New Life Live: January 8, 2014

Topics: DatingAdult ChildrenAngerWeight LossMarriageNewlyweds
Hosts: Steve ArterburnDr. Sheri KefferMilan Yerkovich

Caller Questions:

  1. I am allergic to cats; why am I attracted to the women who have cats? 
  2. My 24yo daughter had a bad temper at Christmas; how can I deal with her? 
  3. Interview with Tina who attended Lose It For Life and has kept 60lbs off for over eight years! 
  4. My new husband is still emotionally unavailable and didn’t change like I thought he would.

Suggested Resources:
Is This The One
How We Love
7 Minute Marriage Solution
Forgiving the Unforgivable

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  1. Karen January 8, 2014 at 1:03 pm - Reply

    I listened to your show today and was touched by the young woman who said she married someone she did not love, someone who has trouble connecting. I have a 31 year old son like this. He’s not married yet. He’s very talented, very intelligent, very handsome but has trouble connecting. My husband and I realize a lot of his connection issues are from us having a hard time connecting when he was younger. We’ve tried to connect by going and apologizing to him, seeking counseling for ourselves, etc. He doesn’t admit he has an issue. He blames everyone else for anything that goes wrong in a relationship. When we try to talk to him he will not open up and talk. He is living on his own now so we don’t have to deal with him on a day to day basis but it hurts us to see him not be able to connect with some very nice young ladys who have come into his life. And he’s about to lose the current one as well. Do you have any suggestions what we can do to help someone who doesn’t feel he needs help? Or should we just pray and hope he sees the need for help himself?

    Thank -you

  2. Valerie W. January 9, 2014 at 7:40 pm - Reply

    Milan, you were spot on today with the fellow who wanted to know why all the nice women like cats. It frustrates me when people treat animals as though they’re objects to judge rather than God’s creations put on this earth to enrich our lives. You handled this sensitive subject with such intelligence and compassion, looking beyond the subject of cats to the real issue underneath, as well as validating the feelings of women everywhere who like cats. As you stated, animals contribute to the emotional well-being of many people. Through my own long and grueling healing process, having suffered intense developmental trauma at the hands of a mentally ill mother and absent father, my pets were the ones who stood ever-ready to provide comfort and love through it all. It is my theory that a man who is kind to cats is the kind of man that most women admire. Thank you for blessing my day with your thoughtful insights.

  3. Brandie January 10, 2014 at 2:25 pm - Reply

    Love the show, and very grateful to hear about bonding-attachment therapy. I have never heard of it before, and know that I deal with bonding issues myself. I am single, but would eventually like to get married, and would like to tackle it now. What would you suggest for a single woman? Should I also start with Milam’s book “How We Love”? Thanks and have a great day 🙂

  4. James January 12, 2014 at 12:01 pm - Reply

    The guy and the cat ladies struck a chord with me. I am a 65 year old man now and still have trouble connecting with women, my current girl friend included. My mother has always loved animals, mostly dogs, and in my mind growing up, seemed to give more affection to the family dog than to my father. In fact, when I went back and looked at all the family photos throughout the years I noticed that my mother was always holding or petting the dog and never had her arm around my dad. Obviously, there is more going on here, but I still resent my mother for seeming to give more affection to the dog than my father.

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