Satisfied Singleness

Now for the matters you wrote about: It is good for a man not to marry. But since there is so much immorality each man should have his own wife, and each woman her own husband. – 1 Corinthians 7:1-2

Satisfied Singleness

According to the latest U.S. Census, there are 124.6 million single adults in America. This constitutes a large, and growing, portion of our society, yet a portion that’s often overlooked in the area of spiritual care. So if you’re a single adult or know one, I’d like to speak to you.

You may be single by choice or as a result of unfortunate circumstances. You may have future plans to marry, or you may sense God calling you to a life of singleness. No matter what your situation, God’s will for you right now is to be satisfied in Him, and to trust His plan for you at this time in your life.

You get to choose how you respond to your singleness. Learn from it. Grow in it. Singleness does not have to equal loneliness. You can survive the temptations unique to your situation in our world today. Start by going to God and connecting with others.

– Steve Arterburn

I think I’ve discovered the secret of life, you just hang around long enough to get used to it.” – Charles M. Schulz (1922-2000)

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5 Comments

  1. Nancy February 13, 2015 at 8:43 am - Reply

    This is not easy. I have been single for 10 years (after 25 years of marriage). There is a constant battle out there in the world with expectations like: “after 3 months of dating there will be sex,” “Not, me I make them wait 6 months.” For those of us who believe in whole-life oneness, it is difficult. Many of my friends (including “Christians”) say that I am living in the dark ages. Many others call me a nun and say they are not willing to be a monk.
    I was wondering if New Life has ever thought of offering match services. If your various ministries are followed by true Christians, this would give singles New Hope. Thank you.

    • lucy February 13, 2015 at 9:53 am - Reply

      I agree the “Christian” dating sites had men posing as Christians. I’ve chosen to accept if the Lord has a man cross my path or not. I’m serving in church and the Lord is placing people in my life

  2. Dan February 12, 2016 at 7:41 am - Reply

    “God’s will for you right now is to be satisfied in Him, and to trust His plan for you at this time in your life”. Absolutely. Being single is actually OK and it is tragic that singles are often seen as the ‘untouchables’, ostracized by married couples, and even pastors, through suspicion and distrust. This marginalization only contributes to singles having to “survive the temptations unique to their situation in our world today,” as you put it.

    Singles often need to be allowed to just ‘be’ – they need acceptance and inclusion by fellow believers, so that they can continue to be content with who they are in Christ – otherwise the temptation is to head to wherever that acceptance and inclusion is guaranteed.

  3. Chris February 12, 2016 at 8:20 am - Reply

    Singleness as Christians is a celebration of God’s purpose. Apostle Paul commend and instruct the unmarried in holy living.

  4. Tanya February 12, 2016 at 6:58 pm - Reply

    In my secular formative years, as early as I can recall, I felt a destiny to be single. When I was a toddler, adults proverbially ask tots, “Do you want to get married and have children?” I would say, “No, I want to grow up to be an ‘old maid.’ ”

    Further in Corinthians 7, Paul wrote in verses 32-35:

     But I want you to be without care. He who is unmarried cares for the things of the Lord—how he may please the Lord.  But he who is married cares about the things of the world—how he may please his wife. There is a difference between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman cares about the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit. But she who is married cares about the things of the world—how she may please her husband. And this I say for your own profit, not that I may put a leash on you, but for what is proper, and that you may serve the Lord without distraction. (1 Corinthians 7:32-35 NKJV)

    I use the NKJV, because I like the “archaic” reference to a virgin as synonymous with an unmarried girl. I was born to Jesus Christ in my early thirties, and it took a couple of more years to put into effect that sexual relations with my boyfriend were incompatible with my faith. Since, as always, I couldn’t figure getting married, the only alternative was to quit living in sin. Hence I became solo. Upon noting in my mid-forties that I had been following God’s rules for ten years, I joked to myself that He removed my sin, added the water of life, and now I am a reconstituted virgin (a jest I’m externalizing for the first time right now). Thus I have remained to now in my mid-sixties. I had been a boy-crazy girl, and my life of abstinence was so alien that my pre-Christian self would have predicted zero odds. I have at various junctures vehemently protested to God that I have to be one to take all the time that “normal people” share with spouses and offspring, and put it into His word, seeking and not finding whatever it is I am missing the boat on in regard to my relationship with Him.

    Today the decades seem like the blink of an eye. As the layers of wanting to be conformed to the world, thinking that being man-less makes me less, and comparing myself to others have been shed by recovery processes, I am living in an extraordinarily orchestration that continually unfolds to show Jesus as my sole Valentine is a peerless adventure.

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