New Life Live: May 20, 2015

Topics: Grandparenting, Eating Disorders, Sexual Addiction, Sexual Abuse
Hosts: Steve Arterburn, Dr. Jill Hubbard, Milan Yerkovich

Caller Questions:

  1. How can I motivate my 21yo grandson to value himself and make better choices?
  2. I struggle with bulimia; what does God think of me?
  3. After 20yrs of enabling my husband’s sex addiction, how do I change things?
  4. My new marriage is great, except my wife’s past abuse causes her not to touch me.

Suggested Resources:
Changes That Heal
Worthy of Her Trust
7 Minute Marriage Solution
Surviving Sexual Abuse CD

This is the Marriage Solution Workshop testimony Steve read on the radio today –

Before coming to the New Life marriage weekend, I felt I had to worry, fix, and obsess about the future of my marriage. I wanted to come here and fix what has been broken. I have learned this weekend that this may not be fixed, but we can relate and learn about each other enough to slowly rebuild trust and to have compassion for one another. I am leaving the weekend with compassion for the “little boy”inside of my husband and with tools for effective communication. Come to this workshop if you want to truly learn and know your spouse and yourself on a different level – an intimate level.  – Mallory

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  1. alita May 20, 2015 at 1:17 pm - Reply

    Julie –
    Dear sister – Your prayers are not unheard by God. I thought God didn’t hear mine either when I couldn’t break a habit that took me away from God. It was when I finally (after years of resistance) opened up to a group of sisters who also struggled or had struggled with addiction (yes eating disorders are rooted in addiction ) that I finally got the understanding that God not only heard my prayers but that he loved me and wanted my struggle to end just as much as I did. He KNEW even before I came to that point in my life what I would be struggling with. He did not hold it against me nor was he disgusted with me as I had thought. He LOVED me just as you would love any child of your own who was struggling. If God loves me with an addiction I KNOW he loves YOU with an addiction because God is no respecter of persons. Whatever we struggle with, he treats us the same. His rules are no different for me, than they are for you. Get with the women in your group and continue to pray and fellowship and believe. I’m telling you, God will take you where you need to be and HEAL you, because he is your father and he loves you. You can rest assured of that .

  2. ann May 22, 2015 at 7:44 am - Reply

    Julie, you have full control over everything you’re doing in your life, God is not blocking any good thing from you you’re doing a good job of that all on your own. You continue to have these pity parties because you choose to, if you want change then let it start with you and watch what happens. You must let go and allow God to do what he does best and that’s helping and healing us but we must first let go of the very thing we are holding on to that we are asking God to help us with, he can’t bestow anything upon us when we’re in his way, that means that we must let it go, trust him, and be obedient during the process. I pray that you let it go and allow God deep in your hurt so he could let the light in you shine. Bless you.

  3. ann May 22, 2015 at 7:55 am - Reply

    Denise, you poor deceived woman, your husband has been stepping all over you like a door mat. It is absolutely horrible what your husband is doing to you and you are denying his cheating, his possible affairs, and his porn issues. Please gird up your loins and approach your husband on his issues, it’s extremely disrespectful and he is going to continue until you take a stand and action toward this. it’s obvious that you love your husband and for him to confirm his love for you he must want to do something about his disrespect. I will pray for you.

    • Pat May 25, 2015 at 12:29 pm - Reply

      Poor Denise. Her husband may have an STD. I would not touch him with a 10 foot pole. And he is such a liar that she has learned to not trust while he sidesteps all his issues and makes her feel like it’s her mistake? Gaslighting???
      There are so many red lights and poison warnings, he should be required to wear a Hazmat placard. Steve also brought up a very good point. That he says what she likes to hear so she thinks he is wonderful or seems he is. Remember words are cheap. It’s what he does. Quality time tells where his heart is. Where one spends time, and where one spends money is where their heart is.

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