New Life Live: July 11, 2012

Topics: MarriageCodependencySecretsGriefDivorce,
Hosts: Steve ArterburnDr. Jill Hubbard
Caller Questions:

  1. I feel like a doormat; should I stay married for the sake of our daughters? 
  2. Should my sister tell her ex’s new wife that his dad was a molester? 
  3. I serve God one day, and then I isolate the next day. Is this a spiritual problem? 
  4. When will the overwhelming grief be over since my husband died suddenly? 
  5. My daughter won’t see me after the divorce; how do I move on? 

Suggested Resources:
Life Recovery Bible
Secrets Women Keep
Healing Is A Choice
Grief CD

Link to New Life Live: July 11, 2012


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  1. Grammar Guru July 11, 2012 at 12:55 pm - Reply

    Hello, will someone please tell dear Jill that there is no such word as “themself”? The word ‘them’ is plural (more than one); therefore, ‘self”, which is a singular noun has to also be plural: themSELVES.

    Proper versions of ‘self’ words are: HERself, HIMself, ONEself. If you are referring to more than one person, you ALWAYS make the words plural (i.e., THEMselves, OURselves).

    If NewLife needs a script editor, please let me know.

    • Pat July 11, 2012 at 7:50 pm - Reply

      You got to be kidding. Jill is highly educated; I’m sure it was just a slip.

  2. Ronda July 11, 2012 at 2:57 pm - Reply

    It is so sad that there are hurting people that call the program, looking for biblical encouragement, and someone leaves a post about grammer used in a commercial. Bless your heart……. How about making a donation, or posting a prayer. Whether someone uses proper grammer or Ebonics, the point of the commercial was made!

    • Pat July 11, 2012 at 7:51 pm - Reply

      I agree. It’s not in writing, so who cares?

  3. Dennise Carranza July 11, 2012 at 1:51 pm - Reply

    I understand how misspoken English really bothers those who are really proficient at the English language. But please remember that “our dear Jill” has her expertise in another field of study and I am so grateful that God’s gifting to her is in helping and developing people to be better and happier people. God has provided the rest of us with Spell and Grammar check for which I am also very grateful! I used it to fix spelling errors on this post. I for one vote against having a “script editor” and I don’t believe you have a script; you speak from your knowledge, God’s wisdom, and your hearts. I love the comfortable feeling of real heartfelt conversation the show provides. Everyone is welcome and anyone can join in the discussion. Thank you all for your honesty, especially Steve, it makes us all feel like family. I have learned more from you all about life and God’s loving kindness than from just about anybody. Imperfection is not always a bad thing, it’s just not perfect!

  4. Danny July 11, 2012 at 6:04 pm - Reply

    Hey G.G. get off “our Jill”. Those of us who are not human spell checkers, understood her. I second Ronda and Dennise. Stop the grammar-tude. Make a donation!

  5. Pat July 11, 2012 at 8:11 pm - Reply

    PJ, I was married 14 years, and my husband died in 1995. He was only 46, and I was 38. These events are there with you every day, and for years I expected him to show up through the door somehow. In 1996 I went back to school to work on 2 degrees. This helped me tremendously in taking my mind to a better place. Also a Celebrate Recovery group may be helpful.

  6. Grammar Guru July 12, 2012 at 1:54 pm - Reply

    First, I adore Jill. That’s why I said “dear Jill”.

    Ronda, it not “grammer,” it’s actually GRAMMAR. Sorry if you people are offended, but without folks like me, the English language will go further down the toilet. Trust me, you’d want people like me to teach your children language skills.

    And Pat, even though the words are not “written,” you’d be suprised that most language is learned audibly. In other words, most learn by replicating what they hear other folks say. If you’ve spent time in the presence of an infant, then you easily get my point.

    Despite what you people think, America can do better, and it should if it wants to compete with countries like China and India– places where not only is the native language mastered, but English is mastered as well. If we cannot even learn proper English, praytell, what will be the foundation for foreign language skills?

    • Ronda July 13, 2012 at 12:37 pm - Reply


      Re-read ur 1st sentence, THEN judge.( I’m just sayin’) Not offended, just observant. Bless ur heart.

      • Brenda July 13, 2012 at 7:27 pm - Reply

        Guru, yes, re-read your 1st sentence to Ronda. If you are going to be critical of other people’s grammar make sure you are perfect. HOWEVER, actually themself can be used. Read the following: “USAGE The standard reflexive form corresponding to they and them is themselves, as in : they can do it themselves . The singular form themself, first recorded in the 14th century, has reemerged in recent years corresponding to the singular gender-neutral use of they, as in : this is the first step in helping someone to help themself.”

        Themself (pron) Single form of word themselves, used when refering to person whose sex (male or female) is not known or identified. Often used where the word them is used as a single form as well.

        • Danny July 13, 2012 at 8:52 pm - Reply

          BOOM, G.G.! And there it is!

    • Pat July 14, 2012 at 9:54 pm - Reply

      True, I didn’t mean to say who cares. Spelling and writing were my favorite subjects in school. My mom taught me to read before I started school, using phonics, I believe. It’s true you do need to understand the mechanics of language to get the correct grammar. And to learn another language, such as Spanish, you need to know what adjectives and verbs are before you can learn how to use them. But like you said, most people learn from hearing and nothing else. For them I suppose it’s fine to get them through life. But they probably excel in other things that you or I don’t give a flying squat about. 🙂

  7. sally July 18, 2012 at 5:00 am - Reply

    I wouldn’t worry about how Jill takes Grammuar Guru’s comment. She is correct, you know. I think Jill, if reading, probably took a quick mental note and went on, unless she meant to be gender neutral. She is my favorite, BTW. Go Jill!

    I am more bothered by people using the word I in the predicate. I do think people speaking on radio shows increased this error, and now everyone is doing it! This is so hard to correct b/c people have to think about if the first person singular pronoun is in the subject or the predicate.

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