New Life Live: March 18, 2014

Topics: DatingSexual IntimacyBlended FamiliesForgivenessSeparationReconciliation
Hosts: Steve ArterburnDr. Dave StoopDr. Jill Hubbard

Caller Questions:

  1. My boyfriend broke up after we had sex; now he wants to get to know me better; should I say yes? 
  2. It makes me mad that my wife gives my stepdaughter $1,000 per month. 
  3. After going to Al-Anon, what is the next step in forgiving myself? 
  4. My long-time separated husband says God wants him to be with me; what should I do?

Suggested Resources:
Is This The One
Forgiving Our Fathers and Mothers
Forgiving the Unforgivable

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  1. Jeff March 18, 2014 at 12:25 pm - Reply

    Hello all
    I was listening to the call concerning the woman who had sex with a guy on their third date and wanted to know if she should be open to a continued relationship. I was surprised that there was no mention of sin in the conversation, or a pursuit of the deeper issues at work in the woman which leads her to sleep with someone after a couple dates.
    I’m not saying I expect you to beat people over the head with the Bible, but it would have been refreshing to hear an appeal to God’s Word in this instance, since the root of the turmoil being experienced by this woman is most likely connected to the fact that she is living her relational life in rebellion against God. What do you all think?
    Thanks for your time and for your ministry.

    • Gilbert Nwosu March 18, 2014 at 12:57 pm - Reply

      It is important to ascertain the spiritual status of the woman…basically is she a Christian and does she believe in the Bible Otherwise there will be no basis in expecting so much from her? However it is important to remind her God’s standard as written in the Scriptures and encourage her in that direction, because New life Live is an outreach ministry

  2. Lisa March 18, 2014 at 12:54 pm - Reply

    I just had to comment about the call with the woman who was suffering shame about initiating an open marriage with her now ex-husband. The compassion and love (God’s love) expressed in your call was so refreshing and beautiful! As Christians, sometimes we are so quick to point out the wrongdoing of others, even and especially when we can see their own mistakes and are suffering shame. This show creates a safe place for folks to come to admit the things that they rarely can in our Christian communities. I have to donate today because I HAVE to be apart of ensuring that this safe harbor remains for those who need it. Thank you so MUCH!!!

  3. Linda March 18, 2014 at 11:21 pm - Reply

    Re:Zoia…how precious you all were with her…loved all those verses… I went through something similar but noway as serious and just tonight I realized that I , too, was searching for a connection with my father. I knew he loved me but he was a proud man. I am reading Dave’s book now…Rethinking Now We Think and am fascinated with how the brain works. I am committed to Club NewLife!

  4. ann March 19, 2014 at 12:47 pm - Reply

    The 1st caller, the one that had sex with the guy that broke up with her seems to be confused and misled. This guy really wasn’t all that interested in the beginning, it’s obvious that he only wanted sex simple as that. We all have stories and because he has a stories of his own that was no excuse to lower your standards, however, what’s done is done be careful and get to know a person, pray to God that he helps your flesh and allow your real self to be known, hopefully by a worthy gentleman.

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