Depending on age, you might remember the Paul Harvey radio show. His legendary catchphrase was “the rest of the story”. He liked to talk about bits and pieces of news that seemed to be overlooked by the rest of the media. His commentary on the story du jour would give listeners more insight and would prompt them to think about perspectives that maybe otherwise would be missed.
When my wife Shelley and I have an opportunity to talk together about our journey I kind of want to steal the line from Paul. I think people get “the rest of the story”. Last Tuesday night we talked at a local church as a part of their Unlikely Love series. If you’d like to hear our story told together, you can click below to go to the website. It’s about a 35 minute talk.
At EMB I spend a few minutes talking about humble pie. In case you don’t know, humility is the currency of relational redemption. It is humility that allows a grudge-holder to forgive, a trespasser to repent, and broken relationships to be healed. Think about it- do you really want to be close to someone who is prideful, arrogant, entitled and/or self-righteous? No way. We want to distance ourselves from people like that. If we are to draw people close to us we must assume a humble posture. That is true whether you apply it to friends, kids, spouses or mentors. If we’ve damaged one of these relationships we cannot will the other person to like us, forgive us or reconcile with us. We have to eat a large slice of humble pie and work towards being forgivable.
Too often I hear men lament that someone (usually their spouse) is required Biblically to forgive them, yet refuses to. Usually I’ll ask them if they’ve been forgivable. The answer to the question is evident in the very manner in which the guy answers: either in a humble, contrite emotional way or in a defensive, indignant, prideful way. If the latter, the issue becomes obvious.
If you are in the process of restoring broken relationships I hope you’ll have a large slice of humble pie. It is the currency with which you’ll make deposits into an entirely over-drafted account.
A friend from EMB, Steve, gave me this picture at the EMB 2.0 event. He said he was on a trip to Wales, saw the restaurant and took a pic as a reminder. Now it sits on my desk between a current picture of Shelley and I, and our wedding picture. It is a great reminder for me too.