New Life Live: March 14, 2014

Topics: ForgivenessMarriageSexual IntegrityDivorceParentingAngerCounseling
Hosts: Steve ArterburnDr. John TownsendMilan Yerkovich

Caller Questions:

  1. It is difficult to forgive my wife for treating me unkindly; how long should it take? 
  2. Why does my husband look at other women’s butts? 
  3. Interview with Tina on the many reasons to attend the Women In the Battle workshop. 
  4. My husband is in prison; how do I tell my 9yo that his dad wants a divorce? 
  5. How do I get my angry 13yo daughter to a counselor? 

Suggested Resources:
Safe People
Healing Is a Choice
Boundaries with Teens

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  1. ann March 14, 2014 at 10:01 am - Reply

    Carol, are you serious, are you that weak for this man, he has no respect for you what so ever in public or private, what in the world is he doing that is so deserving of you putting up with such disrespect – and please, stop suggesting it’s because God is telling you to stay, stop it, that’s not true and that is not God’s voice that you’re hearing, you are afraid of this man and living in fear, he knows that and he is riding you like a flying horse. Gird your loins and do the next best thing and get your life together, I mean if you feel this is what you deserve, hey stay but don’t involve others in a life you know is not of God. I’m just saying.

  2. Lynne March 14, 2014 at 7:02 pm - Reply

    Oh please, I’m so tired of hearing these weak, pathetic, needy women whine and complain about how their husband/boyfriend looks at other women, texts other women, doesn’t respect them, etc. Of course he doesn’t respect you…you DON’T respect yourself. You have given them permission to treat you that way because you allow it and accept it. Caller #2, you are precious in the sight of God…you are His daughter. Do you really believe that your Heavenly Father wants you to be treated this way and just accept it!

    • Pam March 15, 2014 at 2:45 pm - Reply

      I believe we have to have mercy on what are labeled (weak, pathetic, needy) women who whine and complain. It is a frightening place to be and what we need are women who will come along side encouraging, not condemning and labeling them pathetic. I believe she took a great step in calling today. When you are in the midst of this overbearing behavior, it’s easy to believe the lies of the betrayer/abuser. I was there…weak and needy who whined and complained, but what helped me was not being condemned or called pathetic by someone who was impatient with the weak. I was not pathetic in God’s sight. I was His precious child who needed the help, strong, yet gentle, loving help from sisters in Christ pointing me to valuable resources to help me see clearly what was happening.

  3. Pam March 15, 2014 at 2:52 pm - Reply

    Carol, I’ve been there. Not exactly, but I was snowed by my husband for many years. I am finally seeing clearly through the Lord’s eyes. Proverbs 19:19. I kept rescuing him. You are a beautiful Child of the One True King! He would NEVER want his precious child to be treated in this way. I was told I was allowing my children to see that it is okay and normal for a woman to be treated this way. It is NOT okay, it is wrong! It is sin! Join the Lord, move on for righteousness. You as Christ’s child, don’t mix up his testimony. It’s not okay. Other women are watching you and other girls are as well. Be a Godly example to them. And for crying out loud, please, please, please protect the women and especially the young girls he is raping visually!!!!!! This man’s behavior must be stopped, if not for you then for those girls! Please call back New Life and get to Women in the Battle. You need help. I’ll pray for you to see clearly through God’s eyes and make a move with Him.

  4. ann March 17, 2014 at 10:51 am - Reply

    Pam, I’m sorry I am in agreement with Lynne, I mean seriously, at some point in your life you’re going to have to wake up and stop being treated like a used mat. I’m sure many of have been there and can understand but again each story is different and we all have stories. The point, as far as the women being weak is that they know their husbands/boyfriends are cheating on them, I’m talking right in their faces yet these women (some) just continue putting up with the disrespect and lies and expect the whining to help. Like I said before, if that’s the kind of life you want by all means go for it but don’t involve others in your foolishness if you don’t want to change or get help. I am serious.

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