Ever notice how God’s economy is upside-down? The least will become the greatest, the humble made great while the proud will be humbled, the King on a donkey and in a manger, the One forsaken for one and for all, losing your life to gain it. The ultimate irony of recovery from sexual integrity issues, or sin at-large for that matter, is that in order to become strong we must admit weakness. Isn’t that strange to think about? To have power we must admit powerlessness. God makes it clear in his word through Paul writing to the Corinthian church (2 Cor 12:9-10):
But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness. ” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me. That is why, for Christ’s sake, I delight in weaknesses, in insults, in hardships, in persecutions, in difficulties. For when I am weak, then I am strong.
It is terrifyingly contradictory. And beautifully satisfying. The point where we reach the end of ourselves is actually the point where Jesus is most present and powerful. The end is really a new beginning. So many men, myself included, reach for the next tool, the next counselor, the next hope that somehow we can pull this off. And until we recognize that we can’t do it, we will stay perpetually stuck in a rut.
Maybe it’s time to admit your weakness. Perhaps you’re a wife and it is finally time to admit that you cannot and will never be able to control your husbands thoughts or actions. In your weakness He will prove Himself strong. Maybe you’re single and struggling, hoping that a spouse will cure your loneliness. Let me tell you, its far better to be single wishing you were married than married wishing you were single. Surrender and acknowledge your weakness and allow Him to make you strong. There is ultimate strength in weakness.