New Life Live: June 8, 2012

Topics: DatingForgivenessParentingSexual IntegrityClub New LifeChildhood Issues,Parent Issues,
Hosts: Steve ArterburnDr. Dave StoopMilan Yerkovich
Caller Questions:

  1. Why do I get anxious if a man is around me too long? 
  2. Thanks Dr. Stoop for your book “Forgiving the Unforgivable.” 
  3. How can I help my angry 16yo daughter deal with meeting her dad for the 2nd time? 
  4. Are there any programs that will help my 13yo niece who is having sex? 
  5. New Life has a lot of integrity! I just joined Club New Life. 
  6. Why can’t I remember much from my childhood? 
  7. My mom is not into estate planning; should I discuss it with my sister? 

Suggested Resources:
Healing Is a Choice
Forgiving the Unforgivable
Every Young Woman\s Battle
How We Love

Link to New Life Live: June 8, 2012


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  1. Abby June 8, 2012 at 2:50 pm - Reply

    I really would like to attend your Women in a Battle workshop.
    I was wondering if you have anything like it in California.
    Would you have any special price as it gets closer to the date?
    What can you do for me.

    • Pat June 9, 2012 at 6:22 pm - Reply

      I would also be interested in a weekend if it was in Northern CA.

  2. Kay June 8, 2012 at 3:30 pm - Reply

    I’m having the same problem as the last caller. Mother is a borderline hoarder. She is in no condition now to clean things up. It will be up to my bother and me to clean up all the junk in the attic, basement, and garage. This is stuff that should have been thrown out 40 years ago.

  3. Rosemary June 9, 2012 at 7:11 am - Reply

    Truely appreciate the call from the lady who gets anxious about time spent around men. Am also a nurse & have avoided the “hard questions” & tried to keep the smile in relationships. I married a man who was easily angered, we divorced, then he died a year later in an accident. While I enjoy group activities, find my self very cautious in one-one situations w/ men. You discussed forgiveness in a previous program, which I have also been confused on. My current understanding is that forgiveness is necessary to release the pain, but that does not mean we let that person into our life again, unless there is an ongoing improved change in the behavior that caused the problem. When that happens a relationship can cautiously be re-established, asking hard questions as situations arise to “nip problems in the bud”.
    Also appreciate your observation that over the years you are less inclined to “help” those who really do not want to get well. Again, my life experiences have taught me that everyone likes a free ride, but not all are willing to do the work of helping themselves. Thank you for all you do, will certainly direct others to your program.

  4. Pat June 9, 2012 at 6:20 pm - Reply

    I had a different take on Kay’s call. I also feel smothered by someone who gets cozy too fast. I don’t think it’s her, but perhaps it’s the extreme neediness of the guy trying to get close too fast. I’ve found that too often guys come on like blowtorches while women prefer warming up slowly. They are usually coming on way too strong, demanding our time and attention as if it’s all about their needs or ‘the chase.’ By the time the woman becomes interested, the man has lost interest. This is what I’ve experienced alot. My solution so far is to refrain from men and pursue my life and interests on my own.

    • CRAIG June 13, 2012 at 4:29 am - Reply

      Pat-I totally agree with you from a guy’s perspective. Once women get in their late 40’s they start to lose their looks big time. That on top of their unresolved emotional issues & the prospect of all sorts of physical alments hitting them has turned me off to dating or marriage. I much prefer to be alone. I hate this emotional crap you have to go thru. Once women hit 40 they are past their prime. So you gals had better learn to take care of yourselves because the days of knights in shining armoour are over. Not to mention the fact that I have a 401K plan & a pension plan I don’t want to lose thru divorce. There is absolutely nobody I can’t live without …………..except Jesus.

  5. Bella June 13, 2012 at 11:59 am - Reply

    Craig, turnabout is fair play. Don’t forget that men past 35 are typically beer-bellied bald men that lack chivalry, hygiene, and they would rather sit on the sofa with a remote control glued into their hand to watch sports, or they have an issue with porn.

    And any woman that is willing to take on THAT type of baggage is worth her weight in GOLD!

    • CRAIG June 14, 2012 at 4:31 am - Reply

      Actually Bella-I don’t have a beer belly & I am not bald. I stand by my comments and will not relent. You guys are looking for slaves that will have to do your bidding or face emotional hell. I will not become a financial or emotional slave to an ingrate. Good luck on your own Bella………………You are going to need a ton of it.

      • Lisa June 15, 2012 at 9:18 am - Reply

        Wow, Craig. I noticed you DIDNT deny using porn . . .
        And who in their right mind would want a guy with money thats BITTER?
        Ummm . . . No one.

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