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Topics: Affairs, Boundaries, Parent Issues, Marriage, Forgiveness,
Hosts: Steve Arterburn, Dr. Jill Hubbard, Milan Yerkovich
Caller Questions:
- Can I move forward without telling my husband about my affair?
- My parents are secretly sending money to my college daughter; boundaries?
- I am a recovering Sex Addict. How do I LET my husband recover from his Sexual Addiction on his own?
- How do we heal our marriage and forgive each other for past mistakes?
- My husband puts his kids or even his dog before our marriage.
Suggested Resources:
Secrets Women Keep
How We Love
Healing Is A Choice
Link to New Life Live: April 17, 2012
April 19, 2012 at 12:46 pm
Hello,
I’ve owanted to make a point for a while but held off to make sure I was hearing the host correctly in different situations. I find it somewhat unfair and confusing how you address callers that are involved in adultery. When mean call in about their adultery the hosts seem to get very confrountation with the man about what he has done, how messed up he is, and the only way to fix it is to go to EMB. I agree that adultery is never good, but I dont understand why you dont get to the deeper issues behind it like you do with women when they have done the same thing in their marriage. Is it because you believe women respond differently or what. The women that called in today was very secretive and did not want to really discuss what she had done. To make matters worse it seems like you were telling the women it is understanderable because of her husband drug addiction. Basically its his fault she cheated. In closing i just wanted to bring this to your attention so you would at least look back and see for yourself. Adultery is terrible, but being biased in how you address it does not help either.
April 21, 2012 at 6:10 pm
Well Allen, I would agree that you may feel attacked as if men are always getting blamed. I’m sorry that so many immature men have made it hard on you good guys. My honest feeling about the reason for this is that usually women are the ones working on relationships while the men are taking, and doing whatever they please. It is immature to act this way being married, but too often this is the case. Often the woman has thought about it thoroughly beforehand, and does not act impulsively when it comes to affairs. Too often men don’t want to think about any problems, issues, the root of any problems, or any remedies, but instead get angry, walk away, impulsively ‘act out’ as a child would do, to get back at her, or for whatever reason he chooses to deny. I know everyone is different, but honestly wouldn’t you agree that most of the calls to the show are of the same nature?
April 30, 2012 at 11:53 am
Pat,
Hello Pat thank you for the reply. I agree with what you are saying about how a lot of men deal with issues. I guess the point of my comment was to draw attention that its a soul issue and not a gender issue. When every I hear calls on the show it seems the hosts jump to the judgement side on men, but are always compassionate, understanding, and treat the women like victims, even if they are the ones cheating.
Overall men are just as complex and deep as women, just in different ways. The reason I think men do the things they do is partly because from early boyhood society doesnt expect us to be other than wild animals. I think it would be beneficial to changing this state, by talking to the men on the show as individuals to see whats really going on and not always using the shame stick to make a change.
Both are made in the image of God