New Life Live: May 15, 2015

Topics: MarriageEating DisordersChurch LifeForgiveness 
Hosts: Steve ArterburnDr. Dave StoopDr. Jill Hubbard

Caller Questions:

  1. After 4mos of marriage, my husband says it will not work and wants out. 
  2. I am in a support group for over eating and am struggling; what else can I do? 
  3. After being betrayed by two churches, is it OK with God that I stopped going? 
  4. How can I deal with my new husband who thinks he is perfect and everything is my fault? 

Suggested Resources:
Secrets Women Keep
How We Love
Forgiving the Unforgivable

This is the Healing is a Choice testimony Steve read on the radio today –

Before coming to this workshop, I just felt empty. I wouldn’t talk about my sexual abuse, and I felt alone and that no one understood. This weekend has connected me with other women who have been through similar things. I now feel like I am not alone and I want to continue healing not only for me, but for them as well. I am leaving Healing is a Choice with tools to continue healing and goals for what I want for my life. I feel hopeful that I can give God all of me and that no matter how broken I have been God can use me. I would tell anyone to definitely come to this workshop. The small groups really help you to connect with people and to feel secure and hopeful for what God has planned for your life. – Carrie

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  1. ann May 15, 2015 at 7:54 am - Reply

    oh my goodness, no wonder your husband is acting the way that he is toward you, you sound like a shy little girl, sorry to be so straight forward but (FROM MY OWN PERSONAL EXPERIENCE) people will only treat you the way you allow yourself to be treated. I had a few issues with thinking I could change men that were troubled, boy was I wrong–physical abuse, verbal abuse, disrespect. I saw all the signs at the onset of each relationship, I grew fearful of these men and they took that as a “welcome mat” to continue treating me in such ill manners, I took it until I couldn’t take it anymore, my last relationship woke me the heck up, I was tired of tucking my tail and living in fear and being unhappy – the little girl in me became a strong, fierce woman and I did what I had to do, by the grace of God of course, but then and only then was I able to rescue myself from this last volatile relationship. Sweetheart, get the help that you need as the show suggested and let that little girl inside you stop hiding the woman that you really are. I pray your health is better and I pray your strength grows stronger.

  2. ann May 15, 2015 at 8:50 am - Reply

    Shirley, you are hurt and very angry and blaming the church for not coming to your rescue. Trust me, I understand how you feel, your daughter being molested by your brother in law and then other things going on in your family, who wouldn’t be angry, hurt, and upset. The church is not the root of your problem, please seek help on forgiving and maybe counseling, for you, your daughter, and anyone else in your family that’s willing to go. I am not fond of molesters as it almost happened to me by a cousin when I was only 5 yrs old, had it not been for my mother coming to the door that would have been it. I have to ask God’s forgiveness on a constant basis because I struggle with forgiving molesters (of all kind) and I know that’s not right but I’m a work in progress, so please seek the help you feel will be beneficial to you, your daughter, and family and watch God prevail. Praying for you.

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