Regardless of your humble beginnings, God can lead you to a glorious future. But there’s a catch. You need to be transformed according to his perfect plan. And you’ll need both faith and courage as you allow him to make the most of your weaknesses, to transform your deficiencies into strength, and to turn your misery into mission.
Take for example another man’a man named Gideon. When you first meet Gideon in the book of Judges, he’s discouraged. He’s a young man with little self-respect. His clan was the weakest in his whole tribe, and he was the least in his family. He’s first seen threshing wheat in a winepress, hiding the little food he has from his Midianite oppressors. An angel appeared and called to him, ‘Mighty hero, the Lord is with you!’ Gideon certainly didn’t look or feel like a mighty hero, but God knew his potential. By the end of the story, Gideon had become the deliverer of his people. His first step toward success was to see himself as God saw him’a ‘mighty hero.’ Then Gideon was able to hope in the possibility of freedom.
No matter how weak or unworthy you are, God is able to transform you into a mighty hero of faith. Just as Gideon was changed when he trusted God to make him into a powerful man of God, you too will be changed when you allow God’s strength to empower you in your areas of weakness.
Do you find waiting tough? Most twenty-first century people do. We don’t want to wait in traffic, wait in line, wait for the economy, or wait for a table. So the thought of waiting on God sets us back on our heels. We think our timing is what matters and then God says, ‘Wait!’ and it can be especially difficult to wait on God.
Look at this great promise from the prophet, Isaiah. ‘Those who wait on the Lord will find new strength. They will fly high on wings like eagles. They will run and not grow weary. They will walk and not grow faint’ (40:31). And the prophet, Jeremiah, said, ‘The Lord is wonderfully good to those who wait for him and seek him.
The Lord will reward you for waiting upon him. You can remain calm when it appears that nothing is happening when you think it should. Waiting is a response contrary to the ways of the world. But when you learn to wait, you’ll find the winds of adversity will lift you up, like wind beneath the wings of an eagle, instead of knocking you down. As you develop a patient faith in God, you will be able to endure to the end of the race’and win. As you seek God and wait on Him to complete His work in your life, you will be find strength. Try it and see!
What baggage does your wife carry? She’s surely no more immune than you. Therefore, she may be burdened from any number of traumatic events in her past.
Are you allowing for your wife’s weakness, loving her for who she is today, and not for who she might be at some point down the line? Sure, you may be shocked and dismayed at the weaknesses in your wife that were hidden until marriage exposed them. Maybe she comes from an abusive and dysfunctional background. Maybe she isn’t a very strong Christian. Maybe she was even promiscuous before she met you.
Any of these things may be true. But some other important things are true as well. Your wife did forsake her individual freedom in taking you as her husband, believing you would provide love and strength for her. Your wife is still God’s little lamb, regardless of the pain she’s been through and the wounds she carries. Don’t forget: God has entrusted her to you. Will you resent her? Or does your heart warm at the task of restoration? Is there any nobler act than pouring out your mercy on your precious bride?
Men, relate with your spouse based upon who she is today. Not upon what you want her to be. So what if she isn’t who she should be today? Are you? Besides, it’s not important that she becomes everything you expect. It’s important that she becomes like Christ. Impart to her the same grace, mercy and strength that Christ imparts to you.