If you truly desire to be the person God created you to be, then you must learn to be truthful and turn away from lying. Lying can easily become a way of life. You lie to your kids to keep them from nagging. You lie to your boss to make yourself look good. You can even lie to yourself.
Are you trying to cover up your problems and pretend they don’t exist’including your problem with lying? Like it or not, you must face reality. When you do, you will see the pain caused by your lies. You’ll see how they’ve hurt you and your loved ones.
Think about these verses from First Peter and Colossians: ‘If you want a happy life and good days keep your tongue from speaking evil, and keep your lips from telling lies’ (3:10). ‘Don’t lie to each other, for you have stripped off your old evil nature and all its wicked deeds. In its place you have clothed yourself with a brand-new nature that is continually being renewed as you learn more and more about Christ, who created this new nature within you’ (3:9-10).
If lying is second nature to you, it may be difficult for you to change, but you must! You must learn to guard your lips and your thoughts from lies, which will hurt you as well as others. Then you can press on in your spiritual growth to be the person God created you to be.
If you’re a Christian, it means the Holy Spirit is living in you. Sounds great ‘ but what does it mean? What does the Spirit do within you? Listen to what the Holy Spirit promises to be up to at this moment in your life:
‘Ezekiel 36:26 promises that He’s changing your hearts.
‘John 14:26 promises that He’s reminding you of what the Father has asked you to do.
‘John 16:13 promises that He’s guiding you and teaching you the truth.
‘Romans 8:13 promises the Spirit will turn you away from evil.
‘Romans 8:26 promises that the Holy Spirit will help you in times of distress and intercede with God for you when you’re confused and wearied.
‘ First Corinthians 12:11 promises that the Spirit has given you gifts to use for the glory of God and the good of others.
‘ Galatians 5:16 promises that the Spirit will lead you to victory over the sinful cravings of your heart.
These are precious promises. Claim them by faith’even if you’re not sensing all them in your life. Rejoice in these promises, and ask God to create in you a heart ready to cooperate with the transformation going on in you even as we speak.
If you seriously want to learn how to meet your wife’s needs, you can. All you need to do is recall the initial process of getting to know your wife when you were courting. It wasn’t rocket science, and still isn’t: You spent hours and hours together talking and exploring one another’s personalities. And the most important thing you did was act on what you learned.
When you discovered your girl liked this music or that food or those flowers, you responded. There was nothing you wouldn’t do to show your love, and that you were serious about the relationship.
Once men leave the wedding reception, the get-to-know-you graph too often takes a dive like a dot-com stock in early 2000. Okay, maybe not quite that fast. But it begins falling nonetheless. Despite a guy’s best intentions to think otherwise, there’s something in him that says, ‘I know my wife. I wouldn’t have married her if I didn’t.’ The truth is, you only think you know her. You only know as much as thenumber of months of your courtship revealed. And more importantly, you only know what she’s disclosed.
My encouragement to every man who wants to know how to meet his wife’s needs is to begin, courting her afresh. If you’ll devote the same intensity and interest to your wife after marriage that you did before’and maintain that interest level throughout your marriage’you will learn your wife’s needs and how to better meet them.