New Life Live: August 19, 2015

Topics: Dating, Alcoholics, Verbal Abuse, Lying, Controllers
Hosts: Steve Arterburn, Dr. Dave Stoop, Dr. Jill Hubbard

Caller Questions:

  1. Why would a man who has a girlfriend also be affectionate with me?
  2. How do I keep from being hurt by my verbally abusive, alcoholic sister?
  3. My ex-boyfriend came back into my life; should we date again even though we used to have sex?
  4. How do I end the relationship with a dear alcoholic friend?
  5. What is the best way to approach my lying and manipulative husband?

Suggested Resources:
You Are What You Think
Rethink How You Think
Secrets Women Keep
How We Love

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  1. Judy August 19, 2015 at 1:27 pm - Reply

    For the lady whose husband is a gambler, there is a group for the spouse called Gam-anon. Also it would be codependent for her to begin the process of trying to track, find out, and outsmart the gambler. I tried and it made me ill. She doesn’t have to do that. He knows he is gambling and she does to. She needs to take the finances out of his control if she wants to have any hope for the marriage. He will kick back!

  2. ann August 20, 2015 at 1:29 pm - Reply

    Bernadette, please get on with your life and leave that guy that you met 7 months ago in the park right there, he’s a liar, he’s using you, he’s being very manipulative and he’s showing you better than he can tell you. He’s disrespecting you and you need to cut ties with this man. So what you’ve been alone for 13 years, life doesn’t stop or start because of that loser. Stop letting this man use you, please. Get on with your life and enjoy it to the fullest, God will send someone your way trust me, just let this man go and let God do the rest, I mean after all you did say that you’re a Christian, will start acting like one. I’ll be praying for you.

  3. ann August 20, 2015 at 2:00 pm - Reply

    Oh my goodness, ladies, ladies, what is with this “I’m a Christian” and yet you allow these men to walk all over you and yet you have sex with them, SIX years, really. There is something in your past that you are holding on to and it’s starting to let off a stench. This man of 6 years is having a field day with you, he can come and go as he pleases and knows he can get sex from you–I sure hope you used and will use a condom because you’ve not seen him in 3 years and here he comes again. Right. Please, please, let this man go, he’s no good for you and he has you doubting yourself, um, um RUN fast. You saw flags, signs, and other things early on so it’s not like you didn’t know or where unaware of this mans character. I will be praying for you.

  4. ann August 21, 2015 at 7:32 am - Reply

    This comment was deleted yesterday. I commented on the first caller about her wondering why this man that she’s been seeing for about 7 years has girlfriends but is still pursing her. I suggested she stop seeing this guy and move on with her life. Madam, you don’t need this loser in your life, he’s not respecting you and you continue allowing him in your home and taking up your time. I understand you get lonely but please, this man cannot be worth you lowering your standards again and again. Please trust God to give you the strength to let this man know you no longer what any contact or communication with him. Praying for you.

    • Pat August 26, 2015 at 10:54 pm - Reply

      This is good advice. I have found when I drop the losers, better people show up.

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