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Topics: Divorce, Dating, Abuse, Sex In Marriage, Lying, Marriage
Hosts: Steve Arterburn, Dr. Sheri Denham, Milan Yerkovich
Caller Questions:
- How can I let go of my abusive ex so I can embrace the new man in my life?
- Anything wrong with oral sex during marriage?
- My wife goes out and lies about it.
- What does the Bible say about marriage and having children out of wedlock?
Suggested Resources:
How We Love
Walking Into Walls
Link to New Life Live: January 18, 2012
January 18, 2012 at 12:08 pm
for Maria that called bout marriage – lets remember the Samaritan woman how Jesus tell her past and tells her that she has been with 5 men and the one that she lives with is not her husband. so yes, there needs to be a certificate that states that there is a marriage between two people.
January 19, 2012 at 9:52 pm
Statistics show that people don’t hold the relationship in high regard if they are just living together. People need to have a higher purpose than themselves. This higher purpose is not there with unbelievers, therefore they are unequally yoked. The way I see it is that if one is a Christian and not the other, their priorities and values will not match. The Christian will put God first, while the unbeliever will most likely put themself first. What kind of marriage is that?
January 24, 2012 at 6:00 pm
for Chickadee & others: Mylan and Kay Yerkovich have gifted us with sensitive, respectful knowledge, insight and wisdom about physical sexual behavior as one expression in relationship (How We Love, pgs 2787-279)–one that may be masking a deeper more essential longing that has been fearfully hidden in our spouse’s heart and spirit. They offer “…did you know that most men are really looking for closeness, intimacy, romance, and security as much as women are? The problem is that sex is how we’ve been conditioned by our society to think that we will find it.”….”consider (also) trying holding times “(they explain and illustrate in book). ….”You could be quite surprised by the relief you find as your wife holds you and listens to you heart.”… As another attachments based developmental psychologist (Gordon Neufeld PhD,) puts it, “sex is an expression of attachment hunger…” So maybe that husband who has had a stroke may need those deeper non-physical “soul hungers” caringly attended to also–even more than what his body is telling him he needs–and so he also needs to be “helped” to identify and feel experiences of that “closeness, intimancy, romance and security” in non-sexual ways too (rather than also possibly, and regrettably, ” ‘enabling’ more emotional hardening” –a Gordon Neufeld phrase–of either the husband’s or wife’s hearts by soley a “variation” of physical practice). And I hope that we all will remember that sometimes our “uncomfortable-ness” can also come from (besides “bad experiences”, health, disease risks” etc. reasons) a prayerful, educated, well formed “conscience” with much more in-depth reasoning than one could print here. We all need to pray for more principled humility, and God’s help to learn to have, and sustain, more graceful respect dealing with such powerful yet sensitive situations.
January 24, 2012 at 6:03 pm
I just notice another “Pat” commented earlier than my post at 6pm–so I will be PJ from now on. Thankyou