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Topics: Forgiveness, Pornography, Grief, Adult Children, Confrontation, Parenting,
Hosts: Steve Arterburn, Dr. Dave Stoop, Dr. Jill Hubbard
Caller Questions:
- Can I overcome my learned helplessness?
- Is there help for someone like me who lies to cover up my porn addiction?
- How does one learn to grieve when you don’t feel like it?
- A family argument turned into a hate letter from my 32yo daughter.
- How do I get my husband to change from being a “friend” of the kids to being their father?
Suggested Resources:
Forgiving the Unforgivable
Every Man’s Bible
Walking Into Walls
Book of Life Recovery
September 18, 2012 at 2:29 pm
With all due respect, caller #3 was scary. She sounds like a stalker. There was a reason her pastor blocked her on Facebook. She needs help, major therapy or she will repeat this behavior with the next pastor. It is never healthy or safe to worship your pastor.
September 18, 2012 at 7:51 pm
I’m sorry that I scared you Lynn. I do probably have the capacity to be a stalker, I guess. There is something obsessive, I guess, in stalking and I take a drug called Luvox to keep me from being obsessive in harmful ways. Also, have Jesus Christ in my life and he keeps me pursuing healing. The funny thing is that you find me scarey, and my last therapist has declared me healed. LOL
I just wanted to say, though, that y’all were a big help. I’m copying down everything y’all said and trying to process through it. The question is, do I want reality enough to experience the grief? But, the work I’ve done with my pastor and counselors in the past has taught me that though reality is scarey and messy, it is worth whatever it takes because it is where God is working. Thanks again, y’all were so polite and helpful. I really appreciate it.
September 19, 2012 at 4:47 am
For a long while, I fought God so hard. I was so content to be angry with him for so long that, yes, I’m scared to be angry with God anymore because I’m afraid that I will get stuck in that angry face again. Nobody likes me when I’m angry. It seems empowering, but it isolates me. And I have discovered that I really do actually need people in my life. Am I scared to be angry with my pastor for abandoning me? Yes, I have finally carved out a place in my church. People were scared of me when I was so full of emotions all the time. Now, my good-standing in the church depends on my painting a smile on and saying relatively acceptable things. I am scared that handling my emotions honestly will cost me all that I have gained in the last few years.
October 2, 2012 at 9:26 pm
I’m not feeling. It’s like I’m dead, but I just wrote was writing to a lady and was telling her about first my pastor and then my therapist abandoning me (before pastor died). And, I was telling her that I’m scared, and suddenly I was crying and the feelings were sweeping over me so strong. I AM VERY SCARED. Predictable, huh? Please pray.that I find my way through.