Managing Late-night Food Cravings

Jennifer Cecil

According to statistics, overweight folks consume 60 percent of their
daily caloric intake after the dinner meal. I have heard from numerous
clients that they eat according to their food plan beautifully all day
long until night falls. For people working outside their homes, as soon
as they walk in the door, food begins to call their name. High sugar,
high carbohydrate foods call; not fruits, vegetables, or whole grains. The tremendous temptation and pull, if not managed carefully can sabotage our efforts at weight loss and undo the good work that we have done all day. It is crucial to set boundaries around after-dinner food consumption.

Do you remember when you were encouraged to think about and decide what choices you would make BEFORE you were actually IN the situation? For example, the time to decide about drug use is BEFORE you are sitting in a room full of your friends passing the joint your direction. The time to decide about premarital sex is BEFORE you are in the throes of passion with raging hormones in the back seat of the car. If a group of friends are going out for the evening, a designated driver is appointed BEFORE the drinking begins so that all will make it home safely. Does it follow, then, that the time to make nighttime FOOD choices is BEFORE you are at home, exhausted from the day, with your defenses weak and your resistance low? The time to decide what and how much to eat is before you walk in the door from work or before you prepare the evening meal.

Setting boundaries around evening food consumption would look like this:

‘ I will eat one orange 2 hours prior to bedtime’ or ‘I will eat two celery sticks with one Tablespoon of peanut butter 2 hours after dinner’. (Be careful to measure amounts as peanut butter is an ‘expensive’ food).

You might want to commit to a cup of coffee and two vanilla wafers after dinner or 3 cups of popcorn.

Here are some additional guidelines to help you:

1. You want to make sure that the amount that you plan to eat is within your daily caloric limit.

2. The earlier that you eat your snack, the more time your body has to metabolize it before bedtime.

3. Expect that you will want to eat more than you have committed to and be proactive about that.

4. Have an accountability partner who you can call if you are tempted to violate your food boundaries.

5. Know that you will probably feel hungry when you go to bed. Its o.k. Breakfast will taste much better with an appetite.

6. Try going to bed earlier to stave off hunger pains.

7. Drink plenty of water.

8. Remember the gassy, bloated feeling in the morning the last time that you over-indulged at night. It isn’t worth it. Refuse to abuse yourself one more time!

9. Pray for the Lord to give you the strength to resist temptation. He won’t fail you!

Haven’t attended Lose it for Life yet? What are you waiting for? Join us at our next New Life Weekend…your views about weight loss and food will be transformed forever.

Holy and Healthy Sex In Marriage: Part 1

David Wever

When I first began recovery, I thought I knew everything there was to know about sex. My choices to sexually sin and the continual need for greater and greater intensity for sexual arousal had taught me a lot about sex. Or so I thought. My sexual acting out had indeed taught me a lot about pleasing myself or someone else to greater pleasure. However, I began to see that pleasing myself or reaching orgasm was only a small part of the whole of sexual intimacy. In fact, most of my knowledge of sexual intimacy was in many ways tainted by the large amount of hyper-stimulation upon my heart and mind due to the use of pornography and masturbation for years.

One of the neatest aspects of our recovery is to actually learn about something we may have always thought we knew everything about. Part of the premise of this thinking comes from a misperception that our greatest need has been sex. When a need is that great, we often put a great deal of importance on it leading us to a false sense of security. Think about it. What young man in high school, when the subject of sex came up, would not want others to know that he had a pretty good knowledge base about sex? Part of our feeling secure is often based upon how sexual or how much we may know about sex, even if we never divulge that it is that important to us. So, to that end, I want to propose something. Allow God to not only transform your mind and heart around your shame and sin but also around your perspectives and practice of sexual intimacy now and in the future. 

Whether you are currently married or single, I believe that a healthy understanding of sexual intimacy and sexuality is essential to our continued growth in recovery, both for ourselves and our marriages (including future marriages). We will cover topics such as sexual development, sexual intercourse, emotional connection in sexual intimacy, and oral sex. As I stated before I had so many misperceptions of these and other areas of sexual intimacy.

In order to grow and have healing sexually in our lives I believe our misperceptions must be challenged. Unfortunately, my misperceptions and hyper-stimulation through sexual acting out influenced my pushing the limits of sexual intimacy in my marriage bed. I attempted to bring into our sacred union the acts and over the top sexual practices that I saw in pornography. Those attempts only reinforced my misperceptions about sex. The pushing of the limits left my wife feeling unsafe within our marriage bed and left me empty and frustrated with her and myself. This eventually brought us to stagnation in the true oneness God had for us.

In Genesis 2:24-25, it states, ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh. The man and his wife were both naked, and they felt no shame” (NIV). One of the tenets of oneness is that the man and woman felt at ease with one another ‘safe. My misperceptions made it very difficult to be fully ‘naked’ with my wife thus making true oneness suffer. Becoming a man who understands sexual intimacy from a holy and healthy perspective will mean being transformed. Our sexual sin has caused us to conform to the world’s way of looking at sex. But God wants to cause a metamorphosis of your soul and your mind (Romans 12:2). A transformation of your thinking in every area of your being, even your sexuality. Just as giving ourselves to reading of scripture, daily prayer time and regular fellowship helps us transform our lives into a lifestyle that is pleasing to God, being an understudy of how the Lord has created sex within His parameters leads to a holy lifestyle in that area of our lives as well.

As we begin this journey of exploring healthy and Godly sexual intimacy in marriage, I invite you to open your hearts to the changes the Lord may begin to cause within your thinking and your heart. It is so encouraging to know that as we move along this path of recovery and healing, God replaces our sin with His love and strength. And it is also encouraging to know that He also replaces our old thinking and perspectives with His wisdom and understanding that far surpasses what we have ever known or thought about sex before. I look forward to the journey of discovering with you God’s design for holy and healthy sex in marriage.

See Holy and Healthy Sex in Marriage Part 2

For additional help, we encourage you and your wife to join one of our marriage groups our next New Life Weekend

Reality Sets In

Wes Mason

This past weekend I helped teach junior high boys at our church’s Disciple Now weekend. The group was made up of kids of all shapes, sizes, and levels of maturity, but all sharing the awkwardness common to the age and matching bright yellow t-shirts that bore the retreat’s theme in big, black letters across the chest: Reality Sets In. These young men were challenged to respond to the reality that they needed God in their lives. For many of them this reality apparently did set in, as several of them accepted Christ during the retreat.

As the retreat progressed my thoughts strayed to another group of men more than a thousand miles away. At that same time 74 men were gathered in the Washington, DC area for our monthly Every Man\’s Battle workshop, having traveled from more than a dozen states and as far away as France and Russia. It occurred to me that some of these men may have also made their decision to accept Christ way back in junior high, just like these retreat kids. But now they were challenged to respond to a new reality they were facing. It was a sobering thought. These young guys at a retreat in Melissa, Texas have no idea the kinds of struggles that may be headed their way in the years ahead; these men in Washington probably could not have imagined when they first became a believer that years or decades later they would become so ensnared by sexual temptation.

When it comes to sexual temptation, there isn’t just one reality that sets in, but a series of them; in the workshop we call them crises of truth. As a man moves down the path from small-scale flirtation with sexual temptation to sexual addiction, these realities get more difficult to face; the consequences become less controllable. In this way sexual addiction is like cancer. Most are not terminal, and even the bad ones can often be conquered or managed if caught early enough. If left too long without attention, however, the options to control the outcome become more limited.

So, what do you do when you’re finally serious about working on your sexual integrity and then discover that there are consequences to your past actions that don’t easily erase? Maybe you’ve done all the right things: surrendered, disclosed, gotten into a program, taken actions to make amends, and gotten an accountability partner. You felt the freedom that comes from finally seeing the burden of your secrets lifted. You had reached the darkness at the bottom and are on your way up and out. Unlike your failed attempts in the past, which had an action plan consisting of willpower alone, this time you’re taking this seriously and you’re finding success. Nice feeling.

But it’s at this point, when the battle’s momentum seems to finally be turning your way, that you may face one of the most difficult realities and least nice feelings of all: the consequences of that past behavior. Sexual sin damages relationships most of all, so it is not surprising that relationship repair is one of the most difficult steps in the road to recovery. How do you face this reality and repair the damage to these relationships? Here are some ideas on how to start with the two most affected relationships a man in this situation faces: with God, and with his wife

Relationship to God: We are fortunate that God has a long history of restoring broken relationships. He is well-practiced at it after interacting with us over an entire human history filled with our failings. Our failures, no matter how serious, do not shock God. He is also committed to relationship restoration, going so far as to send his Son to the cross to demonstrate that commitment. We see the historical examples of men who have fallen much further than we have, such as David, who was restored to be a man after God’s own heart. We relate intimately to the words of the apostle Paul in which he shares his pain with the believers in Rome, where he says,

I do not understand what I do. For what I want to do I do not do, but what I hate I do’I have the desire to do what is good, but I cannot carry it out. What a wretched man I am! Who will rescue me from this body of death? Thanks be to God–through Jesus Christ our Lord’Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus.
In your desire to restore your relationship with God, you have the benefit of God doing much of the work. You have a guarantee from God that if you want to restore the relationship with Him, and take the steps toward restoration mentioned above, restoration is yours. No exceptions, no concern that God will reject your repentance and heartfelt commitment to change.

Relationship to Our Wives: Perhaps you’re on that steady path of recovery; you’re action plan is in place, you’re reassured by the knowledge of God’s still loves you and forgives you despite your failings. But your wife isn’t sure she loves or forgives you; worse yet, she may be convinced that she is no longer capable of either. What do you do?

First, it’s important to understand that your wife is not obligated to simply put the past behind her, and isn’t likely to do so, at least not quickly. Worse yet, she may never be able to get over this completely, or at all. Recently on our radio program Steve Arterburn was talking to a caller who was involved with this kind of problem. He asked the caller to go through a mental exercise that is worth sharing. Imagine that you are standing on a floor with your feet together. Draw a line on the floor around your feet, about two feet out. Inside this line is everything in this world you have control over. Talk about reality setting in; you can only control what you do with your recovery, not how someone else responds to it. That small circle of control can make a man feel a bit claustrophobic, especially if he’s the controlling type, a common characteristic of the sex addict.

The good news is that what you do with your recovery is likely to be highly influential in how your wife responds. If she is listening to good counsel, she’ll be giving little attention to your words and a lot of attention to your actions. She needs to see with her own eyes, over time, a man who is living a life of sexual integrity. Very slowly, depending on what she sees in your life, the trust may begin to return.

This slower approach may be difficult to accept, and there may be a temptation to pressure her to come along at your pace, rather than her own. Professional counselors will tell you, however, that if she is too quick to forgive and forget, without resolving her feelings of betrayal, her anger will find its way back into your relationship in less obvious ways.

The challenge for a man who has fallen but now strives for sexual integrity is to demonstrate, over time with consistency, that he is a changed man. If he does that, the reality is that everything else is in God’s hands; not such a bad place to be for a believer, regardless of whatever other consequences may come his way.

If you would like additional help in restoring your marriage, we encourage you to prayerfully consider attending one of our couples groups at our next New Life Weekend.

Creating a Safe Environment!

Steve Arterburn

Are your surroundings sabotaging your attempt to lose weight? Take a look around you and think about the times you are eating. What’s in the house, the snack box at work, or in your ‘stash?’ You are in the fight of your life and the pantry isn’t helping!

Take heart, help is on the way!

Create a safe environment in which you eat and a new environment inside your head–a place that is free of anxiety. Call a truce at dinner; avoid controversial topics and choose to find topics that promote relaxation and peace. Put the answering machine on or turn off the ringer on the phone. Limiting the distractions also can create a sense of calm so you can truly enjoy mealtime.

Get rid of high impulse foods that are in your house. If you know cookies are a weakness, don’t stock up on them and expect to pass them by when hunger strikes! Reduce sugar intake or eliminate it from your diet. Sugar is addictive and you will have to support the habit! Substitute high fat, high sugar foods with lower fat, more protein and complex carbohydrates. Make little changes over a long period of time for lasting results.

Change your schedule to make room for exercise. Turn in an hour earlier in the evening, and get up an hour earlier to exercise before the day begins. Start exercising gently. You need to find a way to move your body everyday! So find someone to partner with in the need to exercise.

As you experience a new environment, you will also experience a new life! All of us have an equation that equals weight loss.

We’re here to help. Join our Lose it for Life group at our next New Life Weekend.

Working Through Hurts in a Relationship (part 4)

Dottie Pickett

Forgiveness and Freedom! As you may know, I’ve been writing a
series of articles on Working Through Hurts in Relationships.  The
steps I have already covered include: identifying your feelings
surrounding the situation, looking at the situation and person who hurt
you in context, and finally, examining how you may have contributed to the problem. The fourth step in working through hurts is forgiveness. I believe that we as Christians talk about forgiveness a lot, but often don’t do the work of forgiveness.

Forgiveness is one of the main things that sets Christianity apart from the world. The world says don’t forgive unless the other person is sorry for what they did. God says forgive no matter what (Mt. 18:21&22, Col.3:12 &13). God knows that forgiveness equals freedom for those doing the forgiving. In the world’s way of forgiveness, our freedom depends on another person. I love what Anne Lamott says about un-forgiveness, ‘it’s like drinking rat poison and waiting for the rat to die.’  When there’s un-forgiveness we almost always suffer more than the person we are not forgiving.

Some people use forgiveness as an avoidance tactic. They forgive people without giving thought to what the person did or how it affected them. In the Steps to Freedom in Christ’ by Neil Anderson, there is a wonderful forgiveness prayer that reaches deep into one’s heart rather than glossing over painful feelings. The prayer goes as follows:

‘Lord, I forgive (name the person) for (say what they did to hurt you) even though it made me feel (name all the painful memories and feelings).’

Once you have dealt with every offense that has come to your mind, and you have honestly expressed how that person hurt you, then concluded by praying:

‘Lord, I choose not to hold any of these things against (name) any longer. I thank you for setting me free from the bondage of my bitterness toward (name). I choose now to ask you to bless (name). In Jesus name, amen.’

I really believe that leading people into forgiveness is probably the most significant work that I do as a therapist. In my practice, it often seems that the person that my clients have the most trouble forgiving is themselves. I know there is little else that makes Satan happier than when we play God and hold things against ourselves or others.
(II Cor.2: 10 &11)

Just because we’ve made the choice to forgive someone, doesn’t mean we should automatically plunge into trusting them again. (John and Henry make an important distinction between forgiveness and trusting.) Certain boundaries may need to be set so we don’t continually get damaged by the same people over and over.

Let us walk together in the freedom of forgiveness. God bless you.

On our own we cannot forgive–this is a work of God’s Spirit in our hearts.  If you need some help forgiving the painful hurts in your life, we invite you to join our Forgiving the Unforgivable group at our next New Life Weekend.

Smart Eating!

Janet Carr

Last month we discussed fad diets. This month we want to pay particular
attention to a diet that has swept the nation and is currently all the
rage: the high-protein/low carbohydrate diet. Why are untold thousands
of people on this diet? Quite simply, because it works. People do lose
weight. But the question remains: at what cost?

The ingesting of high levels of animal fat increases cholesterol and lipid levels in the blood. This can lead to an increase risk of heart disease. The limiting of carbohydrates reduces the amount of fiber in the system. This usually causes constipation, which means all this fat and cholesterol is not flushed out of the body in a timely fashion. What’s more, important anti-oxidants are contained in fibrous complex carbohydrates. By cutting out certain vegetables and fruits, they are also eliminated. These anti-oxidants play a critical role in combating certain cancers, most specifically breast and colon.

Saturated fat aside, a protein-rich diet is stressful to the kidneys. This is particularly serious when the individual is older. Overtaxing these organs may lead to kidney stones and kidney failure. Along similar lines, large quantities of protein increase the production of bile acids, which may result in gall stones.

Losing unwanted weight is not a bad thing. However, sometimes the end does not justify the means. Be smart. Investigate the long-term consequences of a new diet before deciding it’s right for you. Make sure your weight loss today will not lead to serious health problems tomorrow.

For real weight loss and transformation, we encourage you to attend Lose it For Life at our next New Life Weekend. Click here to read some encouraging testimonies.

How We Talk to Ourselves

Susan Eppley

I’m hearing voices”’

‘I blew it when I ate those chocolate chip cookies,’
‘I’m a failure’again,’
‘I’ll never be able to do this.’

Of course these voices are not part of a major psychotic process, they are your very own thoughts.

Your Self Talk.

It is important to note that we all have self talk. We all talk ourselves through the day, planning, acting, evaluating, and making judgments about our behavior. Because this is so much a part of our lives, it becomes essential that we monitor our self talk just as we monitor our food intake and exercise.

Psychologists say that it takes seven positive comments to someone in order to erase one negative comment. I believe that this is also true for our comments to ourselves- one negative comment such as ‘I’ll never be able to lose weight’ and we need to have seven positive statements to erase it!

Most people with food and weight issues are highly self critical. They wage an internal war of guilt and shame against themselves. That internal struggle is often reflected in their negative self talk which all too often becomes a habitual way of thinking.

In 2 Corinthians 10:5, it tells us that we can control our thoughts, ”and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ.’

Negative self talk is a waste of time and energy, but beyond that it is just plain wrong! Think about it, not one of the self statements at the beginning of this article is true! Here are some examples of self statements which are true (and far more positive!)

‘I am a work in progress ‘ God’s work and God’s progress!,’
‘I am not perfect and that is ok,’
‘I may not have been on track today with my goals for eating and exercise, but with God’s help I will gather the strength to get back on track tomorrow.’
‘Failure is not a person, it is an event.’  ‘I have mastered other difficult challenges in my life, and I can master this challenge.’

We at Lose it For Life believe in being gentle with ourselves. That leaves no room for paralyzing guilt, self-flagellation, self loathing or other forms of negativity. Neither, however, does it mean that we become passive, coddle ourselves and shun self discipline. Indeed, we persist in our diet, exercise, and emotional learning for the purpose of making ourselves the best imperfect person we can be!

Hearing voices can and should be a healthy part of our day. Exchanging negative for positive self talk is one way to honor our bodies and in the process honor our God who made us in His image.

As Christ Loves the Church

Dave Boyle

No doubt you have heard about all the publicity surrounding the new Mel Gibson movie called ‘The Passion of the Christ.’ Perhaps you have gone to see it yourself. In any event, you probably know that it depicts, in very horrifying and graphic detail, the last twelve hours of Christ, and the emotional and physical turmoil that He went through. The movie shows just how much Jesus suffered and endured to be our sacrifice and die for our sins. Basically, He gave everything He had.

OK, you’re saying, I believe that, and I’m eternally grateful to my Lord, but what does that have to do with where I’m at, as someone who was or is struggling with sexual integrity? Well, the parallel can be found in a verse found in Ephesians chapter 5, verse 25. ‘Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church.’ Too often the next part of the verse is preached on, the part about wives submitting to their husbands, and this verse is ignored. ‘Husbands, love your wives as Christ loved the church.’

One of the basic tenets of recovery is that it is always better to focus on doing something that is positive, rather than not doing something that is negative. The man who says, ‘I’m not going to drink tonight, I’m not going to drink tonight,’ usually ends up drinking that night. The woman who says, ‘I’m not going to eat that ice cream, I’m not going to eat that ice cream,’ usually ends up with at least two scoops. In our terms, telling ourselves repeatedly all day that we’re not going to get on the Internet porn sites after our wives are comfortably tucked away in bed, quite frankly does not work. We end up going there, and experiencing the guilt and the shame and all that goes with it.

‘Husbands, love your wives as Christ loves the church.’ Go see the ‘Passion of the Christ’ and get in touch with how much Jesus loves the church, which, brother, is you. And then process in your minds and your hearts how you’re going to show your wife that love. It may be something simple like foot rubs. It may be giving up a Saturday to go to the kids games or take her shopping. It may be learning what her favorite flower is and getting her a bouquet. It may be sitting down a couple of times a week and reading ‘Every Woman’s Desire’ together. But if you’re going to love her as Christ loves you, you’re going to have to be prepared to give up everything. But the great thing is, as you emotionally and spiritually attach and bond with her, the power of that false intimacy on the computer screen starts to fade, and the recovery begins. Focus on doing something that is positive, rather than on not doing something that is negative. And if you’re single, this same principle applies. Learn how to relate emotionally and spiritually to other guys, and to women as friends. Loving others, unconditionally and sacrificially, is one of the greatest tools in your recovery arsenal. Don’t be afraid to use it.

What’s the next step after attending Every Man\’s Battle? Join us (with your spouse if you’re married) at our next New Life Weekend.

The Meaning of Stress and How to Live with Less of It

Julie Davis

‘Life is stressful.’ It seems that this is a common statement nowadays. We go about our daily activities accepting traffic, late appointments, long lines and noise as a part of life. Unfortunately, heart attacks, migraines, depression and addictions are also a part of life, and many research studies have concluded a link between stress and these physical ailments.

God’s purpose for stress:
Stress was designed to keep us motivated. Before grocery stores, motels, and clothing outlets, stress from nature and physical needs kept us working fields and animals in the summer so that we would be clothed, fed and sheltered in the winter.

Man’s abuse of stress:
Most of us do not have to worry about our next meal or clothes on our back, yet we are more stressed than ever. Modern society applies a lot of pressure to look, feel, think and behave certain ways. We strive to live longer, maintain beautiful bodies, drive faster cars, raise perfect children and manage successful careers; and we stress ourselves out in the process.

The cost:
There is nothing wrong with wanting a comfortable life; but at what cost? Every choice we make has an emotional, physical, spiritual price tag. We work long hours, take care of others, focus on what we don’t have; and the cost is neglect of God, family and our health.

Reclaiming serenity:
God doesn’t want us to live all stressed out! We can’t do his work when we are tired, sick, or depressed. So how can we reclaim God’s gift of peace and serenity? Here are some tips that may help. If you find yourself unable to de-stress on your own, if you can’t pull out of ‘the blues’ or if you worry constantly, you may need to find a pastor or therapist to help you.

(Call 1-800-NEW-LIFE to find a counselor in your area or to schedule an over the phone appointment with a Christian coach).

Stress puts the body on ‘red alert,’ ready for action. Without exercise, a revved up adrenaline system taxes the immune system causing sickness and disease. Find an activity you enjoy and get to it!

With modern technology, most of us are far removed from growing and living things. Gardening, bird watching, grooming a horse, and playing with the dogs are all ways to re-connect with nature.

Not only drink a lot of it, but lay in it! Studies show that soaking in a hot bath can relieve stress up to 60 percent.

Learn to play a musical instrument. Even at the beginner level, playing the piano or guitar or whatever will calm you down (at least it may make you and others around you laugh!).

Learn to say this valuable word.

Most people are living in the past (sadness, guilt, depression) or living in the future (stress, anxiety, worry). What about right now right here? ‘Carpe diem, seize the day,’ is as sound a philosophy today as it was 1,000 years ago. We must learn from the past and prepare for the future, but living is right now, right here.

Having good relationships ensures you will have social support, which is critical in reducing stress. Listen to people, be more empathetic, more tolerant. Involve yourself in family, church, activity groups.

Serenity Prayer:
God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I can not change; the courage to change the things I can; and the wisdom to know the difference.


Preparing for Your New Life – Are You Ready for a Change!

Becky Brown

The New Years resolution is a faded memory and you’re feeling like life
is never going to be any different than what it is right at this
moment. Instead of quitting and going back to your old routine, prepare
yourself for your new life as a healthy person enjoying life and all
God has to offer!

First step is to get real about your goal. We all would like to look like the perfect human specimen, however, that may be unrealistic, since there isn’t a perfect person to be found! The closer your current weight is to your goal weight, the more likely you will reach your goal. This new life is a process, something that will be different than what you have been doing. So quit dreaming and wake up to a new way of doing life.

Second, there is no ‘magic’ pill! The sooner you quit looking for ‘the one thing’ that will make the difference, the sooner you will get serious about changing your life. If it came in a pill, we would have all taken it by now! It is about discipline, training, and consistency.

Know what doesn’t work for you. Sheila had lost 30 lbs. over a period of a year, and everyone was asking ‘How did you do it’? Her answer was ‘It doesn’t really matter how I did it, it’s about how you need to do it.’ Knowing your eating habits, triggers, body needs, and schedule, will ultimately prepare you to do your life the way you need to do it, not according to a celebrity, author, or magazine article!

What prevents you from exercising? Is it convenience, time, lack of accountability? Whatever it is, assess and make a plan of incorporating it into your daily (not every other Thursday!) schedule. Call a friend to walk around the block, park far from the door of your office or mall, take the stairs, sign up for an exercise class. Whatever is preventing you from moving your body, get rid of it!

Take responsibility for your life. Its not someone else’s fault that you have gained 50 pounds. You choose the food that goes into your body, you hold on to feelings of resentment, and you sit and watch TV instead of taking the dog for a walk. It would be great if that was all someone else’s responsibility, but its not and the sooner you accept your life as your job, you can move into your new life.

Lastly, think healthy not thin. Your goal should be to have your body in as highly functioning order as possible. Don’t focus on others bodies, magazines, etc. Love yourself and your body and you will take care of it!

If you haven’t already attended Lose it For Life, we encourage you to join us at our next New Life Weekend.  You will laugh, hear life transforming truth, and by the grace of God be changed forever.