New Life Live: July 12, 2012

Topics: DatingMarriageAffairsForgiveness,
Hosts: Steve ArterburnDr. Henry Cloud
Caller Questions:

  1. My church says it is not possible to casually date. Is that true? 
  2. Should my husband have a close female friend? 
  3. After confessing my affair, how can I make my wife feel better? 
  4. Should I wait to date if I am not working and have college debt? 
  5. How long should I seek forgiveness from my adult son? 

Suggested Resources:
Is This the One
How to get a Date Worth Keeping
Just Us
Healing is a Choice

Link to New Life Live: July 12, 2012


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  1. Lana Anderson July 12, 2012 at 2:30 pm - Reply

    Dear Henery
    Thank you for your program today…I just caught the tailend of your session. I thought the lady who’s son doesn’t speak to her anymore was telling my story and my son is from PA also and I live in ND…
    My son married in 2000 with a few problems that happened at the wedding due to alcohol. I ask that there be no alcohol and that went right out the window along with my son. Today he dosen’t speak to any of his family at all. I had thought we put all of that stuff to rest…
    When my son was in IRAQ, she called him and said I was being mean to her….I was devistated that she would say such a thing to him especially while he was over there….honestly I did nothing to her….
    I have cried buckets of tears over this and have asked for forgiveness for anything that I might have caused……
    Not getting to see my grandkids has been the hardest…Mitch has flown back to ND (same town I live in) twice with his family and never came to see me or any of his family….he spent a week and 1/2 with her family and not even a phone call from him…
    My daughter asked me how many grandkids I have and I said 10…she then asked how many do I not get to see and I said 2…she then said how many do you get to see and I said 8…that dried up the tears and I haven’t shed another since….been close but I can’t change him or do anything to make it different if he doesn’t want it different….so I just continue to pray for them…and have a sad heart…..
    I have been watching the eagles from Decorah IA and when the mamma and daddy eagles have raised the eaglets to maturity they stand way back on the branches and watch them figure out how to make it in this big bad world… I think they let them go with great pride….I am so very proud of my son and thats all I can do too….
    I know there are 2 sides to every story I just wish I knew what the other side is…
    Thank you for your love and concern for the hurting…
    Bless all of you at New Life….I listen to you often…

  2. Terri July 12, 2012 at 3:23 pm - Reply

    Oh good grief callers, let’s review this one more time…you are calling in for advice. That means you need to ASK A QUESTION and then shut up so the hosts can answer you. It is so frustrating to have to listen to callers babble on and on while the hosts are trying to provide answers and help. It really isn’t that complicated…if the hosts need more ifo they will ask for it. Don’t the hosts have a “mute” button they could use? Sorry if this sounds harsh but I’m so tired of callers who won’t listen, they just keep babbling and babbling!

    • Pat July 14, 2012 at 10:15 pm - Reply

      Sometimes it seems the callers have the mute button

  3. Sarah July 13, 2012 at 11:52 am - Reply

    You must find another way to get the attention of your callers. I cringe every time you guys start yelling. Yelling is so unhealthy and rude. You do know that you’re interacting with wounded people…right!

    • Pat July 14, 2012 at 10:17 pm - Reply

      My take on this is the men do not process feeling and facts together. Women do this very well. Men just short-circuit and get overloaded.

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