New Life Live: June 25, 2015

Topics: Boundaries, Separation, Retirement, Avoiders, Anxiety, Depression, Alcoholics, Confrontation
Hosts: Steve Arterburn, Dr. Dave Stoop, Dr. Jill Hubbard

Caller Questions:

  1. Can I set boundaries for my husband not to date while we are separated?
  2. I am getting anxious thinking about retirement with my husband who doesn’t communicate.
  3. How do I break the vicious cycle of anxiety, depression, and suicidal thoughts?
  4. My daughter is engaged to an alcoholic; how can I learn to relate to him?
  5. As the leader of a young adult group, how should I handle the division between two of the girls?

Suggested Resources:
How We Love
Secrets Women Keep
Life Recovery Bible
Forgiving the Unforgivable
Rethink How You Think

This is the Healing is a Choice Workshop testimony Steve read on the radio today –

I have given up hating my dad this weekend and have given that hatred to God. I can’t handle it, but my Savior can. My father molested my two daughters when they were very small children for several years. Thank God for my supportive wife and pastor or I would be in jail for murder. I also gave up my hatred for my son-in-law that beat my daughter and grandchildren. I have asked God to give me the ability to see whatever is good in my son-in-law. I’m grateful to finally get rid of the hatred. It was hurting me and no one else. I’ll keep my little stone with me to keep Satan off my back and to prevent him from causing me to return to my painful hateful state. I gave praise to my God for He supplies all my needs in Christ Jesus, “therefore I pray that He will increase and I will decrease”. Thank you New Life Ministries for providing the guidance I needed to step out in faith. – Jim

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  1. Ann June 25, 2015 at 10:42 am - Reply

    Felicia, please, please, please seek another counselor, maybe start with your church. You need to have someone that you can really trust to talk to, I mean to pour your heart out. Trust me, once you’re able to get all that stuff off your chest and out of your heart and in the opening your healing will begin, actually your healing has already begun it’s just the enemy distracting you thinking that there’s no hope in continuing, BULL, you seek another professional and get yourself with some strong, trustworthy prayer warriors and let that thing go. God is right in the center of your healing but you have to keep things moving toward him. I will pray for you and trust that God will turn things around…and he will.

  2. JD June 25, 2015 at 3:53 pm - Reply

    Yes Felicia, you can do this!!!! I can relate, please be proactive and get more/different help, stay active in church, i will be praying for you.

  3. Rev. Barbara Simmons June 26, 2015 at 7:58 am - Reply

    I was very disturbed by the term ghetto used by Dave Stoop as he related it to a study he referred to. Is he referring to people of color more specific to African Americans. That term is so outdated and racist.

    • Pat June 28, 2015 at 9:15 am - Reply

      I understand the word ghetto to mean immature/punk attitude, regardless of race. Typical ghetto things to me are huge chrome wheels, baggy pants, glamourizing the pimp lifestyle, hat on backwards, etc.

  4. Pat June 28, 2015 at 9:21 am - Reply

    Regarding Sue’s call, with the small group issue: I wonder if the problem is one is pushy and rude. Could it be that the group has been a ‘free for all’ and one person is dominating the conversation? Time limits are necessary with groups because certain ones think everyone wants to listen to them and they will never shut up. Could this be it?

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