New Life Live: February 26, 2015

Topics: ForgivenessGaslightingNarcissistsMarriageFearPornographyParenting, GriefChristian WalkParent IssuesSelf Worth
Hosts: Steve ArterburnDr. Dave StoopDr. Jill Hubbard

Caller Questions:

  1. My company wants to stop using cash in the cafeteria by implanting a chip in our hand; is that biblical? 
  2. After being raised by critical parents and not measuring up to my sister, I find myself defensive at any criticism. 
  3. Do gaslighting and narcissism go hand in hand? 
  4. How do I get my new wife to go to church with me? 
  5. Is it a problem that my 11yo granddaughter hates being alone? 
  6. My husband of 30yrs does not want to get help for his porn use; what can I do? 
  7. The letter you sent out about grief really spoke to me. 

Suggested Resources:
Forgiving our Parents
Forgiving Our Fathers and Mothers
7 Minute Marriage Solution
How We Love Our Kids
Worthy of Her Trust
Healing Is a Choice

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  1. ann February 26, 2015 at 10:39 am - Reply

    Lynn, after 30 years there must be a reason why you want change. Your husband is and has been in denial for pretty much all of his life. You continue nurturing his desires not to change or give up his porn addiction. Please suggest counseling to your husband again and if he doesn’t go with you then I suggest you go by yourself and let your husband know that you are ready for change with or without him. I understand he has a past, we all do–some worse/better than others but now it’s time for you to take a stand and get on with your life. It is very uncomfortable not being able to breath or be happy, seriously I know and before this takes a toll on your health please get help and if it starts with you so be it. Stop allowing the excuses on his behalf. I’m sure the reason you called the show is because you are in fact ready for change. Blessings to you.

    • Pat March 1, 2015 at 7:37 pm - Reply

      And further goes to show why I would never marry a non Christian. They are not willing to be better, they have anger issues, and nothing is more important to them but to think about sex. It’s all about ME ME ME, but they still don’t get it, nor do they understand or have even started to know God. When sex is the most important or only thing one can enjoy in life-BIG RED FLAG.

      • nadya March 1, 2015 at 7:59 pm - Reply

        I dont think its totally tru about non christians. some are open to change and many are not angry. there are some Christians who are angry and dont want to change

  2. ann March 3, 2015 at 7:12 am - Reply

    I have to agree with Nadya, all non Christian men and or women don’t have anger issues, however, if you see the “red flags” prior to a relationship or marriage then I suggest you not marry them or waste anymore of your time with them, especially if they are not ready for change or are in support of your faith and beliefs. When we allow God to be the center of our lives the possibilities are endless and he just might use us to bring another closer to him and in the process bless us/you with a possible mate. Just a thought.

  3. Zee February 16, 2016 at 1:58 pm - Reply

    This show and its hosts are a treasure trove of wisdom and amazing insight. Thank you so much. I am working towards creating a budget specifically for ministries and New Life is at the top of my list. Joining Club New Life before the end of the year for sure! The comments regarding narcissits were an eye-opener. One of my sisters is a narcissist; she has been aware of it but says it’s because she’s the middle child. She would spend hours in front of the mirror admiring herself (in her 50’s and still doing this). So embarrassing going shopping with her and seeing her ‘self worship’ tangent go on and on and on. Very hard to be in mixed company and have me participate in conversations that might take away the spotlight from her, even for a minute or two. I now understand her intolerance to others taking away her ‘place in the sun’ – Like Dr. Jill said, fear? insecurity? I have limited my time with this sibling as much as possible. She has a daughter who is a grown woman now, but as a young girl she and I were close. I was the aunt who would reward her for good grades (she grew up w/o a dad), drove her to cheerleader practice, help her financially etc. etc. Her mom/my sis confessed to me in a rare moment of lucidity that she was jealous of this. I asked her why and she said because she only wanted me to give things to her(!). Very sad.

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