New Life Live: March 5, 2015

Topics: DatingMarriageParentingDivorceSexual IntegrityAdult ChildrenGetting UnstuckSexual Abuse 
Hosts: Steve ArterburnDr. Dave Stoop

Caller Questions:

  1. Is it too much to ask my fiancée to read Every Woman’s Battle? 
  2. Our 21yo son lives at home; how do I help get him unstuck? 
  3. My ex is moving his girlfriend in; how do I protect our kids? 
  4. Do I leave my husband who was jailed for lewd behavior with our own kids? 

Suggested Resources:
Is This The One
You Are What You Think
Healing Is a Choice
Forgiving the Unforgivable

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  1. Sonia March 5, 2015 at 5:53 am - Reply

    in reference to first caller. I was a woman who had a past with multiple partners,same as your fiancé I needed validation from men. People can change & be trusted. I have married a man who also cannot forget the honesty I shared about my past and it’s hurtful because I am not that person anymore. I am content with who I chose to marry & be a good mother and role model for my kids. People can be trusted if they want to change. My husband had partners as well, but he only sees my sins and downfalls. If you cannot forget her past I would leave her alone. Just because I had many partners doesn’t mean I was a loose foul woman. I was looking for someone to want me and thought that would help make them to want to be with me & only me. I never intended to have that many partners it just happened that way . I think no one is perfect & we all make stupid choices at times.

    • Pat March 7, 2015 at 8:40 pm - Reply

      Sonia, I’m glad you clarified that. Men are always playing around, and act as if it’s ok for them. I was happy to hear your honesty and good intentions for getting involved with past men. That’s more than I can say for single men, who act proud just to be playing around. You have been honest and you have earned your medal of repentance. Perhaps HE can’t accept it because HE did not have such good intentions when HE was single and fooling around. Just something to think about. Was HE a virgin when he was married?

  2. ann March 13, 2015 at 8:05 am - Reply

    to the first caller–are you serious?? Please tell me that you are perfect without one flaw, if you can tell me or anyone else that I would love to meet you and set you high on a pedestal. Okay, you have a son, is he out of wedlock? and were you a virgin (BE HONEST) prior to your son being born? Come on get over yourself, if you love this woman get over her past, I mean good grief, it’s something about this woman that’s worthy. She had a past just like you stop looking at her past and look at her present. You should have no recompense on her, Jesus doesn’t on you so if you’re going to love and marry this woman do so without all of your convictions, it’s not fair for you to continue looking at her past and throwing it all around. Stop wasting your time and hers, if you’re going to move on leave the past alone, if not, get on with your life and let her get on with hers. In the meantime I will pray for you both. And if I didn’t hear you mention that you were married to your sons mother, I apologize but if I did in fact hear right—–GET OVER IT, with or without her. Seriously.

  3. Zee February 23, 2016 at 12:47 pm - Reply

    The man with the fiancee/promiscuous past; he sounds like he has not matured spiritually. Being a believer for 10 years the way he stated, he came across as a bit arrogant. With that being said, he never mentioned, getting away on his own to pray,meditate on God’s word and seeking His wisdom. If he alluded to that, it didn’t come across. He just whined and seemed to be stuck. I hope the fiancee didn’t marry this man w/o first getting extensive couples counseling. I have been celibate for over 20 years. God returned me to a place of purity and I this is because of His forgiveness and grace.

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