Addicted to Love

We who have fled to take hold of the hope offered to us may be greatly encouraged. We have this hope as an anchor for the soul, firm and secure. – Hebrew 6:18b-19  

addictedtolove.newlifeHave you ever thought about being addicted to love? It sounds like a good thing to be addicted to, but clinically speaking, it’s a problem.

Relationship addicts live in a world of paradoxes that leave them feeling like they have no way out. They desperately want to get close to someone, but end up with a person whose problems make close­ness impossible. They seek security, but end up with someone who always leaves the back door open for a quick get-away.

Relationship addicts crave unconditional love, but live in constant fear of abandonment if they don’t live up to their own impossible standards. They want to be free to love, but often trap themselves in a relationship by becoming pregnant or by weaving some other type of emotional spider web. Drowning in the whirlpool of their own emotions, they turn to a rescuer who cannot swim.

When all is said and done, for healing to occur, if you’re a relation­ship addict, you’ll need to come to the end of your own strength and seek God’s help to resolve the hurts of the past and move to­ward a genuine focus on others. Without this, relationship addicts are doomed to a cycle of misery and futility. Remember, you can never fix what only God can fix.

– Steve Arterburn

Aloneness can lead to loneliness. God’s preventative for loneliness is intimacy – meaningful, open, sharing relationships with one another. In Christ we have the capacity for the fulfilling sense of belonging which comes from intimate fellowship with God and with other believers.– Neil T. Anderson

God is more interested in your future and your relationships than you are. – Billy Graham 


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  1. Patti October 28, 2013 at 8:24 am - Reply

    Isn’t it true that a person needs to look only to Christ to meet their need for acceptance and love first, and then, and only then can they have a “genuine focus on others”? Is that what you are saying? Also, doesn’t He use our disappointments, and the pain of that, when others fail us, to drive us to Him, the One who will not disappoint, so that we will put Him first in our lives? I am beginning to see that more clearly in my life. How tempting, though, to try and get that from our own spouse. Many have thought wrongly that we are to get those needs met through them. It seems reasonable, as they are the one who we are becoming “one” with. But, still, in our marriage relationships, our needs for unconditional love can only be met in Him, for He is the only One who has it. How to open up to that from our invisible God becomes the problem, I think. As we learn to walk by faith, and not by sight, more and more, that begins to happen in increasing measure. Just some of my thoughts.

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