New Life Live: April 12, 2012

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Topics: Dating, Porn, Addiction, Divorce, Anger, Drugs, Depression,
Hosts: Steve Arterburn, Dr. Jill Hubbard
Caller Questions:

  1. I found a deal breaker with the one I love; should I end it? 
  2. How do I overcome porn and smoking addictions? 
  3. Should my daughter-in-law be dating before she is officially divorced? 
  4. My dad plays video games through the night. How can I help my mom? 
  5. My wife threw something at me during an argument. 
  6. I struggle with depression; is it time to kick out my drug addict son? 

Suggested Resources:
Walking Into Walls
Life Recovery Bible

Comments

  1. I was listening to the call from Joanne, and although you guys probably gave very good answers, I was trying to think of other issues with this guy. I’m sure he is selfish, and not ready for a relationship, or else he would have pursued her, instead of the other way around. She had to meet him, and she should not have had to do the work to meet him. I gave him a lame excuse of having some incurable STD or disease, that he could not reveal to her because the relationship wasn’t going to go any further. It seems there could be so many reasons, and perhaps the only real thing bothering her is the mystery of not knowing. But all in all, I believe what Steve said is true: that if she went on to have a relationship with him, it wouldn’t have lasted, because I feel deep down the guy was just a dud, but he didn’t stay around long enough for her to find out.

  2. I had a question regarding Eric’s call, and several like it I’ve heard: why don’t yall recommend a web filtering service like Safe Eyes that I see here on your website? There’s also Net Nanny, XXXChurch and several others depending on what one is looking for. With the men we work with at our church, we usually recommend that they have their spouse or accountability partner there when installing to put in the password or log in so that they have no way of by-passing the software on their own. I wasn’t sure if yall couldn’t say a specific name on the air or what not, but I think that in addition to Recovery type groups, accountability, EMB, counseling etc. etc. that cutting off the avenues on the computer at home would help a lot of the men out there.

  3. Good grief caller #2 is there a point to this rambling story. Get to the point!

  4. I am a bit baffled by your response to caller #5. It sounds like you were rationalizing the caller’s wife’s behavior.

  5. Thanks, Jill, for revising your earlier response. I agree that those that are aware of potentially harmful situations should speak up in love, not demanding ‘compliance’, but at least giving a head’s up. Loved ones that turn a deaf ear or a blind eye (and those that choose not to heed or at least listen) run the risk of having to turn to those very loved ones to help them grieve and pick up the pieces afterwards.

    Be open and at least take heed when a loved one warns you. It doesn’t mean that you have to dump your boyfriend, but you’ll at least have a raised awareness and not go in blind. Be mature enough to put your infatuation aside and listen. It could end up saving you and your loved ones grief and stress in the long haul when the ‘shiny’ and ‘new’ wears off…

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