New Life Live: June 15, 2016

Topics: Grief, Sexual Integrity, Physical Abuse, PTSD
Hosts: Steve Arterburn, Dr. Sheri Keffer, Milan Yerkovich

Caller Questions:

  1. I ended a 7yr live-in relationship because of my boyfriend’s sexual integrity issues; how do I heal?
  2. Is is OK for my recovering sex addict husband to sponsor a woman in her recovery?
  3. My husband tried to choke me and denies being with prostitutes; what should I do?

Suggested Resources:
How We Love
Forgiving the Unforgivable
Worthy of Her Trust

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  1. patricia goowin June 15, 2016 at 7:41 pm - Reply

    I am married to an severd dependent alcoholic that has ptsd and also recently began smoking crack again after many years. I have endured disappearing acts and much disrespect and emotional and verbal abuse, and adultery. I am really broken and just tired of this emotional cycle but I still love my husband and I am really having a hard time on the decision of divorce. I am wondering if anyone could give me advice. My husband is currently in a relationship with a woman that is also an addict, he denies that there is anything going on, but he has had the woman living with him since he moved into his place. I have had no help from him financially for our 2 year old daughter since he has relapsed again for the 6th time in 2 years and he is on his way back to jail for violating his prohbation ih which he did willingly.. I have had enough, but my heart won’t stop bleeding for him, and I sometimes feel like I can’t walk away without feeling like I didn’t do all a christian wife should do to try and save her marriage. I also would like to add tha my husband has been telling friends and family that he is divorcing me, but denies this to me when I comfront him on it. I still have not heard him say that he wants a divorce. My husband is a veteran that does receive help from the VA and has been through the revolving door of treatment for many years with no real progress… Please, any advice would be greatly appreciated. I am wanting to divorce, but I am hesitant because of how how God feels about divorce and also because I got married with no intentions on divorcing. I wanted to work out our issues, but I can no longer take the abuse. How can I get past the feeling of dishonoring Gods word and feeling wrong for wanting to divorce?

    • Pat June 19, 2016 at 12:15 am - Reply

      OMG ! God never called anyone to endure abuse. You are not married to a man, but a very insecure addict. You cannot do anything for him, only yourself. You are not communicating with him, only with a confused empty addict on drugs. He doesn’t know who he is, let alone who you are. He is an empty shell, abusive to himself and others, has low self esteem, and seeks worldly people who are as weak as he is. THIS IS NOT LOVE. You are both co-dependent on each other for immature and weak reasons. This relationship sounds like the definition of dysfunction. He cannot be believed, Please seek counseling and dig deeper into what you really love and start the steps to growth. You do not love this person as he does not love himself enough to be honest with himself. I bet he blames you for his cheating and anything else he can get away with blaming you for. In seeing the bigger picture, you are lucky he moved in with someone else. You need to move on.

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