New Life Live: May 28, 2012

Topics: Codependency, Marriage, Alcoholism, Forgiveness
Hosts: Steve ArterburnDr. John TownsendDr. Jill Hubbard
Caller Questions:

  1. Since my mom is codependent; should I be the guardian for my mentally ill sister? 
  2. How can I help my emotionally detached wife? 
  3. Should I leave my emotionally abusive husband after 22 years of marriage? 
  4. As a recovering alcoholic, how do I forgive myself and encourage my wife to forgive me? 

Suggested Resources:
Walking Into Walls
Healing Is A Choice
Secrets Women Keep
Every Mans Battle


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  1. Pat May 28, 2012 at 10:43 pm - Reply

    Wendy’s husband needs to be accountable and grow up, because Wendy is growing and he is not letting her by his controlling behavior. But as Wendy grows, she is not going to tolerate the same old childish ways of the past. And it isn’t going to go well if he blames her for issues he doesn’t care to look at.

  2. Darlene Owens May 29, 2012 at 9:32 am - Reply

    I am in a marriage and we have lived separatly for 5 years. Neither has pursued divorce or separation. We are better friends now then when we were married. There Is no indication of getting back together. I still love him but could nt live with him. I feel like as far as another relationship the thought of it is unthinkable but I am sad and lonely but dont and cant seem to move on.

    • Pat May 29, 2012 at 9:22 pm - Reply

      Darlene I think you are not used to being alone. There is so much out there you can do and learn. I have been single now since 1995. I am very leery to get involved with someone. I stay so busy I wouldn’t have time. I will never give up my life again. That is the ultimate regret I think women have. After my husband died in 1995, I went to college and earned 2 AAS degrees in 2 years. This was certainly a good way to take my mind off the negative. I have had interesting jobs since then. Then in 2005 I went to truck school, got my class A and drive 18 wheelers now. In addition, I just started a correspondence (at home) course in auto mechanics and love it. Please think of the thing or things you always wanted to do and GO FOR IT. Seize the opportunity.

    • CRAIG May 31, 2012 at 4:14 am - Reply

      I am telling you folks out there that marriage is not the way to go for the vast majority of folks. As my very wise therapist said years ago marriage is 10% fun & 90 % work. St paul was very lukewarm about marriage . All it ends up being is dealing with simmering resentments & disappointments year after year. The sexual stuff gets old very quickly as well. Having kids solves nothing. Distance is everyone’s best friend. Sin in haste,repent in leisure.

  3. Robin June 1, 2012 at 12:22 pm - Reply

    Pat, you expressed some very good advice and encouragement to Darlene. You are right in saying–there’s much out there, it really is, sometimes we get so caught up in our woes of life that we tend to shut the world out from our lives. I agree with Pat, Darlene, discern exactly what it is you’d like to do in your life, maybe a good book you’ve been wanting to read, a weekend trip you’ve been desiring, or even an intentional fast. We have to be accountable and responsible for our choices and actions in life; God is a God of second changes over and over again, don’t let guilt stop you or a bad choice. You’re still alive so go for it honey, and enjoy each moment!!!

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