New Life Live: April 29, 2014

Topics: ConfrontationForgivenessMother IssuesPornographyBlended FamiliesFear And Anxiety
Hosts: Steve ArterburnDr. John TownsendDr. Dave Stoop

Caller Questions:

  1. How do I get my live-in girlfriend to help out financially? 
  2. I have a lot of resentment towards my mom since childhood; how do I have a relationship with her? 
  3. What should I say when my husband invites me to watch porn? 
  4. Do you have any blended family advice on how my 13yo son and his stepmom can get along? 
  5. How can I be more open in a support group? 

Suggested Resources:
Changes That Heal
Forgiving Our Fathers and Mothers
Healing Is a Choice
You Are What You Think

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  1. ann April 29, 2014 at 12:19 pm - Reply

    Susan (the second caller)- You need counseling and you need to let go and let God. Here’s why I’m saying this; there was a reason for your call to come in and there more so was a reason for you calling, before I go on I thank you for calling because it’s so many people that’s been hurt like you if not worse than you. I will pray for you and that you let go of your mother and all those that have hurt you and get yourself together, your innards need much healing so start with you and know that God is really real, the healing begins with you. Blessings and healing to you, don’t give up, please.

  2. Mim April 30, 2014 at 2:47 pm - Reply

    My heart really goes out to Susan. Yes, her mother SHOULD have protected her from the beginning but obviously she (her mother) didn’t have the tools, nor would she have them now. So much hurt and pain. I truly encourage Susan to get the therapy that is needed to heal those wounds. Susan matters and deserves to be happy!

  3. Mim April 30, 2014 at 3:24 pm - Reply

    Okay…just heard you say 100 Days of Character would go out to anyone for a gift of any kind. That is such a great, great devotional….I think I have bought 30 copies of that book to give out to others.

  4. Sylvia May 2, 2014 at 2:29 pm - Reply

    To the second caller, Susan: you suffered serious trauma in your childhood and I think because there has never been healing offered to you from your mother (i.e. apology, concern, accountability of her actions, offering to help you, perhaps pay for therapy etc. ) you are basically to some extent re-experiencing the trauma. Interacting with your mother traumatizes you again and again. You will probably never get the things from her mentioned above so you will have to journey on your own through therapy etc to heal from this trauma. I think you should take a good long break from your mother as you seek healing. Once you are a ways down the healing path you can decide if you want to reestablish contact. Don”t make such a big deal about the kids having a grandmother, plenty of kids don”t have grandparents and are fine. In this moment, you need to think most of your own well-being so that you are mentally and emotionally healthy for your family. It was really, really wrong what happened to you as an innocent child. I hope you can find some healing and peace. I will pray for you. I have had some similar experience and have found some peace- not complete peace but perhaps that comes in the afterlife. Much love to you.

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