New Life Live: September 5, 2013

Topics: Parent IssuesBoundariesAlcoholicsFastingSexual Integrity
Hosts: Dr. Henry CloudDr. Jill Hubbard with Larry Sonnenburg
Caller Questions:

  1. Comment: Jill, I followed your advice and it was great! 
  2. My unstable mom is affecting my marriage; what boundaries can I set? 
  3. Should I divorce my husband for always drinking with his high school buddies? 
  4. Is fasting from cigarettes spiritually the same as fasting from food? 
  5. Am I judging unmarried couples by not allowing them to sleep together in my house? 

Suggested Resources:
How To Have That Difficult Conversation
Boundaries in Marriage

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  1. Marie September 5, 2013 at 12:31 pm - Reply

    I don’t completely agree with your reply to the lady that asked if she and her husband were wrong to not allow the unmarried couple to sleep together in their home. I think as believers we have the responsibility to share the truth of God’s word with unbelievers. To me, it’s not an act of judgment; it’s an act of love because we care about their salvation. When I read the headlines that the Pope said who was he to judge these men about their homosexuality. I say, you’re right; we’re not to judge them; however, I believe we have the responsibility to tell them what God has to say about homosexuals and fornication and that He does have the right to judge. Again, I say it’s about love and kindness because we care about their souls. After all, Jesus didn’t only preach to believers and the apostle Paul didn’t either. I believe there’s a scripture that says something like, “how will they know if we don’t tell them.”

    • Pat September 7, 2013 at 7:43 pm - Reply

      People are afraid to speak the truth. Everyone has wimped out and afraid to offend others. They would rather let the world run amuck than offend anyone. We now have women marrying women and men marrying men and we are supposed to be ok with it. Also we can no longer offend anyone by sticking by the 10 Commandments, prayer in schools, or whatever. The country has wimped out; sad, very sad.

  2. Cynthia Stone September 5, 2013 at 3:27 pm - Reply

    I would disagree with Henry’s argument. This is not someone condemning the couple living together. Instead it is asking them to abide by the standards of this woman and her husband. Just like we ask people to take off their shoes when they enter my house, she is asking this relative to sleep in separate rooms. Regarding judgment by this couple about this request, I would not be bothered by that–we all make value judgments and if it is something that causes a split in your relationship with them, then you have hit a raw nerve. As for your son and daughter in law, if they feel so badly about all this perhaps they can meet this other couple at a resort or hotel when they want to see them.

    • Pam September 25, 2013 at 1:39 pm - Reply

      I have to agree with Henry on this one…I would allow relatives to stay in my house with or without children because If we are living for the Lord people know what we believe, I assume they’ve known these people a while so they had plenty of times to witness. You love them and if you want, let them know where you stand on the issue. Every one has a conscience and knows it wrong.

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