Married to Someone I Have Never Loved

Rick sent us an email telling us that he’s been married to his wife for 19 years, but has never loved her. He describes her as a person who is not very caring or loving, even with her own children.   Should he walk away from the marriage or take steps to restore it?   Find out here.


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Afraid to Leave Grown Daughter Behind

Steve has some short and sweet advice for Maria who wants to move to California but she doesn’t want to leave her 33 year-old daughter to fend for herself…   #WATCH more.


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What Will The In-Laws Think?

Joanne’s husband told her that he is not longer in love with her and wants a divorce. She is plagued by worry about what her in-laws are going to think of her.  She is worried about her reputation.   Hear what I have to say:

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We Need To Talk

These five words that strike fear into the hearts of husbands everywhere, and they might even be the five most feared words in marriage.   Here are some strategies to make this conversation a productive one, not a scary one!  Check it out!

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Long Distance Disaster

Debbie thought her marriage of 32 years could withstand her husband taking a job out of state, but now her husband is with another woman and wants a divorce.  Should she fly out and confront him face to face? Or let the marriage go? What do you think? Find out now.


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If I Disagree, It Causes Too Much Tension

A subscriber wrote in asking “How can I disagree with my “pleaser” husband without making him feel inadequate?” She described him as becoming rattled & defensive to the point that she was starting to become panicked and avoidant. Milan Yerkovitch has some analysis and advice for her. Watch for more.

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Taking Responsibility

Some Christians are waiting for God to do what God is waiting for them to do…and that’s taking responsibility for our own actions as they relate to our spiritual growth. We have to be willing to be responsible, and not just pray for God to take care of it for us. Watch the video for more.

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My Biggest Blessing

Ever wondered how Steve met his lovely wife, Misty? Steve puts it like this: “Of all the blessings in my life, none compares to the day my wife, Misty, walked into my life.” Click on the image below and watch Misty share their story. And if you have not already checked out our new TV Channel, you can check it out here.


Understanding Depression

Why am I so depressed? Why this turmoil within me? Put your hope in God, for I will still praise Him, my Savior and my God. – PSALM 42:11 HCSB

Understanding Depression

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The sadness that accompanies any significant loss is an inevitable fact of life. In time, sadness runs its course and gradually abates. Depression, on the other hand, is a physical and emotional condition that is, in almost all cases, treatable with medication and counseling. Depression is not a disease to be taken lightly. Left untreated, it presents real dangers to patients’ physical health and to their emotional well-being.

If you find yourself feeling “blue,” perhaps it’s a logical reaction to the ups and downs of daily life. But if your feelings of sadness have gone on longer than you think they should—or if someone close to you fears that your sadness may have evolved into clinical depression—it’s time to seek professional help.

Some days are light and happy, and some days are not. When we face the inevitable dark days of life, we must choose how we will respond. Will we allow ourselves to sink even more deeply into our own sadness, or will we do the difficult work of pulling ourselves out? We bring light to the dark days of life by turning first to God, and then to trusted family members, friends, and medical professionals. When we do, the clouds will eventually part, and the sun will shine once more upon our souls.

Emotions we have not poured out in the safe hands of God can turn into feelings of hopelessness and depression. God is safe. ~ Beth Moore

Self-blame over the past leads to depression in the present and poor decisions for the future.   ~ Barbara Johnson

Feelings of uselessness and hopelessness are not from God, but from the evil one, the devil, who wants to discourage you and thwart your effectiveness for the Lord.  ~ Bill Bright

Don’t let aridity distress you: perfection has nothing to do with such things—only with virtues. Your devotion will come back when you are least expecting it.   ~ St. Teresa Of Avila

Dear Lord, You have promised to lift me up from the pit of my despair, and You have promised to place a new song on my lips.  If the darkness envelops me, Father, remind me of those promises. And give me the wisdom to accept help from the people You have placed along my path. Amen

We’d consider it a privilege to help you with these and any other struggles. Please join us at one of our weekend workshops.

New Life Live: August 23, 2013


Topics: DatingGuiltParent IssuesMarriageDivorceParenting,
Hosts: Dr. Dave Stoop, Guest Host Max Lucado with Larry Sonnenburg

Caller Questions:

  1. My boyfriend blames me for our break-up; how do I get over the guilt? 
  2. How can I get closer to my dad since my mom died last year? 
  3. My wife agreed to move to Texas with me, but now she is stalling. 
  4. What can I do to help my 3 young kids during the divorce? 

Suggested Resources:
You’ll Get Through This
Forgiving the Unforgivable
7 Minute Marriage Solution

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