Identifying the TRUE Hunger Signal!

Janet Carr

The human body is designed to offer signals as to when it needs food
and when enough food has been provided. We define these signals as the
feelings of hunger and fullness. Both are equally important and need to
be honored. Though the concept of ‘feeling hungry’ may seem obvious, it
is important to determine if it is true hunger or emotional hunger. Too often people turn to food because they think it is time to eat, for example ‘ the lunch hour, or due to emotional distress such as feelings of anger, loneliness or hurt. Simply paying attention to physiological cues such as a gurgling stomach, light-headedness or inability to concentrate, can establish if true hunger exists.


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‘Do you turn to food because:
You’re hungry?
It’s time to eat! ‘or’
You’re under emotion distress?’

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If so, then you must give yourself permission to eat and provide your body with what it needs, food containing carbohydrates, protein, fat, etc. Most of all, take time to reasonably consume the food ‘ at least thirty minutes. In other words, give yourself time to enjoy the food as well as giving your brain time to register the activity and your stomach time to engage the digestive process. It is important to achieve a state of fullness, defined as a feeling of being satisfied, but not stuffed. If an appropriate amount of food has been consumed, the sense of fullness should last two to three hours.


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Give yourself TIME to enjoy your food.
Give your brain TIME to register eating.
Give your stomach TIME to digest.

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If it is difficult for you to identify these signals, practice. In just a couple of weeks, you will learn how to adjust food intake according to what your body needs.

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What's in Your Hand?

Dave Boyle

“Then the Lord said to Moses, ‘What is that in your hand?’ ‘A staff,’ he replied. God said, ‘Throw it on the ground.'” – Exodus 4:2 (NIV)

I know what you’re thinking.

You’re wondering what some obscure Old Testament verse has to do with recovery, and particularly recovery in the sexual integrity realm. Well, as we look at it a little more closely, I think you’ll see it has a lot to do with it.

At this point in his life, Moses was a shepherd, and the shepherd’s staff would have been one of the most useful tools he possessed. So first and foremost, it represented his identity. Every shepherd had one, it was the thing that identified them from other people with other occupations. Secondly, it represented his source of income. It was the thing that kept the sheep in line, and that kept them from wandering off or getting into dangerous situations. It was the thing that enabled him to do his job, and earn a living. And thirdly, it represented his influence on other people, as we see later when he uses it to, through God’s power, part the Red Sea. In short, the staff represented the very essence of Moses.

Give me your whole life’
Who you are!
What you do!
How you act!

So when God tells Moses to throw it down on the ground, it’s not just to perform some fancy trick with a snake, it’s a way of saying, ‘I want you to give me your whole life, who you are, what you do, and how you act. I want you to throw it down before me and let me have it, and let me make you into the man I want you to be.’ What’s your identity? Is it the good father and husband at church, but the one who flirts with and can’t keep his eyes off the secretaries at work? God wants you to throw down that which identifies you with sexual impurity; let Him have it, and let Him change you.

Or how about your source of income? Are you in a job that pays well but is adding to your internet pornography struggle that you can’t seem to get a handle on? Afraid to step out in faith that God has a better job somewhere that will boost your recovery rather than hinder it? God wants you to throw it down, let Him have it and let Him change you.

Or how about your sphere of influence? Do you have leadership gifts that you know God has blessed you with, but you can’t seem to break that addiction to prostitutes or massage parlors? You know you could be a good influence over many people, but right now your gifts are just being wasted? God wants you to throw it down, let Him have it and let Him change you.

Throwing down sexual sin
requires one thing:
submission to God.

Throwing down sexual sin requires one thing: submission to God. It requires saying, ‘God, you know best, and I’m going to give it to you.’ And the best way to ‘give it to God’ is to follow the action plan that Joe gave you at Every Man\’s Battle. It requires spending time in God’s Word and in prayer. It requires having an accountability relationship, and a support group of other strugglers. It requires meeting with a spiritual mentor for guidance, and it may require seeing a professional Christian counselor to get at some of the deep-seated wounds that you haven’t felt comfortable dealing with.

Most of all it requires saying, ‘God, everything I am and have is yours, and I throw it down before you, and give it to you.’ Then you’re ready to be sexually pure, and ready to be used in a mighty way by God.

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Working Through Hurts in a Relationship (part 2)

Dottie Pickett

In my article last month, I talked about the first step in working
through hurts in relationships. That step involves identifying your
feelings surrounding a relational situation or event. The next step I
take is to consider what was/is going on in the other person’s life.
Doing this can really add perspective, changing our suspicions and
interpretations, and helping heal our hurts. I had to do this recently when I was feeling ignored by a friend. I had called her several times hoping to get together, but she would never return my calls. Not thinking anything had changed in her life, I wondered why she would snub me now in this way. I assumed her actions were intentional and personal.

However, later I found out from a mutual friend that she was completely overwhelmed. She had recently taken on the P.T.A. presidency of the local school, and on top of that one of her parents had just had a stroke. Knowing this put her failure to respond in perspective, lessening my hurt in the process (though I still had to forgive her and talk with her– steps I’ll discuss in a future articles).


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Fearing failure or rejection,
we are often a struggling bundle of insecurities,
focused on our own survival and protection,
just trying to stay afloat!

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We can really make things more painful for ourselves if we forget that we live in a difficult, fallen world where everyone–no matter how together they seem– is struggling just to survive, emotionally or otherwise. Fearing failure or rejection, we are often a struggling bundle of insecurities, focused on our own survival and protection, trying just to stay afloat. I often draw for my clients a picture of people bobbing in the ocean. A big wave comes, and they begin to flail around. Often the people around them get ‘flailed on.’ Many of the hurts sent our way are unplanned and unintentional. It’s like the difference between self-defense and 1st degree murder.

We get tripped up when we forget this and instead think people always ‘intend’ to hurt us. In other words, our hurt and anger intensifies to the degree that we assign intent to another person. I’m not suggesting that you ignore your feelings, or excuse another’s behavior. Instead I’m suggesting that before you react or pronounce judgment, step back and look at the other person’s life. I call this ‘putting your glasses on.’

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Before you REACT
step back and look
at the other person’s life!

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Christ probably did just this when Mary blamed Him for coming too late to save her dead brother, Lazarus (John 11). Of course Christ had perfect perspective. However, 1 Cor.2:15 &16 says the spiritual man (those walking in the Spirit) have the mind of Christ. Please join me in praying that we will see people and situations with His eyes. Our hurts will be less intense, and we will be in a far better position to love and live with others.

The Way Out!

Henry Cloud

Jeri had been enslaved to binge eating for a long time. Her doctor had
sent her to counseling because he feared for her health. She was very
overweight and had a history of heart disease in her family, and he was
very concerned about her. She had ‘tried’ many times before to control
her eating through dieting. She would initially lose some weight, but eventually she would give up and quit, only to have the weight that she had lost return, with extra pounds on top of it all. Despair had given way to detachment, and she found herself in a lonely pattern, having given up. Yet the doctor had gotten her attention, and she now feared for her very life.


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Need to be cured of the
commitment to dieting?

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When Jeri came to our clinic, the first thing we had to do was ‘cure’ her of her commitment to dieting. She came in mistakenly believing that all she needed to do was to have more commitment and willpower. She believed that if she made a strong enough commitment, then she would be able to manage her eating. This is not how addiction works, however. Jeri had to learn that addiction was by definition the inability to stop. In other words, she had to learn to admit that she was powerless over her addiction and totally helpless to stop. You would think that after gaining a few hundred pounds and after many failed efforts at dieting Jeri would have seen that she did not stand a chance of change by herself. Yet that is part of addiction ‘ the belief that one really is able to overcome the problem.


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What does it mean
to Lean on God?

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Next, Jeri had to learn that she had not truly reached out to God as the Source of power in her life of addiction. She had ‘prayed’ about her problem before, but that is very different than leaning on God as a source of power in the addiction itself. She had to learn that when temptation came, she had to pray and ask God at that moment for the strength to know what to do to flee the temptation.


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Finding strength
through other people.

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Then, she had to learn that God also gives us strength through other people. She began to see that part of the reason she had failed before was that she had tried to go it alone. She had thought because she had joined diet groups emphasizing group support, that she was getting that support. She discovered that in moments of weakness, when she was feeling loneliness or self-pity, she needed to be able to call a few people. She needed a ‘buddy system.’ Here’s her story:

“Well, last night I found myself craving some serious food. I was just about
to give in when I remembered what you had said. There were three things.
First, I needed to reach out to God. So I prayed and asked him to help me
get through it and to show me what was going on. Second, you said that my
cravings were not really for food, but had something to do with how I was
feeling inside. Third, at those times I could not just depend on myself, but had
to reach out to someone else. So, I asked God to help, and then I called
another friend from the support group and told her I was struggling. As we
talked, I began to feel really sad. The more I talked, the sadder I got. I felt
this deep aloneness that I never had felt before. She just told me to keep
talking, and I did. Then, slowly, the feeling went away. And the weird thing
was that after that conversation, I was not hungry anymore, but I hadn’t
eaten anything. I think I am getting it!’

She learned to reach out to God and to a buddy to talk things out rather than using food to make herself feel better.

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God at the Brothel Door!

Sam Fraser

100 years ago, G.K. Chesterton wrote, “Every time a man knocks on a brothel door, he is really searching for God.”

God at a brothel door? Provocative thought. What was he getting at? Perhaps we have turned to sexual encounters, via prostitute, massage parlor, sexual affair or the good old standby porn because we don’t know how to connect more deeply with God?

What we hunger and search for in this old world cannot, will not be satisfied through the ways of the world. Being made in God’s Image, we can only satisfy those deepest longings by being in relationship with Him. Perhaps, what we are resorting to is a disappointment that we cannot seem to remedy in isolation, by ourselves to ourselves, alone. Alone, in that deepest part of being, yearning to fill that part of us that is empty, in pain, or a deep desire for transcendence, but disappointed, falling short every time. It requires effort and self discipline, and more than a little suffering as we work through our immaturity, dig down into our unfinished business from the past. It is very much in our human fallen nature to not want to make the effort. It is much easier to settle for mediocrity and resign ourselves to second best. The easier way, the counterfeit, that is less demanding. Sexually acting out in whatever form we have established will always be a far cry from what God’s best… and we know that.

“Every time a man
knocks on a brothel door,
he is really searching for God.’
G.K. Chesterton

As good as the anticipation may be, the acting out and release that takes place, it is not long before whatever gratification we enjoyed, gets exchanged for the condemnation, guilt and shame that follows. The old hollow feelings return to haunt and taunt as it becomes the seedbed for the next acting out to occur as the cycle repeats itself all over again.

Although there is a momentary pleasure, however shallow and temporary it may be, it does draw us back again and again, over and over, even though it never remedies our deepest longings. It only medicates and distracts us from the pain. Until next time, when the unmet need reels us back to the old unsatisfactory acting out. We knock, and knock again at the brothel door. It is safer, easier, and a less demanding counterfeit in lieu of the real deal.

With a little thought, it begins to make sense what old G. K. was getting at. But the kicker is how can we find a way to enjoy the pleasures of God more than the pleasures of sin? If sin didn’t feel so good, it would not be so difficult to stop. We are sexual beings and as men we are designed to respond to stimulation. Putting ourselves in stimulation’s way has become very easy these days. But how to de-sexualize our need for intimacy with ourselves, others and God makes sense upstairs in our heads, but doesn’t seem to have much pull downstairs in our hearts where the emotions and drives can seem so overwhelmingly powerful and seemingly impossible to stop at times. It is easy to get discouraged and resign ourselves to defeat.

To experience more pleasure and enjoyment with God than through the old, old habits of sin is the $64,000 question (with inflation maybe it is now the ten million dollar question).

Each one of us in our own way needs to discover how we can enjoy God, to find pleasure in relationship to Him to such a degree of depth and intimacy that the pleasures of the flesh, of this world, or of our own selfish indulgence can be confronted, battled and defeated. Ephesians 3:17-19 says it this way:

May your roots go down deep into the soil of God’s marvelous love. And may you have the power to understand, as all God’s people should, how wide, how long, how high, and how deep his love really is. May you experience the love of Christ, though it is so great you will never fully understand it. Then you will be filled with the fullness of life and power that comes from God. (NLB)

The point I want to raise is to get you thinking about the making a conscious choice between the two types of pleasures. It will take a little thought and some creative experimentation and you may have to try out several different activities to make the right connection, of enjoying the pleasures with God, but it is worth the effort.

Through this growing process, there are as many different ways that fits us to a ‘t’ that can fulfill the knocking inside. So experiment: try this, try that, don’t stop, the Lord will help you. He wants this even more than we do! Get those legitimate needs met in a healthy expression of an intimate relationship with the Lord….regularly.

For me, one of the greatest ways, when I am alone and circumstances dictate that I have to find a way to enjoy myself without access to others has been to whip out my ever-growing collection of praise and worship c’d’s. Worship opens the door to all the Lord’s goodness. Psalm 30:4-5 says,

Sing to the Lord, all you godly ones! Praise his holy name. His anger lasts for a moment, but his favor lasts a lifetime!

I particularly like the Vineyard style of contemporary music. To each his own. The point being is to try out some different activities, get creative, find some ways that will bring you to God and experience deeper pleasure with Him rather than our own former discretions.

Knock, knock, knock…. go in.

Mom's Recipe for Fitness Success

Julie Davis

Many people tend to accept the negative effects of aging as a fact of
life that they have little or no control over. They seem to sit back
and allow the calendar to march ahead of them, accepting that their
days of physical fitness are over.

Not my mom. Mom is 66 years old, suffers from osteoporosis, wobbles a bit when she walks. She’s never been an athlete ‘ no gym memberships or marathons. But, rain or shine, Mom is out walking. Despite plenty of reasons to quit, Mom is still out there truckin’ along. She says it makes her feel better.

Need to Exercise vs. Want to Exercise

Many people exercise because they ‘need to.’ They need to lower their cholesterol, they need to lose some weight, they need to improve their blood pressure, so they ‘need to’ exercise.

Not my mom. Mom exercises because she ‘wants to.’ Each year, our family rents a cabin on a lake in the Sierras. We read, play cards, fish, BBQ. For most of us it’s a time to ‘lay around and do nothing.’ But, every morning Mom is up at dawn and on the trail that goes around the lake. This is not ‘have to’ exercise but ‘want to.’ She enjoys watching the mist rise from the water; She loves to watch the ducks and squirrels and other animals forage for their morning meal. She really gets a kick out of watching the campers rise sleepily from their tents as the sun rises over the mountains.

I have been a competitive athlete all my life. I enjoy the thrill of skiing, surfing, and running. But I’ve learned a lot from my Mom in the past few years about the difference between ‘needing to’ exercise in order to win a competition and ‘wanting to’ exercise in order to see and feel and enjoy the present moment.

Being in the present moment with my Mom is an invigorating experience! She likes to hunt for heart-shaped rocks, and she loves to find a good walking stick. She points out unique cloud formations, she finds strange bugs, and she can name a lot of wild flowers. These are things that I do not usually see when I am exercising because I am too focused on getting the workout DONE.

Mom has taught me a lot about the joy of fitness and what it really means to ‘move it for life.’ I still work my body because I ‘need to’ stay in shape for competition, but now I take the time to look around, see what’s beside me, smell, touch, feel, take in all of God’s glorious creations. I have benefited greatly from Mom’s recipe for fitness success, and I pray you do, too.


Mom’s Recipe for Fitness Success

1. Early to bed, early to rise, gets you out moving during a beautiful sunrise!

2. Move with purpose, with a task in mind. For example:

–find a perfectly round rock.

–share your experience with God.
–meet someone new.

–listen to all the sounds around you

–pick up litter.

–walk a neighbor’s dog.
–invite a friend/family member and learn 5 things new about him/her.

–bring home something that will remind you of that day forever.

3. Stay present. Use all your senses to take in every second of your experience.

4. Be still and quiet for a moment before and after your activity.

5. Focus on what you have, rather than what you don’t have.
6. Sing.

7. Pray.

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What Your Weight Is Saying About You

John Townsend

If you struggle with weight control, ask yourself, What could my weight
be telling me about the state of my soul?
As you reflect on this
question, consider whether any of the following underlying problems
could be the cause of your struggle with weight.

You have a deficit or emptiness inside. For many, food represents love and can compensate for a lack of relationships. It doesn’t reject, it has a satisfying quality, and it is always available. From early on, some people make a strong correlation between food and love, because one of the ways that a mother shows her baby her love is by feeding him or her. If you have difficulty letting others know when you are down, lonely, or are just plain struggling, you may fit in this category. It is important to be able to communicate to those who are ‘safe’ individuals in your life that you aren’t happy all the time, and let them comfort you in your pain and sadness.

You have control deficits or boundary problems. God designed us to develop ownership and responsibility over our lives so that we could be free to live and choose him and his ways. Many people struggle with problems in taking control and ownership over themselves. They may fear the rejection or anger of others. They may be saddled with guilt feelings that keep them from being honest, or they may have dependency needs that keep them in bondage to pleasing and complying with others. This type of restriction can also drive a person to eat. Food becomes the only arena in life in which the person can make free choices; the only arena that does not involve pleasing others.


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God never intended FOOD
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You hate yourself and eat to medicate the pain. Some people experience such severe and painful degrees of self-condemnation and self-hatred that they can’t see themselves as having any good qualities. When they make a mistake, their conscience attacks them harshly instead of gently and realistically. People who struggle with self-condemnation can’t escape the self-doubt and self-criticism, and may use food as an anesthetic from the pain. Yet, as so many know, the self-loathing always comes back.

You have a sense of entitlement. Entitlement refers to feeling as if you should be able to have special treatment in life, or have no limits in life, by virtue of your existence. Some people take the view that they should be able to eat whatever they want, whenever they want, and it is an offense to take that right away from them. Often they are unaware of their weight problem, or they minimize it, because they have difficulty thinking they have any problems at all.

You are uncomfortable with your sexuality. Fear often drives this discomfort. Some people fear they won’t be able to control their sexual desires. Others fear interacting with the opposite sex in romantic situations, because they might become involved with an unsafe person, or because they might turn off a person in whom they might be interested. The extra weight hides their attractiveness, ensuring that they will avoid any sexual and romantic scenario. Of course, their sexuality is not gone; it is simply buried.

Food does not ultimately satisfy any of these internal issues. Eating may temporarily ease your pain, but it also creates a cycle of insatiability. When you are separated from deep and abiding community with others, you are also separated from the life of God. This results in continual lust for more of whatever you are using as a substitute for life.

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Breaking Up the Fear and Food Addictive Relationship: Part 2

Steve Arterburn

The fear and food addictive relationship cycle spins in the following order:

‘ Denial

‘ Emotional Pain

‘ Food fuels the process

‘ The cost (weight gain and other costs)
‘ Self-loathing, followed by:

‘ More denial

‘ More pain

‘ More food (and the cycle repeats itself on and on)

Do these steps sound frighteningly familiar? Do you have a sense that this cycle is true for you, but you don’t want to think about it right now? That’s understandable, but it’s these tendencies that give the cycle energy. If you want to ever really stop or get off, you have to pay attention to the whole cycle. In the next few articles I will talk about five steps that will help you get off this addictive wheel.

STEP TWO – Face the Emotional Pain

Being honest about the depth of our emotional pain is extremely difficult. No one wants to get in touch with the root of the pain system, since this renews the loss and deprivation that we’re trying desperately to avoid.

Generally our apprehension twists our opinion of ourselves, leaving us with low self-esteem. Even though our personal accomplishments may be of considerable scope, we tend to see ourselves in a diminished and insignificant position. The result is emotionally devastating.

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SELF-ESTEEM
is a gift
only we can
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We must learn that self-esteem is a gift only we can give ourselves. Rather than a product of accomplishment, enduring self-esteem rests on a sense of self-worth intrinsically ours because we are children of God.
I John 3:1 says: ‘See how very much our heavenly Father loves us, for he allows us to be called his children, and we really are!’ We have value because the heavenly Father has placed us in this world as His special envoys. We must recognize and accept this fact as true.


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In God’s eyes
we have
supreme value!

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Whether the president of the United States or a dishwasher, we are of supreme value in God’s sight. Recognizing that fact is one of the most important steps we can take to break out of emotional pain. Experiencing unconditional love from good friends over a long period of time also reinforces our feelings of self-worth.

What is the first step toward healing? Please join us at our next New Life Weekend.

Breaking Up the Fear and Food Addictive Relationship
Part 1, Part 3, Part 4, Part 5.

Practical Repentance

Joe Dallas

Did sin ever yield real pleasure? If so, go back to your old drudgery, and wear the chain again, if it delights you. But inasmuch as sin did never give you what it promised to bestow, but deluded you with lies, be free. ‘Charles Spurgeon

When you’re angry enough, scared enough, or frustrated enough, you take action. So it is with sexual sin. If you’re ready to repent of it, you’re probably angry (‘I’ve had it!’), scared (‘God be merciful to me a sinner!’), or feeling the futility of it all (‘There’s no future in this for me!’). All three roads lead to repentance.

To repent is to turn. That’s what distinguishes repentance from confession, which is a simple acknowledgment of sin as opposed to actively turning from it. It is through confession, according to John 1:9, that we are forgiven of sin: ‘If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.’ I John 1:9 But confession doesn’t necessarily change us, important as it is.

God not only calls us to acknowledge our sin; He also commands us to put it away. Now ‘repent’ is a word we associate with dour men in sackcloth warning us about the coming doom. That’s too bad, because repentance is a valuable concept. It means ‘to think differently, reconsider, turn around.’ No real changes are made without it.

Repentance is the willful act of discontinuing a thing which is destructive, followed by an earnest effort to do what is constructive and right. In short, without confession nothing is forgiven, but without repentance nothing is changed. To repent, or turn, you need to first identify what you’re repenting of, then determine the most effective way to do it. Exactly what do you need to repent of? Of course, you can’t repent of having sexual impulses. You can’t rip them out and abandon them, and you can’t just will them away. Repentance applies to acts of the conscious will, whether they are outward actions or inward indulgences. So you are not trying to repent of sexuality per se but of conscious sexual sins. These would of course include sexual contact apart from marriage, and the use of pornography. These are direct forms of immoral behavior, easy to detect and obviously immoral.

‘We can’t keep the birds from flying over our heads, but we can keep them from building a nest in our hair.’ -Martin Luther

Sexual fantasies are similar. They, like sexual lust, are conscious acts of the imagination. And they too need to be distinguished from fleeting sexual thoughts. Martin Luther, speaking of impure thoughts, said that we can’t keep the birds from flying over our heads, but we can keep them from building a nest in our hair. That’s pretty well put. Wayward sexual thoughts come to everyone, I suppose, but when we indulge those thoughts by orchestrating sexual fantasies, then we’re not just having fleeting thoughts; we’re creating mental pornographic home movies.

But repentance shouldn’t stop there. You should also consider any activities that contribute to them or encourage them. Here you need to be very honest with yourself. Are there parts of your lifestyle’habits, places you like to go, forms of recreation’that encourage sexual immorality? That’s a question every Christian has to ask himself; it’s a question that’s doubly pertinent to you. So often, men can go on kidding themselves, then wonder why they’re not making any progress. They claim to want freedom, and seem willing to give up overt sexual sin, but show an unwillingness to give up the very things that lead them back into that activity. In all matters, the question should never be ‘Is going to such and such a place an overt sin?’ but rather ‘Do I have the liberty to go to this place without setting myself up to stumble? Will it encourage me toward my goals, or will it encourage me toward a setback?’

If you’re serious about repentance, bring every part of your life under scrutiny. Remember, you’re trying to emerge from the mindset of a child to that of an athlete, putting aside anything that interferes with your ultimate goal. That, in the truest sense, is repentance.

For more help see Every Man\’s Battle.

SICK OF WORK, WORK WORK!

Jeenie Gordon

“We’re having a Labor Day party at my house. Everyone dress up as an
occupation, and I’ll give assignments for food.”

We obeyed orders.
Meeting us at the door, her hair was pulled straight back in a severe bun, no make-up, ugly clothes out of an old fashioned missionary barrel and button shoes. Her name tag simply read “Sister Lundstrom – missionary.”

Bill Gates showed up — glasses with tape over the bridge of the nose, pocket liner with multiple pens, high water pants, and a slide rule hanging from his belt loop. Amelia Earhart came too, as did numerous others.

My occupation choice was the flamboyant Aimee Semple McPherson (founder of Angeles Temple). With a flowing dress, wide brimmed hat decorated in flowers, make-up that wouldn’t quit, a hymnbook and Bible. My smile was one of exaggeration — like sickening. Needless to say, Sister Lundstrom was not pleased.

Dinner consisted of typical lunchbox fare — Sandwiches of peanut butter and jelly, tuna fish and egg salad. Small bags of potato chips and the dessert of all times — Ding Dongs.


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Work?
What do you mean –
WORK?

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Workers. As we all are — somewhere, some place. In contemplating Labor Day, we realize the ability to labor is a gift from God, bringing a sense of responsibility and fulfillment.

The obese fourteen year old came to me in therapy — depressed and dreading high school. Seldom did she leave her home. Feeling uncomfortable, she made little to no friends. Mom wanted me to fix her.

After numerous complaints about “How fat I am,” I asked, “If you could choose to look however you wanted, what would it be?”

“Skinny,” she immediately replied. My heart went out to her.

We talked about an exercise program in the community as well as joining Weight Watchers. “You can begin to work on your weight,” I said. Looking at me as though I were from Mars, she said, “Work? What do you mean work?


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Are you looking
for the FAST TRACK
of weight loss?

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Interesting how we want to skip that part of weight loss. Just find a magic pill the M.D. can prescribe, or a sure-fire system that takes off ten pounds while we’re asleep.

Solomon (book of Proverbs) has quite a bit to say about not working (laziness):

“Lazy people want much but get little, while the diligent are prospering.” Proverbs 13:4

The lazy man longs for many things but his hands refuse to work.”
Proverbs 21:25

“The lazy man is full of excuses.”
Proverbs 22:13

There is no fast track when it comes to weight loss. It’s slow and fraught with times of frustration and discouragement.

“Hard work brings prosperity.” Proverbs 28:19.

Hard work. Now, that’s the key!

“I’ve lost 50 pounds,” another patient beamed. “Going to the gym almost daily for an hour, I counted my calorie intake (1300) and it’s paid off. It was worth the six month struggle.”

Work brings personal satisfaction — fulfillment for a job well done.

Let the Labor Day begin!

Are you willing to start the hard work but need some help? Join our Lose it For Life group at our next New Life Weekend. You’ll laugh, learn, and by God’s good grace, be transformed.
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