New Life Live: September 4, 2014

Topics: ForgivenessMarriageEmotional AbuseAffairsDisclosureNarcissistsDatingGrief
Hosts: Steve ArterburnDr. John TownsendDr. Sheri Keffer

Caller Questions:

  1. Why do Christians label everyone’s pain as unforgiveness? 
  2. How can I love my husband after he has caused me so much emotional pain? 
  3. My wife doesn’t know everything about my affairs; should I tell her? 
  4. After breaking up with my narcissistic boyfriend, I am having trouble moving on. 

Suggested Resources:
Healing Is a Choice
Boundaries in Marriage
Is This The One

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  1. ann September 4, 2014 at 12:21 pm - Reply

    Linda, why are you not seeking help for yourself? you are worthy of much. If you continue to allow this man, your husband to step all over you he will, maybe it’s some of those steps that you’re okay with but how much more of this madness are you going to continue to take from him, you are just as good and as important. It’s high time to take a deep look inside yourself and see your worth, seriously enough is enough. Trust God that he will help you but you have to make the first move, it’s all up to you. Blessings & prayers to you.

  2. ann September 4, 2014 at 12:43 pm - Reply

    to the guy that’s a sex addict: Why were you not feeling the way that you do now when you were having all of these affairs? why are you so frightened now? whatever the outcome will be you brought it on yourself, it’s obvious that you didn’t give a hoot about your wife then, why now? You hurt her very badly and I’m sure her wounds are still healing, please don’t get me wrong, I know this is difficult for you as well but was all that sex with the other women worth it. Okay, so you’re a sex addict, get help for yourself, I mean you’ve been knowing about your addiction but you chose to act on it with other women instead of acting on it with your wife and a counselor. If your wife leaves you which she has all right to do, at least you’ll be free from this evil that dwells inside you or I sure pray that you will be freed from it. Too bad you didn’t realize the consequences before your last affair. Maybe now you could be of help to other men that are involved in affairs and addicted to sex…

  3. Julie Elsasser September 4, 2014 at 1:20 pm - Reply

    Please, please, please post Linda’s comments regarding emotional abuse on New Life TV! I called NLL in July and Marilyn Meberg told me the same things. I just want to see Sheri’s face when she is telling this woman that she is THE KING’S DAUGHTER, like Marilyn told me. My husband left a few days after I phoned NLL, when I called his probation officer for help. He has now moved out and filed divorce because I called him on his behaviors. I feel tremendous guilt and I struggle with feelings that I wasn’t forgiving enough, I didn’t try hard enough, and that I should have been a “better” Christian wife. I am seeing my regular counselor, going to church group and starting a new Divorce Care group that your staff recommended. I’m reading “Healing is a Choice” and will read “Hope and Healing From Emotional Abuse” soon. THANK YOU, THANK YOU, THANK YOU for all the support; I’m hooked on NL TV and I can listen when I am alone and lonely for .

  4. Grace September 4, 2014 at 1:56 pm - Reply

    Please post Linda’s comments on New Life TV as soon as possible! I want to see Sheri’s face when she tells Linda that she is THE King’s Daughter! I called NLL in July and Marilyn Meberg told me the same thing. I went to my husband’s probation officer and my husband moved out and filed divorce in a very short time when he realized I called him on his behavior. I have tremendous feelings of guilt, being a quitter, and not continuing my “covenant” marriage, but my husband is NOT recognizing that he is THE King’s Son, as well. I’m extremely sad, but I am seeing my counselor routinely, participating in a new small group at church, and starting a Divorce Care group and reading books recommended by your staff. NL TV helps me daily, in between times, when my codependent self misses my narcissistic husband! THANK YOU, NEW LIFE!

  5. Matt September 5, 2014 at 7:53 am - Reply

    You guys did wonderful with the second caller (Linda). The way you comforted her was awesome.

  6. Pat September 6, 2014 at 7:24 pm - Reply

    It seems to me that Linda’s husband wants to shine, while she is a maid and supports his cause.

  7. Joyce Howell September 7, 2014 at 11:59 am - Reply

    Hi Steve and All,

    I hear so much about addictions, especially sex addictions. I was a traumatized wife and did not realize it until I started listening to you all. I tend to come from left field on things, but do wives know that sexually addicted husbands can bring serious disease to a wife? There is probably some serious stats these days on the incidents of ovarian cancer. Remember the book the Many Lives of Henrietta Lacs? Encourage Pap Smears!!!!!

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