My Biggest Blessing

Ever wondered how Steve met his lovely wife, Misty? Steve puts it like this: “Of all the blessings in my life, none compares to the day my wife, Misty, walked into my life.” Click on the image below and watch Misty share their story. And if you have not already checked out our new TV Channel, you can check it out here.

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A New Venture for Steve Arterburn and New Life

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Christian Author and Radio Host Steve Arterburn in New Venture with Top TV Execs

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LAGUNA BEACH, Ca., March 20, 2014 –  In a new venture with two media titans, New York Times bestselling Christian author and radio host, Steve Arterburn will complement his nationally syndicated, daily call-in radio show with a new subscription-based TV channel on the Internet.

Debuting March 24 at 4:00 p.m. EDT (1:00 p.m. PDT), Arterburn’s New Life TV will be the first of several channels on a platform created by TAPP Media, the brainchild of Jon Klein, former President of CNN/U.S., and Jeff Gaspin, former Chairman of NBC Universal Television Entertainment.

New Life TV will feature a fresh 30-minute show every weekday.  For $9.95 a month, fans of Arterburn (and his line-up of co-hosts), whose radio show has an estimated 3 million listeners, will be able to log onto https://tv.newlife.com and view the original programming in one sitting or in shorter shareable clips, as well as access archived  material.  New Life TV will be available on multiple devices including smart phones, tablets, computers, laptops, smart TV’s.

Arterburn’s popular radio call-in show, New Life Live, features Arterburn, a human relationship expert, and his co-hosts, dispensing Christian-based advice to listeners who call in on a variety of problems—marriage, anger, grief, anxiety, abuse, addictions, and other issues.  New Life TV will delve into these subjects in greater depth than the radio format allows, and offer members the opportunity to interact with Arterburn and his co-hosts during regular video chats.

“This venture has the potential to expand our sphere of influence and help more people experience life transformation. This is an opportunity we didn’t see coming, but we’re extremely grateful for it,” Arterburn said.  He added, “One day we’ll address an issue of the day, another day how to build, grow and repair a relationship, another on how to integrate Biblical principles into daily lives, yet another on addiction recovery and then one on general counseling topics.”

In addition to New Life TV, TAPP plans to roll out several channels this year—and dozens more in the next two to three years.  The company recently announced funding from Discovery Communications, and individual investors including Eric Schmidt, Executive Chairman of Google.

Healing for Your Betrayed Heart

Designed to help women who have been hurt in relationships with men who are or have been involved in pornography, sexual addiction or adultery our Women in the Battle Workshop is the first step you can take to find healing for your betrayed heart. Join us in Columbus, OH on the weekend of March 21 – 23, 2014. During this weekend of biblically-based teaching and process group counseling you will receive tools that can help you heal and rebuild your future. Need more encouragement, read testimonies from other women who have begun the journey to healing their betrayed hearts. Call 800-NEW-LIFE (639-5433) and register TODAY!

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Every Man’s Battle Workshop Feedback

This past weekend, we had our monthly Every Man’s Battle Workshop, in Dallas, TX. The Lord moved in an amazing way and many lives were touched and changed, here’s what some of the men had to say . . .

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It’s only been 48 hours, but I can’t imagine going back to my “normal life” without this new found freedom hope, and vital education. One of the most impactful moments of the weekend was hearing from an alumni’s wife about the impact of how this sexual addiction affects a woman. So different!  That has been huge for helping me understand how to empathize with my wife and her raw emotions. – Jimmy

I never considered myself an angry man.  Nevertheless, my group leader helped me to realize and accept that I was very angry with my dad and all of the men who let me down.  I was especially angry with Christian men, pastors, and friends who would not walk with me through my efforts to reach out for help.  I was able to process and forgive them all! My life has been transformed from my heart.  I am now equipped to be Protector, Provider, and Priest of my wife and home. – Anthony

This weekend has been a great experience for me in opening up, taking off my mask, and facing my enemy / demons. I feel God’s power and spirit in me again and most importantly His love.  I leave with more hope, optimism, and love. – Reggie

On Friday morning, the last place I wanted to be was in Texas dealing with a problem I didn’t think I had. I came convinced I had overcome the problem I may have had. But I wanted to say I had exhausted all possible resources to fix my marriage so in the event of a divorce, my conscience would be clear. By Saturday morning I was eating humble pie with the realization my sin was hurtful and ugly and very real and still very much alive.  With that realization, I discovered I was not alone and that I now had a plan – a do-able, structured plan that could put me on the track to real results. I’m leaving with the ability to not just clear my conscience, but by the grace of God, truly fix my addiction, fix my marriage, and become the man God would have me be and that my family deserves. – Bryce

I will never be the same. Seeing myself as a warrior, in this battle, with other brother warriors gives me courage and hope.  Weapons for life, for loving my wife well and for living close to God will stay in my memory always. Thank you! – Jacob

I’m still very emotional and hate to be overly dramatic, but this weekend could very well have been a literal lifesaver for me.  I’ve really struggled with depression at times from all the guilt, shame, etc.  – to the point of just wanting to give up. – Alan

I’ve learned more and more that group “therapy” is better than loner sorrow. Having a team allows more support to tackle the issues. – Evan

I am hopeful that this conference, along with hard work and the plan, will complete my marriage till death in the eyes of the Lord in the context that God intended it to be and that I have a solid opportunity based on those efforts to become the father to my children and most importantly the man that God has called me to be, Christ like and God filled. – Kevin 

This workshop has been a true gift from God.  I have been dealing with sexual addiction to pornographic material since I saw my first nude pictures when I was a teenager. I am now closing in on 60 and find I am still battling the same base problem, with a greater frequency as the result of the instant access provided by the internet. I was deeply touched by Tina’s story and openly wept as she related her feelings of inadequacy and despair.  I saw in Tina my own wife of almost 35 years.  The hurt and pain I caused her grieve me deeply. I am hopeful that the tools of vehicle of accountability will help me repair my relationship with my wife and my Lord. – Earnest

After feeling reluctant to come here, I am so glad I came.  I now feel confident that I have the tools needed to go into the battle against my addiction and come out victorious . . .  especially with the help of my “Band of Brothers”.  Thank you!! – Tim

If you would like help with your battle for sexual integrity, please call 800-NEW-LIFE (639-5433), we can help.

Redeeming Power Of Love

Faith in God’s transforming power means you have hope in His redeeming love. People struggle to imagine a love that doesn’t regard actions or attitudes’men especially struggle to understand this type of love. Our love is so often a response to the conditions surrounding it that using the word unconditional to describe it, to describe love, seems like an oxymoron.

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But with God, it’s not. God’s love for you is beyond human understanding; you simply can’t grasp it. Yet that doesn’t stop it from transforming your heart, your mind, and your entire life.

It’s hard sometimes to understand how much God loves me or why He loves me. But the idea that He loves those we consider our enemies just doesn’t make any sense at all. Yet that just shows the depth and extent of God’s love.

When you place your hope in a love of such magnitude and manner, you’ll finally see that whatever sin you’ve committed, whatever evil has been done to you, or whatever good thing life has taken from you can be used by God for good.

You can’t redeem your own life. Redemption isn’t pulling yourself up by your own spiritual bootstraps.  Aside from the fact that it’s utterly futile, it doesn’t glorify God. On the contrary, it insults Him. God is ready and willing for you to accept His gracious work of redemption. The only thing He requires is that you receive Jesus Christ with the open hands of faith. It’s a simple act of surrender.

Two Great New Reads

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On the radio today, Steve Arterburn mentioned and recommended two great new books: Rethink How You Think by Dr. David Stoop and Forgiving our Fathers and Mothers by Leslie Leyland Fields and Dr. Jill Hubbard. 

Rethink How You Think:

Ready to change your life forever? Rethink How You Think shows you the true way to lasting change–the renewing of your mind. Bestselling author Dr. David Stoop explains how you can move from:

  • fear to love
  • resentment to gratitude
  • lust to purity
  • idolatry to contentment
  • mistrust to trust
  • loneliness to connection

Through faithful meditation on Scripture and with God’s help, you can permanently change your life–starting right now. Purchase a copy here!

Forgiving Our Mothers and Fathers

“If our families are to flourish, we will need to learn and practice ways of forgiving those who have had the greatest impact upon us: our mothers and fathers.”Do you struggle with the deep pain of a broken relationship with a parent?Leslie Leyland Fields and Dr. Jill Hubbard invite you to walk with them as they explore the following questions:

  • What does the Bible say about forgiveness? Why must we forgive at all?
  • How do we honor those who act dishonorably toward us, especially when those people are as influential as our parents? Can we ever break free from the “sins of our fathers”?
  • What does forgiveness look like in the lives of real parents and children? Does forgiveness mean I have to let an estranged parent back into my life? Is it possible to forgive a parent who has passed away?

Through the authors’ own compelling personal stories combined with a fresh look at the Scriptures, Forgiving Our Fathers and Mothers illustrates and instructs in the practice of authentic forgiveness, leading you away from hate and hurt toward healing, hope, and freedom. Get your copy here!

Surrendering our Comfort

Surrendering our Comfort

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We live in a culture of wanting to be constantly comfortable, we want to be colder, warmer, fuller . . . on this Ash Wednesday and as we count down the days to Easter, let us consider the great sacrifice of our Savior and instead of forfeiting or giving up things, let us look at it instead  as a surrendering . . . a surrendering of our comfort. Listen to this short clip from Brooke on how she learned to surrender her comfort.

The Value of Connection

Connected HandsAn important aspect of dependency is that it teaches us that relationship is the most important thing in the universe. Connection is really the deepest value in God’s heart.

He constructed everything, and He Himself exists, in terms of relationship: ‘God is love‘ (John 4:16). When you allow dependent feelings and stances in life, you begin to live life the way God intended it. Relationship is not only a means to an end; it is an end in itself.

Closeness to God and others is what life is all about. Life has meaning, fulfillment and purpose in relationship. Some people have never experienced relationship as a good thing in their lives. For example, you may see dependency as being weak and vulnerable, or have fears of abandonment. Or you may have been so disconnected that there appears to be no real value in connection. Where there is no hunger, it is hard to value dependency.

As you work through these difficulties, you can learn to experience closeness as something not only good for you, but as the ‘highest good’ experience and position that God provides for us. In addition, becoming close to God and others is one of the major factors enabling you to be able to give up things you are in bondage to, such as addictions, destructive feelings and poor relationships.

‘LOVE NEVER FAILS!’ (I Cor. 13:8)

Do you need help getting connected? Join us at one of our Weekend Workshops, you will laugh, learn, and by God’s grace  be transformed.

Necessity of Boundaries: 5 Ways to Develop Boundaries

Necessity of Boundaries: 5 Ways to Develop Boundaries

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No one has perfect boundaries. At times we all take on what’s not ours, or don’t take on what is ours. God has provided help in repairing and developing our broken boundary-setting abilities. Just as we need to exercise and work with an atrophied leg after it comes out of its cast, setting appropriate boundaries is an ability we must learn. Here are some ways to develop boundaries:

1. Ask God to help you become a truth-teller, even of hard truths. Proverbs 10:18 tells us ‘He who conceals hatred has lying lips.’ Often, people with shaky boundaries may feel resentful about the supposed power of others over them, not realizing they have surrendered that power to them. When people with shaky boundaries begin to feel like they don’t have choices, they will also feel angry and resentful. Often the first step to reclaiming their ‘brand’ is to admit the anger to themselves, God, and others.

2. Find people who celebrate your separateness. ‘As iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another’ (Proverbs 27:17). Separateness helps relationships. It isn’t possible to learn to develop boundaries in isolation with unsupportive people. When we try, we repeat our original boundary injury. That is, we find ourselves in a controlling relationship with an unsupportive person and attempt to set a limit on the relationship. The person rejects it, and we find ourselves alone. Most of us would choose being in a bad relationship rather than no relationship. We need to find maturing, caring people who will respect our boundaries just as much as they love our attachment.

3. Practice disagreement. Truth telling always involves differing opinions. You can’t find out who you really are without first knowing who you aren’t. A sign that you’re beginning to set boundaries is that you will rock some boats. There’s most likely a problem if no one ever reacts negatively to you.

Jesus said, ‘Woe to you when all men speak well of you, for in the same way their fathers used to treat the false prophets’ (Luke 6:26). It’s a disconcerting thought that for us to recover spiritually, some people will probably get upset with us! Yet these are usually people who have a difficult time relating to adults with boundaries of their own.

4. Take responsibility for your mistakes. People with boundary problems sometimes see themselves as out of control of their lives. They feel helpless to change their own problems and others’ treatment of them. This can lead to a blaming or rationalizing attitude. ‘If I can’t control my life, then my problems aren’t my fault,’ might go the thinking. Taking stewardship over your life means learning to admit when your problems are the result of your irresponsibility rather than finding excuses. People who ‘own’ their problems tend to mature much faster than those who excuse or transfer blame. The excuser has nothing to fix, and consequently, no opportunity to grow.

5. Learn to respect others’ separateness. One indication of a boundary deficit is an inability to live with the ‘no’ of another.

I once worked with a couple that experienced this problem. Every time the wife disagreed with the husband, he would head toward the door exclaiming. ‘That’s it! ‘the marriage isn’t going to work out.’ Panicked, she would chase after him and apologize for the ‘sin’ of having an opinion. When we learn to accept another’s boundaries, we are saying, in effect, ‘If you don’t give me what I want, God and I will find another way to get my need met.’ It keeps the other person out of a position of indispensability, which is actually a form of idolatry. If our need to be understood, listened to, or loved can’t or won’t be met by the person we’d like, we are to find someone else to help meet that need. That’s why there is a multiplicity of believers in the Body of Christ: when one friend is busy, we are to call on another. This allows us to support the boundary-setting freedom of others in the way we’d like to. If we want others to accept our freedom, we must respect theirs.

Excerpted from “Hiding From Love” by John Townsend

Son of God Movie Opens in Theaters Today!

Don’t miss this wonderful movie opening in theaters today. The movie Son of God is produced by Mark Burnett, the producer of the hit television shows, Survivor, The Voice and Shark Tank.