New Life Live: March 12, 2014

Topics: GriefAngerForgivenessSexual Integrity, PornographyTrustChurch LifeMarriage
Hosts: Steve ArterburnDr. Sheri KefferMilan Yerkovich

Caller Questions:

  1. We left our angry, violent dad; how do I grieve and forgive him? 
  2. How do I recover from repeated lies about adultery and pornography and learn to trust my husband? 
  3. My wife and I disagree on the church we should attend. 

Suggested Resources:
How We Love
Forgiving Our Parents
7 Minute Marriage Solution
More Jesus, Less Religion

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  1. Susan March 12, 2014 at 4:38 pm - Reply

    Will you have a transcript available on today’s broadcast? I am interested in the section where Milan and Steve explain Borderline Personality Disorder. I know someone who fits this description to a T, but they refuse to hear there is something wrong and they need counseling. What is the best way to present this to someone in love? I really want this person to have peace in their life, and in their family. Thank you!

  2. Ronald March 13, 2014 at 11:02 am - Reply

    Towards the end of the show Jill was going to mention a resource(s) regarding when people leave a church that is mainly lead/run by a family, that they feel something is wrong or something bad will happe to them or they will experience some tho of harm. I think she called it “amiss” (not sure how to spell it). Does anyone know the resource or where to get more information. I have a few friends in that type of situation and I would like to help them.

    Thank you,


  3. Debbie March 13, 2014 at 11:46 am - Reply

    I was driving home in a blizzard when I heard your conversation with Luke. I almost had to pull over. It’s like someone had been living in my house for the last 27 years. I had my 24 year old son listen to it and tell me if that was what his life was like growing up, to which he replied, “It’s exactly what my life was like.” Obviously there needs to be an official diagnosis, but even my husband related to almost every one of the symptoms. It was so good to hear that this behavior has actually been defined and wish we would have found it sooner. Our lives have been so hard for the last 27 years with me trying to protect the kids from their verbally and emotionally abusive father and my own life and marriage being filled with turmoil, emptiness and thinking I was the one going crazy. We are still married, but hanging on by a thread. My husband said he would consider going to counseling, but he’s scared. Working on getting to a Marriage Weekend to give it one more shot, but I just don’t know.

    Thank you so much for doing what you do. You don’t know how much this program has helped me and my kids.


  4. ann March 13, 2014 at 12:09 pm - Reply

    Debbie, it must have been something or is something as to why you’re still with your husband. I know all about fear too well, I had to take a bold step in my faith and get out of the dangerous relationship I was in with my EX. Not sure what your husband is afraid of but seeing that nothing was done about the situation prior to, I doubt very seriously if he’s ready for change. However, as long as you will put up with his abusive ways why should he want to change or seek counseling. I will pray for you and your family but at some point that thin thread is going to break.

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