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Topics: Adult Children, Sexual Addiction, Christian Walk, Alcoholics,
Hosts: Steve Arterburn & Max Lucado
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- My daughter is having marital problems; how much should we meddle?
- When does grace become enabling? My husband has a sexual addiction.
- How can I help my 23yo son who is drifting spiritually?
- I’ve been in recovery from alcohol for 6yrs; is it OK to drink once in awhile?
- Is it appropriate to ask my boyfriend about his drinking?
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August 24, 2012 at 10:39 am
I recently found myself (literally . . . anyway . . .) on the enabling side of a friendship/relationship & found my way out by asking him the question, “How can I be safe in this friendship? What can I do to help you make this relationship safe for me?” He said he would stay away until he was trustworthy, but had no direct answer other than to begin to pay me some of the money back that I had loaned him, quit asking me for favors (for 2 weeks, which gave me time to practice having other plans for my time & my money), and, unfortunately, he worked hard to find another resource. I don’t think he can take advantage of people now without having to work really hard to suppress his shame/guilt, etc. It’s not the response I had hoped for, but maybe its “another straw” that contributes to breaking the back of his addiction–who knows?! And breaks my thought patterns: “I’m worth less than he is,” or feelings that my worth as a person increases when I give sacrificially to other people.
Does that make sense?