Did you know that phone calls lead to sexual integrity?
It is very, very, very rare to hear a guy talk about crossing his boundaries and acting out immediately before or immediately after a phone call to another buddy in trenches. On the other hand, there seems to be a pretty strong connection between guys who make consistent phone calls and guys who don’t act out again.
You see, there is something special that begins to happen when we make daily phone calls to other men who understand our struggle. First, we begin to develop connection and intimacy, where some of our core needs get met. We can start to sense significance in the relationship; like we actually matter to someone else on the planet. That person on the other end of the line can be a conduit of God’s grace to communicate that we matter. Second, we can begin to be a help to the other person. So often, I hear stories of guys who make a call and they reach a person who is struggling. The guy on the other end says, “you called me at just the right time”. It is pretty special to be the instrument God uses to help a fellow brother in a time of need. That’s significant!
If you are still acting out and struggling from time to time, incorporate daily phone calls into your battle plan. It’s one of the most difficult things to do, and also one of the most beneficial for your recovery.
Remember, for a guy who struggles with these issues: When you get out of touch with others, you start to touch your self.
NBC TV channel 4 in Los Angeles has just posted on their website a two-part story on our Every Man’s Battle workshop, Sex Addiction Part 1, and Sex Addiction Part 2.
Back in November they aired a short news story about EMB, and just today posted the two stories we expected to see then.
The links below will take you directly to the in depth stories about Every Mans Battle. Interviewed are Jason Martinkus, our presenter at EMB, Jim Phillis one of our counselors, an attendee, an alumnus, and the wife of one of our alums.
Click on the links below to view the two-part story. We’d love to hear what you think after you’ve seen them. And share these with family and friends. Please twitter and facebook at the bottom of each story on the NBC website. The more people who hear about Every Mans Battle, the more that can be helped.
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The new year is approaching, and so are the resolutions. For a ton of men around the country their resolution will be to quit porn. Maybe it will be yours? Unfortunately many of those same men will decide they can do so in quiet isolation, keeping their secrets to themselves, thinking they can pray their way out of an addiction they’ve behaved their way into.
It just won’t happen.
You’ll never find freedom this way.
The road to perpetual disappointment is paved with resolutions, good intentions and is littered with failed attempts to quit. As my friend Doug Barnes, an EMB Counselor says, the road to freedom is paved with connection, accountability and relationships.
I hope you’ll change your new year’s resolution. Instead of quitting porn, I urge you to commit to daily accountability. Instead of focusing on what you want to stop, begin to focus on what you want to start. Resolve yourself to finding a couple of people willing to walk this with you: every single day. Ask them to receive your phone calls and to call you, to encourage you in the struggle and to demand you take next steps for help like counseling or the EMB workshop. If you’re married, ask them to help you find new ways to pursue your wife (non-sexually) and to serve her well. Ask them to help you renew your relationship with God and find new ways to pursue Him. With the help of people willing to walk with you, porn can become a distant memory. It will take time and effort, but it will be worth it. If you will commit to daily connection with God and a few healthy, safe men, your life will be different in a year.
2012 can be the year it all changes. I hope it will be for you.