New Life Live: July 21, 2014

Topics: MarriageSexual FantasySelf WorthDatingPornography 
Hosts: Steve ArterburnDr. Henry CloudDr. Jill Hubbard

Caller Questions:

  1. What a great experience at the Marriage Solution Workshop! 
  2. I am married; why do I fixate on a man at church? 
  3. Thank you for the good help you gave my wife at the Healing Is a Choice Workshop! 
  4. How do I move past a sexual relationship toward marriage with a man who fathered my child? 
  5. The Marriage Solution Workshop saved my marriage! I found porn on his phone a few days before. 

Suggested Resources:
Never Go Back
7 Minute Marriage Solution
How We Love

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  1. Linda July 21, 2014 at 1:18 pm - Reply

    Hi. Thank you for your work. I am effected by the sexually addictive behavior of not only my husband, but also several Christian leaders, one of whom was abusive to my husband. I am grateful for God leading me to the 12-Step program S-Anon ( where I found a safe place to heal and grow in my faith in God. I think I had put my faith in people, my husband, Christian leaders, when where my faith needs to be is God. The healing for these betrayals takes time and I am grateful for the 12 Steps and 12 Traditions that have been helping me detach from the sexaholics and focus on my own choices and attitudes. It is certainly a process. I recommend S-Anon for men and women (because it is not just women dealing with this) who have been affected by someone’s sexual behavior. Thank you.

    • Pat July 26, 2014 at 8:31 pm - Reply

      I too, have been hurt my entire life, by the preference of porn over the relationship. I don’t have faith in many men, and for that reason I am not eager to start wasting time with the same old issues as you hear repeatedly on this show. Instead I am living for myself, and am doing and learning things according to my schedule, and really not interested in giving that up! Women have placed too much confidence in men being the source of their happiness. If we can replace that fantasy with reality we will on the right track.

  2. ann July 22, 2014 at 9:04 am - Reply

    Dear Vickie, I understand how obsessions can be but I think you should nip this one in the bud before it turns in to something else, negative that is. You should talk with your husband and let him know how you’re feeling and what you’re missing, I mean if you plan to be with your husband for the rest of your life you should set the moment and have a heart to heart talk with him, I mean you don’t have to go in to details about this man your obsessing over but let your husband know what and why you feel the way that you do and that you need what’s missing from him, if it takes some counseling I suggest you two do that but please do not act upon the obsession for this man, it wouldn’t be fair to him, his wife, or your husband. Also, whatever it was that she was down talking to him about is really none of your business, you don’t know if it was something he said that initiated it or what, I wouldn’t even revisit that as I’m sure you and your husband have had exchanges of words that could be taken the wrong way in front of someone. Please take care of this sooner (now), than later. Blessings

  3. Pat July 26, 2014 at 9:07 pm - Reply

    I am kind of confused and wondering why no one addressed the issue of Vickie feeling stuck financially. It seems to me that instead of looking to another man, she should attempt to do what she has to do in order to make the amount of money she needs to be happy. Perhaps her husband is lacking in motivation or ambition, and is content with that, while she is not.

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