The 19 Foot Spinning Jesus

The 19 Foot Spinning Jesus

The preface of Henry Cloud’s new book is called “The 19 foot Spinning Jesus.” So are you intrigued? Join Steve Arterburn and Dr. Henry Cloud and listen as Henry shares the back story to this interesting phrase. In this segment Henry also  introduces us to the concepts of his new book, Never Go Back – 10 Things You’ll Never Do Again.

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Betrayal Blindness

Betrayal Blindness

Sometimes when we’ve been betrayed, whether an unfaithful spouse, or abusive authority figure or corrupt institution, we refuse to see the truth in order to protect ourselves. Dr. Sheri Keffer joins Steve Arterburn to discuss this phenomenon of denial. Click on the image below to watch.


The Controller and the Victim

Stress, Intimacy and Attachment Styles – The Controller and the Victim

In this final segment of “Turning Stress into Opportunities for Intimacy,” Kay and Milan Yerkovich, authors of the book, How We Love, tackle the rigid, dominating focus of the “Controller” and the compliant style of the “Victim,” and how they handle stress and goals for their growth. Click on the image below to watch.

Descriptions on images are excerpted from the book, How we Love.




Suffering and Character

Suffering and Character: 10 Ways God Uses Suffering in Our Lives


1. Suffering enables you to honor God.
Your words, actions, and attitudes paint a picture of your relationship with God. They can bring Him either honor or dishonor. They can be either a good example to others or a bad one. Do you remember what Job said when his family and all his worldly goods were suddenly gone? The Lord gave and the Lord has taken away. Blessed be the name of the Lord (Job 1:21; see also 1 Peter 1:6-7).

2. Suffering demonstrates God’s power.
It’s only when you are weak’that is, not dependent upon yourself’that you can be strong in Christ. Most gladly, therefore, I will rather boast about my weakness, wrote the apostle Paul, that the power of Christ may dwell in me’for when I am weak, then I am strong (2 Corinthians 12:9-10).

3. Suffering allows God to give His grace.
Three times Paul asked God to remove his thorn in the flesh. God’s answer was My grace is sufficient for you (2 Corinthians 12:8-9; see also 1 Corinthians 15:10; Ephesians 4:7; Philippians 2:13; 1 Peter 5:10).

4. Suffering prepares you to help others.
In 2 Corinthians 1:3-5, Paul tells the believers at Corinth that God is the God of all comfort and that they share not only His sufferings, but also His comfort. Because God will comfort you in the midst of your suffering, you will be able to comfort others with the same comfort and give them hope. In other words, it’s those who have been wounded that make the best healers.

5. Suffering helps build character.
Think of one person you admire deeply. Why do think that person has such great character? Often, though not always, the people with the greatest character have experienced tragedies or walked a path of suffering. Their life experiences have shaped them into something quite beautiful. How does this happen? Paul wrote to the believers in Rome: We also exult in our tribulations, knowing that tribulation brings about perseverance; and perseverance, proven character; and, proven character hope; and hope does not disappoint, because the love of God has been poured out within our hearts through the Holy Spirit who has been given to us (Romans 5:3-5).

6. Suffering encourages you to trust God.
Children trust more easily than adults do. Too often, children grow up to be self-sufficient, independent adults who don’t ‘need’ God in their lives. Yet, Jesus reminded His disciples that the king of heaven belongs to children (Matthew 19:14), and God calls us to be imitators of God, as beloved children (Ephesians 5:1). In 2 Corinthians 1:9-10, Paul makes it very clear that he needed God and that he trusted in Him: Indeed, we had the sentence of death within ourselves in order that we should not trust in ourselves, but in God who raises the dead; who delivered us from so great a peril of death, and will deliver us, He on whom we have set our hope. And He will yet deliver us.

7. Suffering helps you learn to thank God and praise Him in everything.
First Thessalonians 5:16, 18 tells us to: Rejoice always’in everything give thanks; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus. Without a doubt, this is a hard task! Margaret Clarkson suggests a few ways to praise God in the midst of suffering: Praise God for Himself, His sovereignty, wisdom, never-failing mercies and compassion, love, grace, holiness, justice, and power. She recommends meditating on Scripture to help cultivate a response of praise.

8. Suffering helps you identify with Christ’s suffering.
How often do you stop to think about how much Christ suffered for you? He died for you while you were still a sinner and saved you from the wrath of God (Romans 5:8-9). Read through the entire chapter of Isaiah 53 and list all the words that describe what Christ suffered for you (for example, pierced, afflicted, forsaken). How does your own suffering change your perspective on what Christ did for you? (Romans 8:17-18; Philippians 1:29, 3:10, 2 Thessalonians 1:5).

9. Suffering helps you partake of God’s holiness.
You have the honor and privilege of sharing in the inheritance of the saints because God the Father has qualified you (Colossians 1:12). Paul says that he does all things for the sake of the gospel’that he becomes a fellow partaker in sufferings so that he may also partake of the glory that is to be revealed in Christ Jesus (1 Peter 4:12-16; 5:1).

10. Suffering offers you the chance to reflect on God’s discipline.
It is possible that God has allowed this suffering in your life so that you will learn from it. Punishment is not in view here’only a divine, purposeful opportunity for growth and change. God’s discipline, unlike that of an earthly parent, is perfect and will yield the peaceful fruit of righteousness so that you can share in his holiness (Hebrews 12:8-13).

Excerpted from “Life on Hold” by Laurel Seiler Brunvoll and David Seiler, Ph.D

Used by permission of Multnomah Publishers, Inc. Excerpt may not be reproduced without the prior written consent of Multnomah Publishers, Inc.

The Vacillator

Stress, Intimacy and Attachment Styles – The Vacillator

The authors, Milan and Kay Yerkovich of the book, How we Love , discuss the Vacillator.  The idealistic tendencies of the Vacillator are challenges when dealing with stress. In this segment they discuss how Vacillators can overcome obstacles and gain connection.

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The Pleaser

Stress, Intimacy and Attachment Styles – The Pleaser

Milan and Kay Yerkovich, authors of How We Love, talk about how the Pleaser handles stress and how to use that knowledge to change from our established patterns to more healthy ways. Click on the image below to watch.


The Avoider

Stress, Intimacy and Attachment Styles – The Avoider

In Part 2 of our series on “Turning Stress into Opportunities For Intimacy,” Kay & Milan Yerkovich, authors of How We Love, share personal experiences that help define ‘THE AVOIDER’ and teach us how to work with it. Click on the image below to watch.


Stress, Intimacy and Attachment Styles

Stress, Intimacy and Attachment Styles

All human beings have stress, Jesus did when he was on earth. Even infants have stress, and how they attach to their parents can have a big impact on how they handle stress and intimacy later on in life. In part 1 of a six part series with Milan and Kay Yerkovich, we look at the secure attachment types in their look at “Turning Stress into Opportunities for Intimacy.” Click on the image below to watch.


Ten Things I Want Every Survivor of Abuse to Know

Ten Things I Want Every Survivor of Abuse to Know


1. You are older, wiser, stronger and safer now.

2. Forgiveness is a path you must eventually travel down.

3. As it says in Mathew 18:10 – God was aware of your abuse.

4. The person who abused you does not represent others in your life today.

5. Grief work is a huge part of abuse recovery.

6. If you have a tendency to become an abuser, although it would seem to be unlikely, it’s a sign that further work is needed.

7. It was not your fault in any way.

8. Turn things around as soon as you can so you can help others (but see number 9)

9. Give yourself plenty of time to heal.

10. You are not damaged goods. You are pure and clean in the eyes of God.

Bonus Point: We love you here at New Life.

Teen Peer Pressure

Teen Peer Pressure

The term “peer pressure” usually makes us think about our teens being influenced to try negative behaviors, like drinking alcohol, or smoking pot. But teens can pressure each other in positive ways too. In the video below we take a look at both kinds of pressure. Click on the image below to watch.