New Life Live: September 10, 2013


Topics: PornographyMarriageCodependencySiblings
Hosts: Steve ArterburnDr. Jill Hubbard
Caller Questions:

  1. My wife found out I stumbled when I was off porn; how can we repair our marriage? 
  2. We have been married a year; is our 18yr age difference affecting our marriage? 
  3. Am I acting codependent or Christian with my brother? 

Suggested Resources:
Secrets Women Keep
7 Minute Marriage Solution
7 Minute Marriage Solution Devotional Bible

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  1. Canda Stewart says:

    Your wisdom is priceless…and it all came from your love and dedication to the Lord. Boundaries has been so helpful to me, although I fail to use them properly at times, but now I know how I could have changed situations and relationships. Thanks so much.

  2. I just wanted to respond to the guy (Mike…I think that was his name) who was 52 and married a 34 year old woman. He said she wanted to have children and he didn’t because of his age? When I heard this….I thought….this is/was my life. I married a man 13 years older than me. He had children from previous marriages. He would say “he” did everything for me to have a child. He got a vasectomy reversal (which didn’t work) and did IVF (and I lost the baby). I could tell his heart wasn’t in it all along. I just want to say he was like Mike in wanting to “release” me from the marriage to find someone else so I could have a baby. My desire to have children is/was so great. Now, here I am almost 47 years old and live with sooooo much regret in not having children…..and I have been separated from my husband for almost 3 years now. I would encourage Mike to do whatever it takes to make his wife’s dreams come true and to put away his desires. I totally agree with Steve on this.

  3. Sorry, something didn’t work with my comment. Ginger, Thanks for the insight. I’m kind of a “wilderness Hayseed and don’t know what an IVF is. I am looking for alternatives to the situation and my vasecomy was in 1987, 26 years ago. The question is ” Are/were there alternatives that would have satisfied your craving i.e. foster parenting, adoption, etc. or is the desire to carry the baby and the whole gammet the issue. I don’t make much $. 30k max and a reversal along with the other med costs these days seem scary. We are struggling with giving that all up to God. When I mentioned that she had read “Is this the One” I did not mention that her issue was that maybe we should have dated the 10-20 other people. Thus my decision/indecision on releasing her. I look forward to another woman’s insight and thank you so much for listening and commenting on my/our situation.

  4. Mike,
    2 examples…one husband stated he would divorce her if she got pregnant. She did anyway & he loved his son. However, the husband died suddenly leaving her alone to care for the child.

    2nd ex: He had did not want kids…she got pregnant & they would not work it out. They divorced & the child had to live w/separate parents.

    Steve is the exception to the rule. Most men after age 50 don’t want to start another family. And yes contrary to what Steve says 50 is not the new 30 its 50!!!

    Pray & make the best decision for YOUR marriage. btw…this is not Biblical grounds for divorce.

    Ginger… I do so hope you will reconcile with your husband. When Hannah was weeping & wanting a child her husband asked was he not enough? I know so many couples Ginger where their children have literally torn their hearts out! Having volunteered w/a ministry for abused children there are so many ministries that would love someone like you Ginger to volunteer your time w/the kids.

    • Thanks Sue. My husband and I have more issues than the “childlessness” issue. And….sadly, I don’t think he’s enough. He’s a great person and we are great friends and that is it. We should have never married and just remained best friends. But….it is what it is.

      I agree with you regarding working with children. I have been a substitute teacher for many years. I love these kids. It is hard, however, to come back home to a childless home.

  5. I listen to for years at work on 1160 a.m. in Chicago
    God bless your ministry.

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