New Life Live: April 25, 2014

Topics: DatingTrustGriefBlended FamiliesBoundariesParenting
Hosts: Steve ArterburnDr. Dave StoopMilan Yerkovich

Caller Questions:

  1. I have trust issues with my long-time fiancé; should I stay with him for the sake of our child? 
  2. How can I grieve the loss of my dad 9mos ago from a heart attack? 
  3. My kids are rejecting their new stepdad even though he is getting help through Every Man’s Battle. 
  4. After standing up to my mom, our family issues leaked over to church; should we move away? 
  5. My ex-girlfriend abandoned her 3yo son and I am raising him; what should I say when he asks? 

Suggested Resources:
How We Love
Healing Is a Choice
Forgiving the Unforgivable
More Jesus, Less Religion
How We Love Our Kids
Every Man’s Bible

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  1. Sarah April 25, 2014 at 10:22 am - Reply

    I have always wanted to ask Nicole Brown-Simpson’s family if in hindsight they wish that they had not embraced O.J., and all of the fringe benefits that he brought to their lives. My understanding is that the Brown family was trailer park poor and was overwhelmed by Simpson’s money and the lifestyle that it brought. It is well known that he was abusing her from the first date, yet the family in essence looked the other way and continued to enjoy the perks of having him around. My family would have continued to love me, but not accept a dime from a man that I allowed to continue to abuse me. If my memory serves me correctly the father worked for Hertz, a job that he received because O.J. was a spokesperson for Hertz and the Mom worked for a travel agency that O.J. was affiliated with. In retrospect, I wonder if they wish that they had not allowed money to influence their family with fatal consequences. The love of money is the root of all evil and it cost the Brown family Nicole. I hope that Brown family has forgiven themselves because God has.

    • Pat April 26, 2014 at 8:43 pm - Reply

      Good point. Its true and I hate to see how people make their decisions based on money. The unbalance in the world certainly comes from sports players making way too much money. Most likely guy always had a narcissistic bad attitude and the money made it worse. There are better quality people who work hard and live in mobile home parks. So he ends up broke, end of story. Most people will fail to see the moral to the story, and they still worship this sports god.

  2. ann April 25, 2014 at 11:29 am - Reply

    Mr. Donald, I absolutely have much respect for you and if you were in front of me I would give you a big hug and a big thank you. Thank you for taking care of that child and loving him, God is going to continue blessing you and supplying you with all you need for you and that child. In the meantime, we all have to keep his mother in prayer, I will do my part with praying for her and for you too.

  3. ann April 25, 2014 at 11:42 am - Reply

    To the caller with the husband that’s trying to get his life and marriage together which by the way I commend you for your efforts in your healing process. The caller’s children have a right to feel the way they feel and if they choose to stay at stuck and not forgive then so be it, this is your life with your husband’s life. To a certain point I do understand the children’s convictions and why they are staying away. I know this is probably hurting your husband because he does want you all to be a family again, not sure why this is coming up now because I’m sure if you (the wife) knew what you know now you probably wouldn’t have married this man–that’s here nor there now. Just continue supporting your husband and praying for your children, eventually things will work out Godly and accordingly. You have a prayer warrior, me.

  4. ann April 25, 2014 at 11:50 am - Reply

    oh Sarah your comment is awesome. Money can make people do crazy things. I hate admitting this but my mother was like that for a while, loves money but will not spend a dime, she would just hold on to it…(I don’t know why). I was dating (engaged to, and almost married) a guy who was so impressive that she couldn’t see beyond his money or his issues. He was very abusive and would call my mother behind my back and tell her all sorts of things as well as send her money. When I would tell her of the issues she would question me, long story short, she finally found out for herself that this guy was a loon loon and changed her perspective real quick about him. I mean we never know someone’s story but when the story hits home there’s just no denying. God does forgive us, I pray that the Brown’s have forgiven and have had some peace in their lives.

  5. ann April 25, 2014 at 12:57 pm - Reply

    Melanie (the 1st caller), not sure what it is other than fear that’s holding you in bondage to this man, after 9 years, a baby, and trust issues–beneath the surface lies a serious problem, if it’s not you then it must be him. I understand much is to be considered in your present situation but I suggest you not wait longer because if after 9 years, no improvement or repairs, and you are still living apart no less unmarried then the signs that you see, feel, taste, and smell are truly in vain. Please wake up and realize that you have your life and your child’s life at stake, your fiancé is getting the best of all worlds, if you’re pleased with that then I wish you all the happiness and peace but if you are not please trust God to get you through what it is you’re struggling with. Many blessings to you.

  6. jewel loveland April 29, 2014 at 12:13 pm - Reply

    Caller number 5 with the 3 y.o. is a phenomenal man!!!!!!!!

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