New Life Live: September 4, 2013

Topics: DatingIntimacyChurch LifeParentingAnxiety
Hosts: Dr. John TownsendDr. Sheri Denham with Larry Sonnenburg
Caller Questions:

  1. What do I do if my fiancée is still in love with her previous love? 
  2. I feel guilty for being intimate with my bishop; should I take a leave from church? 
  3. Should Christians send their kids to Catholic school? 
  4. How can I help my 60yo sister who has spiritual and anxiety attacks? 


Suggested Resources:
Beyond Boundaries
Safe People

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  1. Dot September 4, 2013 at 11:10 am - Reply

    For caller #3, Wesley, it’s good to find a type of school closest to what you believe for the sake of not looking hypocritical to the children by way of always coming against what the child is being taught. There will always be something to deal with in any type of schooling, but better to keep it at a minimum. Even while going to a non-denominational Christian school, my son would fight, “but teacher said!!”, over how to do 1st grade homework, and wouldn’t believe me that I knew anything. We eventually homeschooled. That had it’s troubles and trials, too, but Bless God, all 4 love the Lord now as adults, and have college & trade school degrees.

  2. Dana Wilson September 4, 2013 at 11:17 am - Reply

    Regarding the last caller, “Carol”, I believe, whose sister suffered from severe panic attacks and her heart stopped. The problem could be caused by a heart problem. I have a heart valve problem and experience these. The doctor explained to me that the heart may go into an arrhythmic pattern, causing the panicky feeling to occur. This problem can probably be diagnosed by an echocardiogram. It does not always show up on an EKG. The doctor placed me on a beta-blocker to regulate the rhythm. It has to be monitored periodically.

  3. Regina G. September 4, 2013 at 12:13 pm - Reply

    Thank you, thank you, thank you for clearly making the point that Catholics are also Christians!! I am a Catholic listener to your show. Of course, there are differences in some of our beliefs, but the fundamental belief that Jesus Christ is Redeemer and Savior is shared by Catholic Christians and Protestant Christians alike! Thanks again for your comments!

  4. Josh K September 4, 2013 at 2:23 pm - Reply

    I know this is a show that doesn’t talk about spiritual warfare for whatever reason (most don’t), but it’s pretty clear to me that last caller’s sister is under demonic control. Find someone in your area who will battle spiritually for her. Fast and pray.

  5. Kathy September 4, 2013 at 3:24 pm - Reply

    For Wesley: I do not agree with the counsel given. You do not need to place your child in an environment that consistently teaches spiritual concepts that is against your faith. You seek God and go according to His word for your decision concerning your child. I do like the New Life program, but do not agree with them on this one.

    Your child is young and impressionalbe and you do not need to confuse him by sending him to a school that teaches what you don’t agree with.

  6. Lynn September 4, 2013 at 5:13 pm - Reply

    Of good grief….today was the babbling caller show. Callers #3 and 4 kept going on and on. Again callers, this is a call-in advice show which means you call, ask a question and then be quiet and listen.

  7. Brooklyn September 4, 2013 at 6:57 pm - Reply

    Yes! Catholics are Christians; however, Wesley’s son will be taught Catholic doctrine and this may cause quite a bit of confusion for a young child of a Protestant family. I disagree with today’s advice. There must be other good schools in the area. Being it is a Catholic school does not guarantee that it offers a “good” education. I encourage Wesley to shop around.

  8. Quincy September 4, 2013 at 6:59 pm - Reply

    Not good advice on the school issue today.

  9. Leigh September 4, 2013 at 7:54 pm - Reply

    I also disagreed with the advice given to Wesley today. I think his concerns were very legitimate and shoud have been validated more regarding his concerns about the Catholic school. There were some good points made in the discussion, but as a parent I totally identify with his feelings to consider his faith more highly than the education. If you are that convicted about choosing a school that will teach fundamental religious differences to your child 6-8 hours of their day, by all means pray about it and let God lead you. It almost sounded as if the counselors started finding fault with Wesley for even being concerned of the possible outcome. That is way off in my opinion. You were right on, Wesley. God will give you wisdom to make decisions for your child that He may not give to others. Don’t compromise your beliefs.

  10. Pat September 7, 2013 at 7:01 pm - Reply

    For Francine (caller #2) may want to check out blogs at

    For Wesley I would also choose another Christian school. A public school won’t offer anything Christian, but will make sure they don’t ‘go there’ at all. I was raised Catholic too and WOW. I never thought anyone would think they are not Christian. Old Testament Jews maybe, but Catholic? NO WAY! Jesus is also the man with Catholics, but they also believe saints stand for different things like finances, or illness, cancer, etc. Because they are close to Jesus, Catholics are taught that they can pray to them also. I do not follow it, but just saying. I’m sure it’s changed but in my day Catholic school was very structured, like the military. However I also think they teach too much additional tradition, that isn’t necessarily truth. I thought it was kind of strange to say Wesley had deeper issues but perhaps because his father did not offer the structure, maybe it was handed down? If I had kids starting out-I would insist on anything but a public school. The beliefs and his peers in a public school will not be good influence. There will be no higher reason to avoid cliques and other things secular kids do. Even if it’s temporary, It will start him out better with more structure and beliefs in a higher purpose, and even when he wanders and get in trouble as a teenager, he will return to it later when he’s older.

  11. Sherri September 9, 2013 at 6:17 am - Reply


    I love listening to your show and I have supported your ministry in the past when I was able to do so. I find I learn so much each day I tune in to listen to your podcast. I do have one overarching concern. I understand you are on the radio and have severe time constraints, but sometimes I feel the way that some of the hosts abropley interrupt callers leans more to the disrespectful spectrum in tone and manner. In particular, I have heard John Townsend compel callers to shut up, interrupt them in mid thought/sentence to tell them to listen to his point. And this behavior is not limited to callers, over the years I’ve heard him interrupt the other hosts just so that his point would dominate and win out in the conversation. I’ve heard him tell the other hosts to be quite, even though he was the one who interrupted them, so that he could state his point. I am not claiming that this verbal sparring style is limited to John, but it is most obvious when he is on air. I just believe a little common curtesy with each other and the callers should be exercised with more discretion. I don’t believe it is curteous or respectful for any adult to tell another adult to “shut up” even with the time restraints imposed by the limitations of radio. It just sounds rude, even if its unintentional.

    • Anne September 9, 2013 at 10:40 am - Reply

      I don’t mind when John or other hosts need to interrupt callers, because at times, it’s necessary. I’ve listened for many moons and feel like I have a decent grasp on the their style. I think John is assertive and is comfortable in his own skin. He does tend to dominate conversations.

      And I do like it when Sheri or Jill has a different perspective or often Steve will share first and John will offer up a different take or piggyback on something he said. Maybe John isn’t aware he tends to dominate. Regardless I’ve learned a lot from him.

    • Two December 13, 2013 at 6:23 am - Reply

      Yes, Mr. Townsend bothers me as well – all the more because he is so wise and has great points to express. His wisdom can be overpowered by abruptness. I think it has to do with an electronic delay. I think the caller doesn’t hear the host for a second, and vice versa, so coming to a stopping point takes a few seconds longer. Live shows can have a delay so that a foul mouthed caller can be stopped and not aired. That said, I have called and Mr. Stoop was gracious to let me come to a stopping point.
      As for all the comments about schools, I totally agree that it depends. That’s what the hosts said. You have to know yourself, your child, the administration, the curriculum, the environment (other kids) etc. The hearts of my two kids are influenced very differently.

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