A Book every Adult Child should Read

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A book that every adult child should read, Forgiving our Fathers and Mothers by Leslie Leyland Fields and Dr. Jill Hubbard. Tune in tomorrow and hear all about this wonderful book.

Here are a few great quotes from the book:

The abused loved the abuser and made sure he had a bed at night, meals every day, gifts at Christmas, and phone calls when he was alone, though he had done none of this for her, for any of us.

We can break free from the sins that so crippled our parents and their parents before them, however far back it goes. We can end the cycle ourselves with God’s enabling. Yes, our children will leave our homes saddled with our imperfections and gaps as parents. And they will go on to have children with whom they struggle. It is inevitable that every generation will do so—this is the human family. But this inevitability only highlights the constant, daily offering of forgiveness from God.

Our parents did not send us on our way with a blessing, but we can bless them as they leave. And in doing so we begin a new legacy . . .

“My major wound was trying to figure out why my mom didn’t care about me. Why she didn’t show love, even in her late years.” He accepted that she’d had psychological issues that prevented her from mothering him. But he still believed in the commandment to honor his mother, despite the fact that she hadn’t honored him, and to forgive her.

Those who have hurt us may not repent—ever. They may not change in any way. They may continue to be hateful and hurtful. We still may not be able to trust them . . . but nothing need stop you from living out the command God has given for the good of the whole human family: “Honor your father and mother.”

God’s ways are not our ways, nor are His views of healing. Even in Jesus’ day, people wanted a glorious savior, not a suffering servant.

What does it mean, then, to forgive our parents? It means we let them go; we erase the debts they owe us. We wipe out their accounts.

We extract what we want from one another, and even more from God. Yet we keep on taking, until we take His place entirely in our own lives . . . . But the Father absorbs the cost of our rebellion and comes after us. He longs for us. He pursues us and while we are yet a long way off, turning toward home, our father sees us and, swelled with compassion, runs to us and throws His arms around us.

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Testimony from Karen | Healing is a Choice

If you missed Karen’s testimony on the show yesterday, you can listen to it here:

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If you are considering attending our Healing is a Choice workshop, here’s Ten Reasons why you should attend.

Paying it Forward

Paying it Forward

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When we offer our New Life workshops (Healing is a Choice, Every Man’s Battle, Women in the Battle, Marriage Solution Weekend, Lose It For Life) we hire the counselors to facilitate the groups, we hire the speakers (other than myself) to come speak, we bring staff with us to coordinate all that happens at the weekends, we pay for staff, speakers and counselors to travel to the workshop, we put them up in the workshop hotel for two/three nights, we pay for meals for staff and speakers, and at a couple of the workshops we pay for meals for the attendees. We arrange for the meeting rooms, we ship Audio/Visual and other equipment back and forth, we print program books, we create and pay to air commercials and radio time to promote the workshops . . . in short, there’re a lot of expenses to make a workshop happen.  This is why we charge a registration fee for someone to attend.

Because the registration fee can be out of reach for some folks, and we don’t want money to be a reason someone can’t come to one of our weekend workshops, we created a “Scholarship Fund.” That fund is a general scholarship fund that reaches across to all our workshops.

When someone requests a scholarship, we ask for the potential recipient to complete a scholarship application so we can understand and document the need.  On a rare occasion, if the need isn’t there, we may decline a request, but in the vast majority of cases, the need is affirmed and we do what we can to offer assistance.

And, we always ask the applicant what they can afford to pay towards the workshop.  We like to see some sort of investment from a scholarship recipient, whatever the recipient feels he/she can afford–$50 . . . $100 . . . or maybe more.

I’m telling you all this because it’s a great thing that we’ve started—both the workshops and the Scholarship Fund!

Last year, we granted $134,621 in scholarships for hurting folks who were looking for healing and restoration. Why, just last month at our Lose it for Life workshop, 20 attendees received some form of scholarship from New Life.  Twenty individuals who were hurting and looking for help found it, because someone like you was willing to financially support New Life’s Scholarship Fund.  Donate to our scholarship fund TODAY!  And several of those folks stood up on Sunday morning and shared what the weekend meant to them with comments like, “This weekend saved my life,” “I came here down and depressed only to prove I was beyond hope, but I leave here full of hope, connection and a renewed relationship with God!”, expressing gratitude for those who made it possible for them to attend through their gifts to the Scholarship Fund. Read about what some scholarship recipients wrote about their experience at our most recent workshop! We are a gracious people at New Life, and have instructed those who review and approve Scholarships to be generous in so doing.  We believe it’s what God would desire, and we believe that God’s Spirit will move your heart to give towards our Scholarship Fund so we can help more people than ever before find life transformation—the “Renewing of your mind,” that Paul writes of in Romans 12:2.

Nothing you can do is as direct a gift to the hurting and often desperate individual looking for that renewed mind, than a gift to New Life’s Scholarship Fund.

If you are sensing God’s nudging and can give joyfully, I ask you to make a gift to our Scholarship Fund today. Thank you in advance for your generous financial support.

Gratefully yours,

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Ten Reasons You should Attend our Healing is a Choice Workshop

If you have been thinking about attending our Healing is a Choice Workshop we wanted to give you a few more reasons to think about.

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1. If you can’t figure out what is not working in your life and you are losing hope.

2. If you are stuck in a situation or relationship, have tried everything and nothing is helping.

3. If you want to transform your brokenness into a real life mission.

4. If you have had angry outbursts and feel out of control. Discover why you are angry and what you can do about it.

5. If you have experienced grief over a tremendous loss (death of a loved one, abortion, job loss, financial loss) and  feel like you’ll never recover.

6. Is your life crippled by fear? If you feel anxious and are unable to find relief, if you want to break free from the “what ifs”.

7. If you have experienced abuse or neglect and are unable to fully heal. If you want to begin to peel the onion of unforgiveness and set your heart free.

8. If you want to break free from your shame and guilt, become fully alive and experience God’s grace!

9. If you feel like your dreams get derailed? Sometimes a pattern of attitudes, habits or relationships won’t allow you to move forward.

10.  If you disappointed with God, feel let down and would you like to move forward?

Here’s what Wendy had to say about her Healing is a Choice experience.

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More testimonies . . . 

Steve Arterburn offers help to an out of control teen

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“In a recent radio broadcast, Steve Arterburn, bestselling Christian author and host of the nationally syndicated call-in radio and TV show “New Life Live,” discussed what he calls “Bieber Brain” and offered some advice to the young singer whose escapades are threatening to derail his career, if not his life.” You can read all about it here.

 

Healing Choices

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Getting To the ‘Why?’
Are there some things you’re doing that are causing you to be separated from others and from the life you could be enjoying? Are there areas of your life that are full of conflict and struggle that you wish would just go away? Have you ever walked away from a conversation or even a fight wondering why you did what you did or said what you said? Almost everyone has, but not everyone goes through the pain and struggle of getting to the ‘why’ behind the choices that are causing problems, conflict, and emotional turmoil. We heal our lives as we begin to search for truth about why we do what we do and why we feel the way we feel.

Open Up Your Life
The Bible challenges us to take a look inside: ‘Let us examine our ways’ (Lam. 3:40). Our ways are our habits, conflicts, character traits, and the patterns in our relationships. You may think you’re fully aware of all aspects of your being, but you’re not. There are some areas that have mysteries to be solved that you can’t solve on your own, because you can’t see the problem. You’re completely blind to the reality of what is there, and the only way you’ll be able to ‘see’ is with the help of others. They’ll help you uncover the truth that you would probably deal with if you just knew it was there. But before you ask for help with what you don’t see, open yourself up with your own scalpel and take a look at what you do see. Taking that look is called many things. It’s called self-examination by some, and self-confrontation by others. It involves taking your life and holding it up to the light of truth and seeing what’s there. Many Twelve Step and recovery groups call it ‘taking a searching and fearless moral inventory. ‘Spend some time looking at and reflecting upon your faults and defects. Write them down, and see what they reveal about you.

At Least One Other Person
Once you’ve examined yourself, take the thoughts you’ve collected and share them with another person who loves you, is wise, keeps confidences, and is committed to helping you become the best person you can be. Tell that person you want honest feedback. Let him or her know you can handle the truth, and invite that person to share it with you. As you go through life you want to be sure there is at least one other person who has heard you confess your sins and shortcomings. You need to be sure at least one other person’s heard your full story warts and all. You also need to be sure that there’s at least one other person who’s praying for you. Satan is real, and there’s a supernatural warfare going on right now. Prayer is a supernatural means of fighting the enemy that wants nothing less than the complete worst for you. Make certain that you’re also praying. Pray that God will reveal all things to you that you need to know to grow more like Him. Prayer is a supernatural tool to uncover your blind spots that hinder growth.

The Big Lie
The big lie you might use or others might throw at you is that is does no good to look back or look inside. When you mess up or so this line of thinking goes you just pick yourself up and move on. We’re to ‘press on’ according to Scripture, and looking back is less than pressing on. Yet truly pressing on requires us to throw off any encumbrance that would weigh us down and prevent us from achieving what God has called us to. Guilt, shame, remorse, anger, rage, anxiety, and fear from your past are precisely the encumbrances you need to throw off. Do the work, and don’t listen to anyone who would tell you it’s destructive. Become a student of yourself. Know yourself so that you can come to know all God has planned for you, and so that you can live faithfully and fruitfully within that plan. Healing is a choice. It’s God’s choice, but there are choices that we can make to ensure we experience the healing God has in store for us. Healing is a choice to discover the truth about yourself and solve the mysteries that lie within. Today is a great day to begin to heal or grow deeper in your healing by discovering new truth about yourself.

Excerpted from the book Healing is a Choice by Steve Arterburn

We can help, call us at 800-NEW-LIFE (639-5433). Consider attending our Healing is a Choice Workshop. Testimonies from previous workshop attendees

What are Safe Relationships?

What are Safe Relationships?

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I (John) have a fitness fanatic friend named Mark who evangelizes me on the gospel of health whenever he has a chance. He’s a lovable guy, but he’s the kind who always finds a way to change the conversation to exercise, diet, and vitamins.

We were having breakfast one day, and he began talking about his struggles with his wife, Diane. They were going through a painful period and having lots of conflict. Instead of giving advice, I listened and tried to understand what Mark was going through.

As we talked, he expressed everything from sadness to frustration to anxiety. By the time we finished, however, his face had relaxed, and he could actually smile and joke around.

‘You look like you’re feeling better,’ I said.

‘Absolutely, I’m more encouraged’, Mark said. ‘Wheat toast, fruit, and herbal tea make me a new man’! Then he looked at me and grinned sheepishly. ‘Uh, and it might have helped to have someone to talk to,’ he admitted.

Though Mark wasn’t sure about that fact, I am. What happened at breakfast is that I acted as a safe person for Mark to confide in. Just as surely as we were taking in our breakfast to sustain us physically, so we were talking to sustain ourselves emotionally. We were enjoying the great benefits of a safe relationship.

What is a safe relationship?

We like to think of a safe relationship as one that does three things:

1. Draws us closer to God.

2. Draws us closer to others.

3. Helps us become the real person God created us to be.

The Bible refers to these three areas of spiritual growth. We fulfill the greatest commandment, to love God (Matt. 22:37-28). We keep the second commandment, to love each other (Matt. 22:39). And we grow into the particular person that God created us to be, accomplishing the tasks he has designed for us (Eph. 2:10).

When we asked people to describe a ‘safe person’ to us, they gave us these descriptions:

A person who accepts me just like I am.

A person who loves me no matter how I am being or what I do.

A person whose influence develops my ability to love and be responsible.

Someone who creates love and good works within me.

Someone who gives me an opportunity to grow.

Someone I can be myself around.

Someone who allows me to be on the outside what I am on the inside.

Someone who helps me to deny myself for others and God.

Someone who allows me to become the me that God intended.

Someone who helps me become the me God sees in me.

Someone who touches my life and draws me closer to who God created me to be.

Someone who helps me be like Christ.

Someone who helps me to love others more.

We would all want people in our lives that help us in these ways. But the problem is, how do we recognize them? What do they look like?

We all struggle on different sides on the ‘safe relationship’ issue. Some do not even think we need relationships with other people. They think the Lord is enough and that you should only trust in him. Others think that they must depend only on themselves. Still others believe that the Bible teaches the value of relationships, but then they find themselves in hurtful relationships over and over again. They pick hurtful friends, spouses, churches, work partners, spiritual leaders, and dating relationships. They seem to not have the ability to find and like safe people. Having a seemingly astounding talent for finding people that will ultimately hurt them, they repeat patterns over and over again, and then become discouraged about relationships in general.

So for us to begin to utilize safe relationships, we need to first understand what a safe person is and why we need that kind of safety. The best example of a safe person is found in Jesus. In him are found the three qualities of a safe person; dwelling, grace, and truth.

As John wrote: ‘The Word became flesh and lived for awhile among us. We have seen his glory, the glory of the one and the only Son, who came from the Father, full of grace and truth’ (John 1:14).

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Surround yourself with safe people at one of our weekend workshops. Our check out some of our excellent resources.

Forgiveness: The Great Mandate

Excerpted from Healing is a Choice by Stephen Arterburn.

Often we look for loopholes in the biblical mandate to forgive. Don’t you? Don’t you find yourself asking, ‘Is it always appropriate to forgive?’ According to Ephesians 4:31-32 it is: ‘Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every other form of malice. Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ, God forgave you.’

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‘But,’ we hasten to reply, ‘is it always appropriate to forgive and forgive again?’ Yes. Matthew 18:21-22 tells us to forgive seven times seventy times. It wasn’t written to allow a person to hold a grudge upon the 491st infraction. It’s there to say you must continue forgiving an infinite number of times, never allowing yourself to be trapped in resentment and bitterness.

The choices to grieve, forgive, and let go are powerful forces for developing a life free from the past. They’re the stepping-stones to all sorts of possibilities and potentialities. Some of us don’t experience those possibilities and potentialities because we get hung up and stalled out by hazards and detours along the path of forgiveness. Here are three such hazards and detours that I think are among the most common.

The first hazard revolves around the ‘why’ of forgiveness. Friends, the reason you forgive isn’t to let the other person off the hook; it’s to get you unhooked! You forgive so you can move on. Every moment spent holding a grudge traps you in an event that happened too long ago for you to continue harboring.

There was a time when the medical profession avoided the topic of forgiveness. It thought forgiveness should be handled in and by the religious community. Even the field of psychiatry was uncomfortable with looking too closely at forgiveness because it was considered an issue of faith. But today forgiveness is widely studied in the clinical field. In the last eight years, the number of published studies on the topic of forgiveness has grown from fifty-eight to over twelve hundred.

In May 2004, an article by Erica Goode appeared in the New York Times entitled, ‘To Err May Be Human; To Forgive Is Good for You.’ The article focused on the research of psychotherapist Dr. Robert Karen on the damage done to the human body when people don’t forgive. Based upon his research, Karen said, ‘if the offense becomes this gnawing resentment that lives with you, then you have never gotten over being a victim. And in that way not forgiving can be a horrible thing for the person who does not forgive.’

In other words, the medical community is now coming to accept what the psalmist was intimately acquainted with nearly three thousand years ago. He said his ‘body wasted away’ (Ps. 32:3) under the effects of guilt, resentment, sin, and silence.

Human beings are an integration of body and spirit. If you’re a Christian, this means that your faith and obedience to Jesus Christ directly impacts your physical wellness. Don’t let the spiritual cancer of unforgiveness cause you physical harm.

The second potential hazard I want to make you aware of involves trying to discern whether or not a person wants or deserves to be forgiven. Steer clear of this one! If you wait for them to want it, you’ll be wasting your life waiting for something that may never happen. The hardness of another’s heart isn’t an excuse for you to harden yours. Don’t listen to the big lie that forgiveness should be given only to those who earn it or deserve it. None of us deserve it. It’s a gracious gift from God. His Son, Jesus Christ, did the outrageous – the unfathomable: he obtained your forgiveness by taking on your sin and bearing its punishment in your place. God’s zeal to forgive has put you in a position where you too can be a champion of forgiveness that is, a peacemaker. The other party’s emotional state or attitude should have nothing to do with either your plans to forgive, or your desire to be forgiven. Forgive freely, even in the face of another’s ongoing ignorance or denial of the pain they’ve caused. Forgive from the heart so your heart can be free.

And let me say this about the desire to be forgiven: you never know what a simple request for forgiveness might do for another person. People’s lives have been changed because someone like you took a risk and asked for forgiveness. Your risk may plant a seed of healing in another person’s life. Asking someone to forgive you, even if it’s for your reaction to the way they hurt you, may be just the act of humility and grace needed to initiate healing in another’s life.

The third and final hazard I’ll discuss involves resentment. Many of us harbor resentments, yet all resentments aren’t equal. Petty resentments are problematic, but justifiable resentments are outright lethal.

Let me explain. A justifiable resentment isn’t about something petty. It’s about real and horrible mistreatment. It’s about a real-life event that anyone would consider terribly wrong, and most would say you’re completely justified in feeling the way you do about it. All evidence supports your anger, bitterness, and unwillingness to forgive. Frankly, the perpetrator doesn’t deserve it, and few want him or her to receive it.

Nobody questions your feelings. That’s precisely the problem. Everyone feels horrible for you, so it’s easy to feel entitled to your resentment. Most people would, but as a child of God, you can’t.

Although it’s difficult to imagine, you can be free from justifiable resentment. You can let it go and experience the healing power of forgiveness. You can choose to heal that troubled area of your soul by choosing to walk the path of forgiveness. If you do, something amazing will happen: one day you’ll awaken to realize everything in your life has changed. You’ll sense you’re no longer rooted in your past. You’ll realize what once dominated your life and inner thoughts no longer determines how you live. You won’t forget what happened, but it’ll be more like the magnitude of a fly you swoosh away; nothing compared to the vulture now perched on your head.

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Hope for the Broken Marriage

(A ‘broken marriage’ – in the context I am writing – is one damaged by sexually inappropriate conduct.)

mended-heartThere are a growing number of broken marriages in the United States today. Men, and a rapidly increasing number of women, are falling prey to the schemes of pornographers and a culture saturated in sexual gratification at the expense of moral integrity. These couples regularly lie to each other in order to keep their sin a secret. The more they lie the further they drift apart emotionally. The further apart they drift the wider the crevice of brokenness expands. Given enough time, the chasm between them seems an insurmountable obstacle. Thus, many couples who eventually wake up to the reality of their broken marriage feel they have fallen too far apart for any reasonable expectation of real healing and reconciliation.

As more and more broken couples reach out for help, too many are not finding what they really need to rebuild their relationship. Why? No one seems to be offering them the foundational element of long-term healing: hope. A host of well-intentioned counselors and pastors see a hurting, broken couple sitting on the couch in their office and immediately begin strategizing the best techniques to remedy the numerous problems of communication, finances, or sex they might be facing. What is wrong with this approach? Without casting a vision of hope, the counselor or pastor is simply offering a band aid as the solution for the gaping wound in the broken marriage. Broken marriages need hope for long-term healing and restoration.

There are many challenges to assisting spouses in a broken marriage to embrace hope. First, trust is always damaged in a broken marriage, and as such each spouse is reluctant to move toward the other for fear of being wounded even more deeply. Second, most couples suffering broken marriages have little, if any, ability to communicate well with one another. They have each learned to place their own interests first, thus making communication a tool to manipulate his/her spouse to achieve his/her self-centered agenda. Finally, the sheer distance created between spouses through lying and hiding makes it difficult for the couple to imagine closeness as God designed it.

Does it seem like the deck is stacked against the couple in a broken marriage? Only if you believe God is incapable of dealing them a new hand. And this is where hope must be reborn (or birthed for the first time) for those suffering the broken marriage. A couple must believe that God is able to heal, willing to restore, and desirous to make all things new. Spouses in a broken marriage must embrace the truth, individually and as a couple, that God can bring beauty from ashes and breathe life into their ashen relationship. Hope, true hope, is born in the one who begins to expect God to fulfill His promises even when it appears the situation is beyond repair. Hope sees beyond circumstance and anchors itself on the certainty of God’s Word.

So, how does a couple suffering from a broken marriage actually embrace this kind of hope? Surprisingly, this type of hope is gained through brokenness. That’s right. The couple who wakes up one day and realizes the extent to which their marriage has been broken is closer to hope than they might know. But such a realization and appropriation of hope cannot come without outside intervention and guidance.

Most couples can experience brokenness without any help from anybody else. In fact, it comes naturally to those who allow sexual sin to infiltrate their union. But hope, healing, and a rebuilt marriage must involve external influence. Of course, there must be the touch of God if true and lasting healing is to occur. But there must also be the instruction and guidance of wise counselors and friends to help a broken marriage be rebuilt. Without such influence the probability of the couple drifting back to old patterns of deception and self-centeredness is virtually certain.

In choosing those to counsel the broken couple, the determining factor is truth. Invite truth-tellers in; reject falsehood. How can such a broken couple determine what is the truth and what isn’t? Through the benchmark of truth, God’s Word. God never lies. Never. If particular counsel does not match up with God’s Word, it is not good for the healing of the broken marriage. And such false instruction does more to damage hope than to encourage it. Truth, though it may require painful self-examination, will always lead to the path of freedom. And freedom (from deception, bitterness, fear, and self-centeredness) is exactly what the broken marriage needs in order to rebuild to a healthy, whole, ‘oneness’ union.

Why is hope so important in this process of healing the broken marriage? Because without hope it is easy to become discouraged. Healing a broken marriage is not easy. It takes time, sacrifice, endurance, and hard work. When the road gets bumpy it is hope that reminds the couple that their efforts will not be in vain. It is hope that reminds them that God is good, patient, and loving even when this appears not to be true. And it is hope that encourages the couple that what they are working toward will be more beautiful than anything they had in the past. This is the importance of hope for the broken marriage.

God promises a good return for those who invest in seeking hope. Amazingly, the Bible even tells us that we can ‘rejoice in our sufferings.’ Why? Because ‘suffering produces perseverance; perseverance, character; and character, hope. And hope does not disappoint us, because God has poured out his love into our hearts by the Holy Spirit, whom he has given us.’ (Rom. 5:3-5) The benefit to pressing through the suffering of a broken marriage and pursuing hope to rebuild is that the love of God will increasingly abound. True love, true intimacy, and true joy can be experienced even by those whose marriages have been broken by sexual lust and unfaithfulness.

If you are living in a broken marriage, begin today to ask God to lead you and your spouse to hope. Keep a watchful eye for wise counselors and friends who can help you persevere, build character, and invest in hope. The small steps you take today toward a new attitude of hope will produce long-term benefits that far outweigh the current momentary sacrifice. And even if circumstances do not progress in the manner or time frame you expect, you can know that the hope you gain in Christ is not in vain because movement toward God is always movement in the right direction.

‘May the God of all hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit.’
(Rom. 15:13)

We would like to help you in your journey of finding hope and healing. Please consider attending our upcoming Marriage Solution Workshop or getting a copy of some of our resources. Read what previous attendees of our Marriage Solution Workshop are saying. Call us on 800-NEW-LIFE (639-5433), we can help.

Healing Your Past and Future

Excerpted from “Healing Is A Choice” by Steve Arterburn

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Healing Your Past and Your Future
“I tell you the truth, you will weep and mourn while the world rejoices. You will grieve, but your grief will turn to joy” (John 16:20). The pain felt now removes the curse of pain in the future. It’s resolved and no longer needs to be fed, minded, or protected. Disconnected alienation is traded for a feeling of connection, belonging, and community. Dependency on your own resources and survival tactics are traded for a trust in God and a dependency on Him. Old feelings and old ways are traded for a new life.

Defenses and Pretenses
How will you know you’re making progress at truly working through grief rather than just digging up old hurts and dwelling needlessly upon the past? You’ll recognize progress when you find yourself giving up some of your defenses and defensiveness. We protect ourselves from more pain when we’ve not really faced our grief. We arrange our lives so we won’t have to endure more than we think we can bear, and we defend our ground by not allowing others to speak truth into our lives. If they try, we push them away.

When losses are grieved we become more willing to listen and hear the truth. We’re able to live through the vulnerability of connection, so we’re less inclined to present ourselves as something other than we really are. The little lies that deflect people from the real life we’re living are no longer required. We have no need to hide behind the old facades that protected us from hurt but prevented us from knowing the life God had for us.

The Big Lie
The big lie is that time will heal your deep wounds that one day, if you just bide your time, you’ll awaken and feel better. In fact, just the opposite is true. The longer we live with untreated wounds, the greater the potential for infection. We want to believe we just need time, but what we need is time well spent. How you mark your time can be the most powerful healing choice you can make. Will you spend your time alone and hurting? If you do, there’s not much chance that the wounded mind that got you there is going to help you out. That mind will just drive you further and further away from where you could be from where God wants you to be. Refuse to believe or live in the lie that time is going to heal you.

Cleansing Power
The psalmist said, ‘I weep with grief; my heart is heavy with sorrow’ (Psalm. 119:18). He wasn’t just shedding tears. He was cleansing his past and healing his future. He was letting go of what was and what might’ve been, and reaching for what is and what is to be. In this deep cleansing process we reach a point where we’re able to let go of the past, of unmet expectations, and of a concept of God where He’s supposed to protect us from all hurts and pain. In the deepest forms of grieving we let go and we find healing.

Healing is a choice. It’s God’s choice, but we can make choices that allow the healing He has for us to be manifested in our lives. Healing is a choice to let go of our past hurts by grieving them, and grieving is a choice to heal the future.

If you are ready to choose healing, we can help. Call us today at 800-NEW-LIFE (639-5433). Consider attending our Healing our Choice Workshop or reading a copy of the Healing is a Choice book. To see how this workshop has changed others, click here.