A Daddy Vacuum

A father to the fatherless, a defender of widows, is God – Psalm 68:5

A Daddy Vacuum

I grew up in a family where my father was always there for me. He was a good man. A funny man. A bedrock of faith with a compassionate heart. I was truly blessed to be born into his family. Some of you weren’t so fortunate. Your father wasn’t a positive role model for you. Or, your father deserted your family or died young. You grew up without a father, and just hearing someone refer to “dad” or “daddy” is painful for you. The absence of that all important person in your life left an insatiable void within you.

The role of your father is so important that it can affect how you perceive God as your heavenly father. I hope that no matter how bad your experience was with your father, that you won’t be afraid to see God as your father. Consider and take solace in the words of Psalm 68 promising that God will be a father to the fatherless.

A friend of mine who grew up without a dad describes it as having a daddy vacuum. Is that where you are today? Do you have a vacuum of your dad, or your mom, or maybe your entire family? If so, cling to God’s promise that he’ll be a father to the fatherless. How that looks will be different in each situation. Some of you will take solace directly in and with your heavenly father. To others, God will bring a father-figure into your life to begin to fill that void.

If you have a daddy vacuum, pray for God to fill that void within you, however He chooses. If you don’t have that vacuum, and you’re a man who was blessed like I was to have a dad that loved me and was there for me, look to see if God might be calling you to be a father to the fatherless on His behalf.

– Steve Arterburn

It is much easier to become a father than to be one. – Kent Nerburn



  1. Maria January 15, 2014 at 9:46 am - Reply

    Just a note to possibly add to this. There are many who had fathers in the home, but they were distant emotionally, or worked so much they didn’t spend time with their families. Many are just indifferent and uninvolved with their kids (and wives). I had a father like that, he never knew or seemed to care what was going on in our lives. But thankfully, after my mom suddenly passed away when I was in my 20’s, after quite a rocky time in our relationship, my father spent the rest of his life trying to make it up to me. Sadly, he passed away one year ago after a horrible 1 year battle with cancer. I am extremely thankful to God for completely reconciling and building our relationship during those latter years with him.

  2. Lewis Martin January 15, 2014 at 8:34 pm - Reply

    More kids are fatherless due to being cut out of their children’s life by the family court system than for any of these suggested here. Yet it is never mentioned…

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