Addiction Whac-a-mole

http://www.bhmvending.com/Amusements/Bob%27s%20Space%20Racer/bob%27sspaceracer_whacamole.jpgDo you remember the old ‘whac-a-mole’ arcade games. I don’t know if they are around anymore. It was a frustrating game. You never knew where the next mole would pop up. By the time you could swat one with the big, foam mallet the next one would jolt out on the other side. When one went away another would show up and along the way you would see each one more than once.

So it can be with addictions.

It is very common for someone to get help with one addiction, only to see another one pop up. Sometimes the original one resurfaces again too. I regularly hear people struggling with sexual addiction say they’ve found freedom from drugs and alcohol, but can’t seem to beat this one. The truth is they’ve found a way to switch addictions; they haven’t found freedom. When one unhealthy way of medicating and coping with life is averted a new one pops up. Drugs give way to alcohol. Alcohol gives way to coffee and cigarettes. Sex gives way to food. Food gives way to gym-aholism.  You get the picture. It even happens within sex addiction itself. A guy will give up acting out with prostitutes but will begin going to strip clubs. He’ll give up porn but trade it for sex with his wife. Then she becomes his mistress. He might give up pornographic movies but take up sexual chatrooms. Unfortunately, when we ping-pong through addictions we never actually get the healing we need and long for.

If you find yourself playing addiction whac-a-mole it’s time for real help. It is time to dig in and figure out what you’re running from, why you cope in these ways and what you’re really searching for. It may be time to take more action than just slapping an internet filter on your computer. You may need to plug in with a counselor specialized in dealing with sexual addiction. It might be time to attend the EMB workshop. Maybe you need to confess your addictions to your spouse. Or to Jesus.

Take a step in the right direction today. Walk away from the game. Get out of the arcade.

 

 

5 thoughts on “Addiction Whac-a-mole

  1. My name is Sean and I’ve been struggling with all types of porn and sexual pervertion most of my life….I was molested at around 6 or 7 years old by my brothers friend and have had nothing but a VERY hard life ever since….I was raised in church and am a Christian but I do t have much of a relationship with the Lord…..I hate myself and the things I’ve aloud in my life….I’m 42 ,separated from my wife with a divorce in front of me and the only thing that’s good in my life is my 9 yr old boy ……please pray for me….thx

  2. I have been reading through many of the comments, I know that I to need serious help. I deal with the demon of sexual immortality. I need help, so I am reaching out. I have a young son and I want to do what’s right by him and the rest of my family I want to be able.to lead him down the right path and don’t want him to struggle as I am now.

    Emmanuel

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  4. I read your blog and can relate in some ways, I stepped out of my marriage in 07 and yhen in 08. After constantly askinh my wife about sex she finally said if I need sex that bad to get a hooker,for me that wasnt the answer i was looking for it pissed me off to no end, she would haggle me and say things like your overwieght y couldnt get a girlfriend anyway, I signed up with pogo.com a online game site, I was working out of town met a gal from that site that worked real close to me, one thing led to another”bam” more sex than I ever had with the wifey. Only problem is I started drinking and doing cocaine to try and forget my guilt and the knowledge of Jesus watching me. After 6 months I got laid off then got rid of the girlfriend, I repented to the Lord a year later, it took another year for the Lord to teach me how to forgive myself.
    Now my sister n law told me this last sunday that my brother is seriusly addicted to porn that he has been cheating for years, 3 somes, escatsy, multiple partners, wierd sex, and she has wvd from my brothers problems apparently he isnt having protected sex. so i am searching for help for my brother.

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