How to Talk to a Child About Death

Recently, Tessa received a letter from her sponsor child who lives far away. The child asked about Tessa’s mother, who passed away some months ago, but Tessa avoided the question. She wants to know how to tell this child about her passing. Dr. Dave Stoop offers some advice – click here to watch the video.

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New Life Live: April 21, 2015

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Topics: ParentingMarriageIntimacyHoardingNarcissismAdult ChildrenAddictions 
Hosts: Steve ArterburnDr. Jill Hubbard

Caller Questions:

  1. Should we allow our 15yo son to get his driver’s license even though he did not get good grades? 
  2. Our sex life is not as good as I would like; how do I turn it around? 
  3. Why do I hoard things, and why do I get angry when someone finds out? 
  4. My husband is a narcissist, and we don’t agree on anything. 
  5. Should we do an intervention for our 37yo son who relapsed? 

Suggested Resources:
Every Man’s Bible
How We Love
New Life Every Day Devotional
Life Recovery Bible

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New Life Live: April 14, 2015

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Topics: ParentingDivorceSexual AbuseAffairsIn-lawsAnxiety 
Hosts: Steve ArterburnDr. Dave Stoop

Caller Questions:

  1. Is it better for my 5yo son to live with a single parent or move away with his mom and her boyfriend? 
  2. Was I sexually abused growing up, or was it consensual since the boy was only one year older? 
  3. My wife is having an affair again; is it time to file for divorce? 
  4. Interview with Harmony Dust, an activist for women who worked in the sex industry. 
  5. Comment: I was like the girl yesterday who was hated by her future mother-in-law, but now we have a great relationship! 
  6. Do I have social anxiety and what can I do about it? 

Suggested Resources:
Preparing Your Son for Every Man’s Battle
Healing Is a Choice
The Emotionally Destructive Relationship
Forgiving Our Parents
Life Recovery Bible

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New Life Live: April 10, 2015

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Topics: ForgivenessAffairsMarriageParentingSexual AbuseChildhood IssuesSexual IntegrityDivorce 
Hosts: Steve ArterburnDr. Dave Stoop

Caller Questions:

  1. How do I forgive the family friend who molested my daughters? 
  2. My wife had an affair 2yrs ago; how do I forgive the other man? 
  3. Am I unable to make eye contact with others because my dad berated me? 
  4. How do I approach my 18yo daughter about her birth control pills? 
  5. Should I divorce my pastor husband because he won’t go to counseling? 

Suggested Resources:
Forgiving the Unforgivable
Forgiving Our Parents
How We Love Our Kids
Secrets Young Women Keep

This is the Healing is a Choice testimony Steve read on the radio today:

Before coming to this weekend I needed to understand the grief from my father’s death 13 years ago. I needed God’s direction on whether I should reconcile with my alcoholic ex-husband of 27 years marriage, and guilt for my unfaithfulness towards end of marriage.  This weekend has been freeing from my guilt of leaving my marriage, and helping me forgive my husband but knowing what to require for reconciliation. I am leaving this workshop feeling God’s forgiveness anew, and with a fresh look and attitude at what has happened in my life and what to look forward to. - Colleen

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New Life Live: April 7, 2015

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Topics: PornographyDatingCommitmentEmploymentCaretakersParentingGrace, Brain Injury 
Hosts: Steve ArterburnDr. Dave Stoop

Caller Questions:

  1. My dad is a porn addict; how do I bring up the subject so he can get help? 
  2. Do I have commitment issues after dating for 4yrs? 
  3. What is a realistic compromise between waiting for my dream job or taking any job? 
  4. How can I grieve that my 15yo daughter’s brain injury is in decline? 
  5. Comment: The man who couldn’t love his teen daughter needs to read about the five love languages. 
  6. Your advice that we all need grace from people touched a nerve; why is that so tough for me? 

Suggested Resources:
Worthy of Her Trust
Forgiving the Unforgivable
Is This The One
NIV Spiritual Renewal Study Bible
Toxic Faith  (not available from New Life)

This is the Every Man’s Battle testimony Steve read on the radio today:

When I arrived Friday a feeling of hopelessness and fear filled me, not believing that I would ever become the man I have always truly wanted to be. I used my addiction as an easy scapegoat to escape the reality that I would truly never accomplish becoming worthy of respect. Two days later, I am now fully in my reality of who I am. I am finally real. Thank you guys so much! My battle is not over, and to be honest, I don’t think the battle will ever end, but now I have an army. Now I have weapons. Now I have a reason to actually fight back and not escape reality. Now I have the greatest leader commanding my heart – my Lord and Savior Jesus Christ! There is no way that I can think to repay everyone here for the help they have provided me, but rest assured that when we get up to heaven and meet our perfect general, I will pay all of you back.  - Peter

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New Life Live: March 30, 2015

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Topics: PornographyMarriageBoundariesCodependencyAnger 
Hosts: Steve ArterburnDr. Dave StoopDr. Jill Hubbard

Caller Questions:

  1. My husband thinks his porn use is no big deal and dismisses my feelings; what do I do now? 
  2. How do I convince my friend to not give up on his rocky marriage? 
  3. Why do I have anger and resentment when I have to say no? 

Suggested Resources:
Forgiving the Unforgivable
Worthy of Her Trust
Just Us
Healing Is a Choice

This is the Every Man’s Battle testimony Steve read on the radio today:

I was angry when I came to EMB, but I didn’t know why. I wrestled with whether I was here because my heart is truly repentant or simply because I got caught. I love the Lord, but I am a proud man. I enjoyed pornography, but when I indulged, the Holy Spirit would convict me. I have tried numerous times on my own to quit, but have not been successful. I realize that if my heart is not truly repentant, EMB and this weekend is just a waste of my time and money. I have decided and I am resolved to be a man of sexual integrity. If my wife stays or goes, if my friends know or don’t know, if my church family thinks I am a hypocrite. I am ready. EMB has given me hope, but more than just the fleeting kind of hope that I have experienced before an emotional high after a fiery sermon or motivational talk. My hope is now based on examples of men I met who are victorious over this struggle and have given me Biblically based practical tools I can use to have lasting success. - Will


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New Life Live: March 20, 2015

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Topics: Sexual AddictionPhysical AbuseSexual AbuseParentingDatingSexual Integrity
Hosts: Steve ArterburnDr. Dave StoopDr. Jill Hubbard

Caller Questions:

  1. My husband is recovering from porn addiction, and I hit him during a heated argument.
  2. How do I help my sister whose 13yo son acted inappropriately with his 7yo sister? 
  3. I am sad and afraid for a life alone because I got an STD from my boyfriend; do you have any advice? 
  4. Does it make sense that my husband wants me to move out but stay close by because he is responsible for me? 
  5. I found out my husband of 6mos is going to massage parlors and hiring prostitutes and it breaks my heart. 

Suggested Resources:
7 Minute Marriage Solution
Forgiving the Unforgivable
Life Recovery Bible
Healing Is a Choice

This is the Healing Is A Choice testimony Steve read on the radio today:

Before coming to this weekend I was in a dark place that felt scary, alone, and helpless. I was living in bondage – trapped by sin and shame that felt too big and unforgivable for me to bring to God. I felt small, invisible, and insignificant in the eyes of others. This weekend has been an emotional breakthrough that God can love even me. That he can use ordinary people that are broken and damaged to do great works in his name. It has given me hope when I feel I had none. It has been the toughest, most emotionally exhausting stripped raw experience I have ever had but by far the most freeing. I leave here with a new self image of who I am. Not by “man’s standard“, not by the world’s view, but as who Christ has made me and sees me to be. That with a willing attitude and of hard work I can change my life and open the door for Christ to use me for His glory. - Daminica

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New Life Live: March 19, 2015

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Topics: ParentingForgivenessSexual IntegrityMarriageDisclosure 
Hosts: Steve ArterburnDr. Dave Stoop

Caller Questions:

  1. I hate my 17yo daughter; how do I change my attitude? 
  2. When my husband gets out of jail, how can he stop fantasizing about other women? 
  3. Why can’t I be completely honest with my wife? 
  4. I have questioned my love for my wife for years; what should I do? 

Suggested Resources:
How We Love Our Kids
Every Man’s Bible
How We Love

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New Life Live: March 17, 2015

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Topics: IrelandNarcissistsAddictionsBoundariesParentingPassive-AggressiveForgivenessAdult Children 
Hosts: Steve ArterburnDr. Dave StoopDr. Jill Hubbard

Caller Questions:

  1. Interview with Christine, a friend of New Life who lives in Ireland. 
  2. Am I the manipulative narcissist my wife thinks I am? 
  3. I left the house because our 25yo addict son was affecting my recovery; how can my wife and I resolve this? 
  4. Can passive-aggressive tendencies show up as early as 5yrs old? 
  5. What is the difference between forgiveness and trust in family situations? 
  6. Interview with Dermot, the tour guide for our upcoming trip to Ireland. 

Suggested Resources:
7 Minute Marriage Solution
How We Love
How We Love Our Kids
Forgiving the Unforgivable
Forgiving Our Fathers and Mothers

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New Life Live: March 12, 2015

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Topics: MarriageBoundariesAnxietyFearIntimacySexual AddictionSexual Integrity 
Hosts: Steve ArterburnDr. Dave StoopDr. Jill Hubbard

Caller Questions:

  1. My husband views boundaries put on his sexual addictions as controlling. 
  2. What does it mean when a person says their religion is Hebrew? 
  3. Do you think a polygraph test is helpful in sexual integrity issues? 
  4. How do I move forward through the anxiety and fear of losing relationships? 
  5. I am in a marriage in limbo and void of any romance; what shall I do? 

Suggested Resources:
7 Minute Marriage Solution
7 Minute Marriage Solution Devotional Bible
Every Heart Restored
Worthy of Her Trust
Emotional Freedom Workbook
You Are What You Think

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