Every Man’s Battle (full) 2-Part Story from NBC-LA

NBC TV channel 4 in Los Angeles has just posted on their website a two-part story on our Every Man’s Battle workshop, Sex Addiction Part 1, and Sex Addiction Part 2.

Back in November they aired a short news story about EMB, and just today posted the two stories we expected to see then.

The links below will take you directly to the in depth stories about Every Mans Battle. Interviewed are Jason Martinkus, our presenter at EMB, Jim Phillis one of our counselors, an attendee, an alumnus, and the wife of one of our alums.

Click on the links below to view the two-part story.  We’d love to hear what you think after you’ve seen them.  And share these with family and friends. Please twitter and facebook at the bottom of each story on the NBC website. The more people who hear about Every Mans Battle, the more that can be helped.

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New Years Resolution = No More Porn

The new year is approaching, and so are the resolutions. For a ton of men around the country their resolution will be to quit porn. Maybe it will be yours? Unfortunately many of those same men will decide they can do so in quiet isolation, keeping their secrets to themselves, thinking they can pray their way out of an addiction they’ve behaved their way into.

It just won’t happen.

You’ll never find freedom this way.

The road to perpetual disappointment is paved with resolutions, good intentions and is littered with failed attempts to quit.  As my friend Doug Barnes, an EMB Counselor says, the road to freedom is paved with connection, accountability and relationships.

I hope you’ll change your new year’s resolution. Instead of quitting porn, I urge you to commit to daily accountability. Instead of focusing on what you want to stop, begin to focus on what you want to start. Resolve yourself to finding a couple of people willing to walk this with you: every single day. Ask them to receive your phone calls and to call you, to encourage you in the struggle and to demand you take next steps for help like counseling or the EMB workshop. If you’re married, ask them to help you find new ways to pursue your wife (non-sexually) and to serve her well. Ask them to help you renew your relationship with God and find new ways to pursue Him. With the help of people willing to walk with you, porn can become a distant memory. It will take time and effort, but it will be worth it. If you will commit to daily connection with God and a few healthy, safe men, your life will be different in a year.

2012 can be the year it all changes. I hope it will be for you.

Choosing Change

I’m flying home from another EMB and reflecting on some of the comments I heard from the guys this weekend. Here are a couple of them:

“I’ve decided I’m going to become the man God is calling me to be”

“I’m going to pursue purity whether or not my wife stays with me”

“I’m committing to my band of brothers to walk this journey with them”

As I think about it, within each statement is a choice. The men making these claims had to choose to change. They had to decide, volitionally, to let go of their entitlement, isolation, pride and justifiable resentment. They realized that in order for life to be different, for there to be any real change this shift was necessary. What a huge reality to face! I can tell you firsthand, engaging the reality that personal change requires surrendering myself is incredibly difficult. It is even harder for someone who has a right to be angry; at the world, their spouse or even God.

For many men, the choice to change comes at too high a cost. When it could mean losing a job, a spouse, a family, a career, a business, an estate, an inheritance, a ministry, etc. some men decide against changing. “Even though I’m stuck in a miserable rut, at least I have [fill in the blank]” is how the thinking goes. In order for the scale to tip in my life, I had to come to the conclusion that nothing could be worse than being stuck in the miserable rut any longer. When God gave me the opportunity to get out, I reluctantly took it. I knew I had to be willing to lose myself to find freedom. The Message Bible says it this way, “If you grasp and cling to life on your terms, you’ll lose it, but if you let that life go, you’ll get life on God’s terms”. Isn’t that what we know will fulfill us anyway – life on God’s terms?

I hope you’ll choose change for yourself. Maybe you are one of the men who need to attend EMB –  its finally time. Or maybe you’re a spouse who has wondered for too long whether your husband has been faithful – it’s time to ask him. Perhaps you’re single and it’s finally time to surrender getting married – time to find intimate friendships. You never know, you might like who you find when you finally surrender yourself.