that helped! God loves you.

      • Gods child says:

        How long did it take for God to help you and what did you do in other to not repeat the same sin?? Because I need God in my life yes I’m young and it doesn’t mean that I shouldn’t be interesting in gods word!! Please help me what did you do in other for all your sins to be forgiven I’m a teenager and I have negative thoughts in my head things that I don’t even want to be is in my head!! I’ve prayed about it but it goes and comes back I know that Jesus is calling on to me but I don’t know…. I have sinned and I’m not proud of it!! Like the world of God says Romans 3:23 “for all had sinned and fall short of the glory of God!! And I’m not proud of my sins that’s is why I’m trying to get rid of these thoughts because I know that it is not of God!!! Please reply back may god bless you!!!!

  17. Oh I love to know Him more than I have ever know Him I really want to serve Him better than I have been serving Him, but the sinful life of mine has been the major problem. I know God loves me than I could ever imagine… pls don’t just read this without you pray for me! I need more grace to overcome sin…

  18. For so long I have been in a place where I am stuck from moving forward. Years!

    My work, my studies, my emotional state of mind, my relationship… everything is at a stand still and I am so lost.
    I speak to God everyday, most of the day.. Asking for help and guidance. It feels asif the answers are in front of me but I just cant seem to find them.

    i am slowly dying inside, feeling sad and lonely. Having regrets and making constant mistakes. I know God gave me a good heart and that I try live a good life. It just seems to be going no where.
    most of the times I find myself crying and longing for more.
    i go to random churches, searching for soulfood. Some kind of teaching or sign that tells me what I should do, but theres nothing.
    Not even one thing that helps me get out of this rut.
    I really dont know where to go from here.
    i do pray, every day and night and even sometimes I sit in bathrooms and just pray. Begging for change.
    i am failing in every aspect of my life. I have stop all bad things, drinking, smoking etc… even in my relationship. But nothing seems to be changing.
    i dont know how to listen to God and I fear that I might end up never hearing it. I dont know how to have complete faith, i ask for things and hope and pray and believe, but it just is not going anywhere. So thats might mean that I do not have faith? I dont know.
    i feel hopeless, crying constantly without anyone knowing.. I have gained so much wieght, its been so many years and I am almost due for poor performance with my studies, I am over worked and under paid to an unbelievable degree, my relationship is on a line where it seems to be that I am the one longing for more and more and more but I get nothing no matter how hard I try then I turn to insecurity and jealousy and being a complete monster just pushing away a really good man that I know loves me, but I am messing it up… I am financially so broke that I cant afford new clothes or shoes… or even a new license disc which is almost due.
    I might sound a bit messed up, but I am… thats the truth.
    I cant find a church that fills my emptyness, I really need some kind of help. Feels like my life is just not turning around and I know I am not a bad person. I hate lying and I always try and do the right thing. I always want to help others and I have a great passion for God.
    My life so far is sad.. I have lost so many friends, even if they have decieved me so many times, I am slow to anger and easily forgive. I let others walk over me and I always give good advice. People think I am smart and innocent but yet I am failing my studies and I have a history of very bad actions..
    I had so much dreams and positivity that now I am faking. I am dying inside and I would not have written this if I wanted to have change. I tried everything. I think.
    i constantlt seek God where ever I go… I try not to question Him, but what am I doing wrong? Please pray for me. I need prayers. I need some kind of revelation. I need God and I desperatly need some happiness, love and hope.

    • Apologies for the messy letter. I have really tried a lot of things and read so many motivations. I grew up in a very good christian home. My boyfriend is a really helpful and good person. I have one true friend left and I cant decide of it is the one living 3000kilos from me whom I dont share these thoughts or the one that lives 5kils from me which I am the only one trying to keep the contact, through messages..
      I have just no one to talk to about God anymore and I thought for some reason here will be a good place after reading the post.
      I dont want to sound crazy or looking like I am feeling sorry or am ungrateful or whatever.. I just know that I need change. Inside of me and the devil is winning with me. Always struggling and always getting hurt and always being the last of everything.
      i have realised that I am in danger and trying not to get deprest, but I admit that I am. Already. I dont want this feeling anymore. I know if I believe my prayers will come true, but I am definitely doing it wrong because even with the faith I had nothing changed… I have so many questions and so many uncertainties and I just dont know where to go anymore… I tried being on my knees and nothing. I need some kind of help. Please pray for me. Or if anyone feels that God is saying something to me through you, please share. I dont discuss this with anyone. I just think after today and being that its almost my birthday again. I am getting older.. I want a happy life and be a good testimony of Gods love. I just have so much going on in my mind that I barely see clear anymore. I dont know what to pray for anymore. I just want some kind of miracle.

      Here I am posting my thoughts on a random web page… desperate indeed.

      • Hi there,
        I kind of know the feeling… its really not easy. I am currently dealing with loneliness too, most of my friends and companions are gone and sometimes I just want a friend, someone that I can talk about the Lord with and someone who can encourage me during tough times like these. I had also been struggling with depression and even having suicidal thoughts and I too thought that being a Christian meant that I would never feel this way. I want to let you know that you are not the only one that goes through this, many of us do and the most that we can do is pray for each other and comfort each other… it’s not an easy thing to go through but I urge you, seek the Lord! I felt like I wasn’t moving, it was like I was calling myself a christian but I saw no change and I began doubting, doubting the faith and what everyone was saying because I didn’t have that freeing experience. Sister, I’ll keep you in my prayers because I truly believe the Lord has let me see this because I too experienced what your are and I still do. I just encourage you to seek the Lord, seek Him with all of your heart and pour out your heart to Him, tell Him all your worries and sorrows because He is your Heavenly Father and he loves you, God cares for you. Oh I urge you to just tell the Lord everything, believing that He listens to you and that He can and will change your situation. Our God knows all of our needs, He knows it all, sis my heart and prayers will go out for you that you may find comfort in the Lord during your struggles! You will always have our support and most importantly support from God Himself

        Keep the faith and trust in God… it’s hard but remember what God’s word says “He healeth the broken heart, and bindeth up their wounds” (Psalm 147:3)

        • Thank you so much. I really needed some inspiration. My heart is longing to fill an emptyness. And I am stuck in failure and being completely u happy. I will seek the Lord. Thank you!
          May God bless you for sharing this with me.

          • Up at 3:09 a.m. and God led me to this site. I read 70% of the comments, and came across yours. I can relate in so many ways that its scary. Thats how I know this is nothing but God. I am also looking for a fresh start….I’ve been in church my entire life, but for the past decade I’ve been inconsistent with my relationship with God….I’ll always seek him when things are going wrong in my life, but once I get a grip on life, I’ll stray away again, but I’m so tired of this lifestyle. I pray that God’s grace leads us to a fulfilled life. Be blessed and know that you are in my prayers.

  19. I’ve realised that myself too, I thought I was the only one going through this. For me its opposite, I’d seek God in the good times and when things would get harder I just couldn’t handle it, it just seems as though God is giving me the strength. I’ve been going through this since I became a christian nearly 2 years ago, I always heard a it this freedom that Jesus gives but I’ve never really experienced it myself. Since I became a christian my life has just become a cycle of the same thing: getting closer to God and a week or a few days later the same thing happens. I just didn’t understand and I still don’t:(. I remember just really seeking God for days, weeks, months just hoping for a change but nothing, I remember even fasting for a whole month just to know more about God but still nothing. I began to become so depressed because of it that I though it was even normal… I remember trying out every possible thing and thinking “what is everyone doing that I’m not!?”. I’d try so hard to live a life that revolved around God because I didn’t want to settle for the thing so many people call Christianity, where they don’t even think about God… I wanted something more, something deeper but I never actually grasped the fullness of God. To this day the same thing is happening right now and just a month ago I actually gave up on this, I was so frustrated and heartbroken that I wept for the past 2 weeks because it seemed like it was a joke. I still really don’t understand right now, I’ve only started praying again 2 days ago because of healing in my family, I don’t know…I’m just confused right now and I just need to know what’s going on because there are so many times where I just feel as though my life is ruined, I lost friends and suffered so much because of this and it just breaks my heart because after all of the effort I put in my life has just worsened…

  20. Samuel Coco says:

    Lord, what do You want me to do? —Acts 9:6
    On June 6, 1944, three American officers huddled in a bombshell crater on Utah Beach in Normandy, France. Realizing the tide had carried them to the wrong place on the beach, the trio made an impromptu decision: “We’ll start the battle from right here.” They needed to move forward from a difficult starting point.

    Saul found himself in a difficult place, needing to make a decision after meeting Jesus on the road to Damascus (Acts 9:1-20). Suddenly, the location and direction of his life was revealed to him as a mistake, his prior life perhaps even feeling like a waste. Moving forward would be difficult and would require hard and uncomfortable work, perhaps even facing the Christian families whose lives he had torn apart. But he responded, “Lord, what do You want me to do?” (v. 6).

    We often find ourselves in unexpected places, places we never planned nor wanted to be. We may be drowning in debt, inhibited by physical barriers, or suffering under the weight of sin’s consequences. Whether Christ finds us this day in a prison cell or a palace, whether He finds us broken and broke or absorbed by our own selfish desires, Scripture tells us to heed Paul’s advice to forget what lies behind and to press forward toward Christ (Phil. 3:13-14). The past is no barrier to moving forward with Him.

    Are you paralyzed by your past? Have you drifted away from Christ? Or perhaps never even met Him? Today is the day to begin anew with Christ, even if you’ve tried and failed before.

    It’s not too late for a fresh start.

  21. The most honest, practical and direct guidance I have ever read. Not for sissies but the truth.
    Thanks!

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