New Life Live: July 9, 2015

Topics: Dating, Affairs, Adult Children, Substance Abuse, Addictions, Marriage, Boundaries, Forgiveness
Hosts: Steve Arterburn, Dr. Dave Stoop
Caller Questions:

  1. What causes a boyfriend to go from sweet to giving me the brush off?
  2. My adult son caught dad with another woman; why did he choose to smoke weed and be rude to me?
  3. How do I help my friend whose husband meets with another woman at the kid’s playground?
  4. My adult kids won’t see me since divorcing their father 7yrs ago; how do I repair our relationship?
  5. What boundaries would be helpful to a lying, gambling, cheating husband?
  6. Because of my OCD I often say sex words without wanting to; will God forgive me?

Suggested Resources:
Is This The One
Forgiving the Unforgivable
Worthy of Her Trust

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  1. Margaret Martin July 9, 2015 at 11:07 am - Reply

    I just wanted to respond to the wife of the lying , cheating, gambling husband….my situation wasn’t exactly the same, but similar. I attended the WIB in Irvine, California earlier this year. I want her to know it would be one of the best things she could do for herself. I had that same feeling, that I was never good enough, always trying to encourage him to be better, letting him know what his sexual addiction was doing to me. She needs to know that it’s not her place to change him, he has to want change. She will see there that it’s not her or anything she has done. I became insecure with my body and my looks, mainly everything…when I arrived there and was sitting and looking at all these beautiful, gorgeous, amazing, different women…I realized it wasn’t me…it doesn’t matter what you look like or how good and supportive you try to be with him at this point, he has to want God in his life, cut the controlling ties with family, in my case his mother. She has to change herself and set up these boundaries and don’t let him slide. There has to be consiquences for his actions. Take care of you and work on yourself and your relationship with God and you will learn how a Godly man will treat his wife…Prayers for you and every woman dealing with this…’s definitely the hardest thing I’ve had to deal with. I’m a better person for it, more understanding, but most of all a better child of God.

  2. Didi T July 9, 2015 at 12:26 pm - Reply

    I just wanted to give some information to the person that called for her friend. Please let your friend know that there is protection for her to contact Immigration she can get her green card through VAWA (Violence Against Woman Act).

  3. ann July 10, 2015 at 7:18 am - Reply

    Jen, you are so very passive and that is why your son and (I’m sure) your husband is taking advantage of your passiveness and doing whatever it is they want to do and are making you the blame and issue for their actions. That’s wrong, please seek counseling and support as soon as possible. You have to make your boundaries and standards plain and demand exactly what it is you want and if your husband and or son cannot comply well….Get yourself and your life together that way you’ll be able to better handle the situation at hand. I’ll be praying for you.

  4. ann July 10, 2015 at 7:54 am - Reply

    OH MY, please believe, what goes around comes around–what you do comes back to you. Honey, I would not waste another minute of my life with the man you call your husband, I mean how much more of this madness are you going to take, he must be doing something real good to you for you to stick around like you’ve been and for the record he’s not a good person, doing the things that he’s doing how could you even say that. This man really needs help, so do you because you have made this man your God. Please get yourself together and go to the workshop as well as counseling. God be with you, and your marriage if you choose to stay with this man.

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