New Life Live: March 20, 2015

Topics: Sexual AddictionPhysical AbuseSexual AbuseParentingDatingSexual Integrity
Hosts: Steve ArterburnDr. Dave StoopDr. Jill Hubbard

Caller Questions:

  1. My husband is recovering from porn addiction, and I hit him during a heated argument.
  2. How do I help my sister whose 13yo son acted inappropriately with his 7yo sister? 
  3. I am sad and afraid for a life alone because I got an STD from my boyfriend; do you have any advice? 
  4. Does it make sense that my husband wants me to move out but stay close by because he is responsible for me? 
  5. I found out my husband of 6mos is going to massage parlors and hiring prostitutes and it breaks my heart. 

Suggested Resources:
7 Minute Marriage Solution
Forgiving the Unforgivable
Life Recovery Bible
Healing Is a Choice

This is the Healing Is A Choice testimony Steve read on the radio today:

Before coming to this weekend I was in a dark place that felt scary, alone, and helpless. I was living in bondage – trapped by sin and shame that felt too big and unforgivable for me to bring to God. I felt small, invisible, and insignificant in the eyes of others. This weekend has been an emotional breakthrough that God can love even me. That he can use ordinary people that are broken and damaged to do great works in his name. It has given me hope when I feel I had none. It has been the toughest, most emotionally exhausting stripped raw experience I have ever had but by far the most freeing. I leave here with a new self image of who I am. Not by “man’s standard“, not by the world’s view, but as who Christ has made me and sees me to be. That with a willing attitude and of hard work I can change my life and open the door for Christ to use me for His glory. – Daminica

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  1. Emily March 20, 2015 at 10:10 am - Reply

    The live “listen now” broadcast at 1:00 est did not come in audio all week. is is One Place error?

  2. Pat March 22, 2015 at 8:41 pm - Reply

    To the caller with the STD. I read that 1 of 3 people live with the herpes virus. I think it is more common than meets the eye because no one will talk about it.
    Linda’s call made me wonder what she had in common with her friend who moved away, and what did they have in common. My husband died in 1995 and I could not balance a check book. I went to college in 1997 for 2 years. Two degrees later, and after a number of jobs that were not for me, in 2006, I went to truck school and now drive a truck daily, making more than I ever did in an office job. It was all a process, but don’t settle for anything less than your goal. Now In my own home, and value my independence, so I’ve come along way. Now is your time to learn and grow. Time to think what you would be happy doing, and take steps in that direction. So have fun and don’t give up your calling for someone else.

  3. ann March 23, 2015 at 7:09 am - Reply

    Good comment Pat. To the young lady with the STD – trust me, I know how you feel right now and trust me that it will get better but it starts with you. You are going to feel down, depressed, upset, angry, unliked, and a feeling of not being wanted; been there done that. I too am living with a STD for the rest of my life, so far so good. It’s going on 18 yrs, and my life is wonderful – ups and downs, yes, disappointments, yes, but my life is free of guilt – the disease does not have a hold on me. It took some time but don’t beat yourself up about it any longer, let this be a lesson and let the pity party end today. I thought I was the lowest, dirtiest, nastiest person in the world, I even stop going to church all because I really didn’t know about the disease and definitely about the guy that I got the disease from. Please believe me when I tell you, GOD’s got this, all you have to do is trust him and trust yourself. Forgive yourself and keep things moving in your life. You are not alone, honey there’s so many people living with herpes, when I found that out I was absolutely blown (no pun intended). You’ll be able to comfort others along the way, God’s got work for you to do and he needs you to stop living in guilt and shame, he needs all of you not some of you. Blessings and smile, you are not alone.

  4. Mike March 23, 2015 at 1:12 pm - Reply

    Within certain age parameters more people have herpes than not.
    Probably over half of your friends who have ever a t time when they were ‘wild’ (thinking spring break, clubbing,) or maybe dated someone who had a “wild” phase & got it. With women its asymptomatic (but pls have regular pap checks.) For men, the symptoms come & go. Just be assured you are not alone!

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