What do you want your recovery to look like in a year? What do you want your marriage to look like in a year?
If you can’t answer that question, then where do you expect either of them to end up? Not sure about your life, but in mine the best things don’t happen by accident. Good outcomes and growth aren’t my default. Quite the opposite! I frequently say that my life is like going up the down escalator; if I’m not actively pursuing who God is calling me to be, then I’m passively slipping back into who I’ve always been. That holds true personally, professionally, spiritually and maritally.
Recently, a client has been working on a recovery/marriage manifesto. His task has been to write a declaration answering the question: What do I want our lives and relationship to look like in 1 year, and how will we get there?
I just want to share an excerpt from that manifesto:
how we’ll get there…
I don’t know all the things that will happen between now and 365 days from now. But what I do know is how we’ll accomplish the goals set out above. This manifesto will ring true if…
- humility is the focus of approaching our marriage and our relationship
- communication is open, honest and humble
- we trust in God, at the deepest level we’ve ever trusted him, by praying like it all depends on him and working like it all depends on us
- we connect in true intimacy
This fires me up! Frankly, I think that fires God up too. I think he sees this, jumps out of his seat, yells “OH YEAH!” and high-fives the closest angel. In effect, this manifesto sets the stage on which God can orchestrate radical redemption and gives the curtain call for Him to get the glory for it. 2013 is the year it all changed. It’s the year God showed up. It’s the year redemption began to be real.
Will 2013 be the year everything changed for you?
There’s still time. The year’s not over.