You turned my wailing into dancing; you removed my sackcloth and clothed me with joy, that my heart may sing to you and not be silent. O Lord my God, I will give you thanks forever. – Psalm 30:11–12

Don't Talk

Don’t talk. Keep the family honor.

Were you raised in a family that kept to this code? Years ago I met a woman who learned these rules so well she carried them into all her relationships. As treatment progressed, the roots of her silence were revealed.

When she was two her father hanged her—her mother cut her down moments before she would have died. You’d think this traumatic event would have initiated help for her dad. Instead, everyone acted as if nothing was wrong. Then her father burned down their house and her brother rescued her from her crib. No wonder this woman wasn’t talking when she came to us. It took time, but she learned to break her lifelong rule of no talking.

Are you living by this code of silence? If you are, it’s important that you break through and speak the truth. If you don’t know how or know who to turn to–seek help from your pastor, or from a professional counselor.

– Steve Arterburn

There’s something still better than silence, ‘tis this—to speak the truth.” – Joseph Kimchi (1105–1170)