New Life Live: November 11, 2013

Topics: Getting UnstuckGriefParentingAnxietyDepressionSexual IntegrityMarriage
Hosts: Steve ArterburnDr. Jill Hubbard

Caller Questions:

  1. After so many losses and medical issues, how do I hear God again? 
  2. I struggle with loneliness after I cut off my abusive family; was that the right thing to do?
  3. How should we react to our 17yo son when his anxiety and depression are out of control? 
  4. Is there hope for my marriage? My 24yo daughter is having an emotional affair with her stepfather. 
  5. How do I help my wife with her cell phone addiction instead of feeling suspicious? 

Suggested Resources:
Healing Is a Choice
Every Young Man’s Battle
Every Man’s Battle
7 Minute Marriage Solution

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  1. Bunny November 11, 2013 at 1:15 pm - Reply

    John Townsend’s book HIDING FROM LOVE addresses the dilemma of the 1st caller!!

  2. annie November 12, 2013 at 8:44 am - Reply

    I have been going through a lot of the same things the first caller has been – major losses, traumas, pain from childhood coming up, major anxiety and depression, extreme loneliness – everything seemed to crash down on me at once. However, I realize it took years to get to that point where it all finally took a toll. Medication helps – it is a gradual process – but it does help. Getting on the right medication helped me at least start functioning again – instead of feeling so horrible that I couldn’t do much of anything. I totally empathize with the pain of the 1st caller. It can feel like it’s almost too much to bear, I know. Again, the right medication and also reaching out to anyone and everyone who can be of some help and support – is crucial. One thing that helped me was to get out of the house everyday – even if it was just going to the library or a fast food drive thru. Try to be around people as much as possible! I will pray for the caller!

  3. WindyCat November 16, 2013 at 9:44 pm - Reply

    1st Caller: I don’t understand what is it that she wanted? Steve and Jill (God Bless Them) were giving her suggestions and she said that ‘she did everything’. So what do you want then? Why call and ask for advice when you’re not going to receive it???! By the way in the same boat, I am: Hypothyroid, Major Depressive Episodes (my whole life on Zoloft and Seroquel on and off throughout), isolated (no friends), in and out of jobs, I don’t go to church regularly. I feel that no one understands me at times nor do they want too. I cry sometimes (while sitting in my little studio apartment) and TELL God. “you hate me. i know you do.” In reality, God doesn’t. I know for a FACT that if I go to church gradually (commit to two Sundays per week), go back to 1 hour exercise regimens, go back to volunteering, and not let the fact that I’m socially awkward stop me from saying ‘hello’ to someone daily…I’d come out of my “God doesn’t love me” rut. I know FOR A FACT that if I get off my scared little derriere, things would turn around. It takes one great step. I am responsible for myself as a single never married woman in her late 30s. I can’t sit around crying like an overgrown child expecting people to sit there and listen to that. People are human and there is SO MUCH that people can take (and so much help they can give). I sound harsh about the 1st caller (and I’m sorry for that). However, I found myself being frustrated by her even though, I’m kinda in the same boat. She’s terribly needy and just a tad ‘delusional’ but I think it has a lot to do with her bi-polar diagnosis. I kinda understand where she’s coming from but it was very hard to listen to her blurt out “I did that already” to all of their suggestions. I just don’t think it’s possible that she’s done everything. I think her medicine needs to be adjusted because she’s thinking everyone is rejecting her because it’s ‘her’ and thats not true.

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