What Causes Sex Addiction?

Lisa is wondering what causes sexual addiction. She wrote in to describe what’s been going on in her marriage, but before they answer, Dr. Dave Stoop and Jason Martinkus want to examine the question she’s asking. Today, they’ll talk about what may really be going on in Lisa’s marriage. Watch the video.

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New Life Live: July 27, 2015

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Topics: Marriage, Communication, Divorce, Intimacy, Fantasy
Hosts: Steve Arterburn, Dr. Dave Stoop, Milan Yerkovich

Caller Questions:

  1. The Healing Is a Choice Weekend gave me a lot of hope; my sister-in-law just signed up for the next one! 
  2. How can I help my sister-in-law get my brother to communicate in their marriage?
  3. We loved the Marriage Weekend, but my husband is not comfortable participating in the Comfort Circle. 
  4. Shall I divorce my current wife to marry my first wife?
  5. I don’t like fantasy sex with my pastor husband of 36yrs.

Suggested Resources:
How We Love
7 Minute Marriage Solution
Every Man, God’s Man  (not available from New Life)

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New Life Live: July 24, 2015

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Topics: Dating, Adult Children, Homeless, Pornography, Parenting, Divorce
Hosts: Steve Arterburn, Dr. Dave Stoop

Caller Questions:

  1. My boyfriend of one year is in love with me; am I being too cautious if I don’t feel the same?
  2. How can I help my 35yo son who has been homeless for 10yrs?
  3. Should I separate from my husband who has had a porn addiction for 45yrs?
  4. My mom only showed tough love; how do I NOT turn into that kind of parent?
  5. Now that the kids are grown, is it OK to divorce my husband?

Suggested Resources:
Every Man’s Bible
Worthy of Her Trust
Forgiving Our Parents

This is the Every Man’s Battle Workshop testimony Steve read on the radio today:

God started the EMB workshop for me. I have learned more about myself, marriage, and my wife this weekend then I have my entire life. I finally feel like I can live a shame free life for the first time since my wife found out about my addiction. If I continue to act out after learning the things that I have learned this weekend, then I truly do not deserve to be with my wife. This EMB workshop has helped me to see both my marriage and my wife in a whole different and better light. – Corey

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New Life Live: July 23, 2015

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Topics: Anxiety, Dating, Blended Families, Marriage, Intimacy, Affairs
Hosts: Steve Arterburn, Dr. Dave Stoop, Milan Yerkovich

Caller Questions:

  1. Why have I had anxiety attacks since childhood?
  2. I am dating a woman with grown children and one does not like me; how do I change that?
  3. Is it wrong I do not want to have sex with my womanizing husband?
  4. Should I require my husband to make a full disclosure about his infidelity?

Suggested Resources:
Fear and Anxiety CD
7 Minute Marriage Solution
How We Love

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New Life Live: July 21, 2015

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Topics: Sexual Abuse, Adult Children, Reconciliation, Marriage, Hypnosis
Hosts: Steve Arterburn, Dr. John Townsend, Dr. Dave Stoop

Caller Questions:

  1. My dying dad revealed his brother, a church elder, molested him as a child; should I tell the church?
  2. How do I reconcile with my daughter after I got CPS involved with her injured son?
  3. I don’t want to lose my family through divorce; how can I repair things?
  4. Do you think hypnosis would work to heal my self-sabotaging?

Suggested Resources:
Our Mothers, Ourselves
Healing Is a Choice
Boundaries in Marriage
Just Us

This is the Healing is a Choice Workshop testimony:

Last February I went to the Healing is a Choice Workshop and I came home a different person, having defined my fear and control issues and gained a preliminary understanding of surrender. My life will never be the same. I am grateful beyond words. – Linda

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New Life Live: July 20, 2015

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Topics: Marriage, Sexual Integrity, Friendship, Divorce
Hosts: Steve Arterburn, Dr. Dave Stoop, Dr. Jill Hubbard

Caller Questions:

  1. What can I do about my husband texting a woman he claims is just a friend?
  2. I have a restraining order against my wife; would it be best to come to Healing Is a Choice or the Marriage Weekend?
  3. Was it right to drop a friendship when I found out her husband was cheating?
  4. I was just served with divorce papers and I don’t know what to do since we are coming to the Marriage Weekend.

Suggested Resources:
Every Man’s Battle
Secrets Women Keep
Walking Into Walls (now 5 Blind Spots)
Healing Is a Choice
7 Minute Marriage Solution

This is the Marriage Solution Workshop testimony:

Before this New Life Marriage weekend, my life was hidden, silent in the shadows, lonely. I was at a loss for what to do next in a dead marriage relationship. This weekend has been a great opportunity to know and be in the same space with New Life and receive the most valuable help I have ever heard of. I am leaving the weekend so thankful for new friends, true friends and a truer more accurate understanding of forgiveness and of my wounds. I would tell anyone who is considering this workshop to go. New Life is reality and will help you with your greatest struggle!  – Paula

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New Life Live: July 9, 2015

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Topics: Dating, Affairs, Adult Children, Substance Abuse, Addictions, Marriage, Boundaries, Forgiveness
Hosts: Steve Arterburn, Dr. Dave Stoop
Caller Questions:

  1. What causes a boyfriend to go from sweet to giving me the brush off?
  2. My adult son caught dad with another woman; why did he choose to smoke weed and be rude to me?
  3. How do I help my friend whose husband meets with another woman at the kid’s playground?
  4. My adult kids won’t see me since divorcing their father 7yrs ago; how do I repair our relationship?
  5. What boundaries would be helpful to a lying, gambling, cheating husband?
  6. Because of my OCD I often say sex words without wanting to; will God forgive me?

Suggested Resources:
Is This The One
Forgiving the Unforgivable
Worthy of Her Trust

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New Life Live: July 7, 2015

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Topics: Anxiety, Teens, Divorce, Mother Issues, Codependency, Sexual Integrity, Avoiders
Hosts: Steve Arterburn, Dr. Dave Stoop and Guest Host Chris Williams, a therapist specializing in addiction, trauma and family recovery

Caller Questions:

  1. How can I help my students with their anxiety?
  2. I am on the fence about divorce; do I have biblical grounds?
  3. Should I save my mom again or let her hit rock bottom financially?
  4. My wife thinks that fantasizing about a woman is the same as an affair (Matthew 5:28).
  5. I am at my wit’s end with my avoider husband; what should I do?

Suggested Resources:
You Are What You Think
How We Love Our Kids
Healing Is a Choice

This is the Marriage Solution Workshop testimony Steve read on the radio today –

My life before this marriage weekend was horrible. I avoided all issues and tried to please my wife in ways other than on a relational and emotional level. I wanted to spend more time at work rather than deal with my wife at home. This marriage weekend has taught me better ways to communicate and relate to my wife, and how to comfort her. I also learned how to release and open up. Anyone considering a marriage workshop should definitely go to this life altering weekend. – Mike

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New Life Live: July 6, 2015

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Topics: Anger, Divorce, Parenting, Sexual Integrity
Hosts: Steve Arterburn, Dr. Dave Stoop, Milan Yerkovich

Caller Questions:

  1. What steps can I take to restore the relationship with my teen kids who are mad about our divorce?
  2. We have been divorced for 3yrs; how do I know if we should reconcile?
  3. I had contractual sex so this lady could conceive a child; am I responsible to be the father?

Suggested Resources:
How We Love
How We Love Our Kids
7 Minute Marriage Solution
7 Minute Marriage Devotional Bible
Every Man’s Bible

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This is the Every Man’s Battle Workshop testimony Steve read on the radio today –

Looking in the eyes of the Every Man’s Battle staff, I saw a fight in them. I wanted what I saw in the men who led Every Man’s Battle that weekend. I wanted that fire, that anger against sexual sin, that ravenous hunger for sexual purity, and that affection to glorify God and make much of Jesus. – An Attendee

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New Life Live: July 3, 2015

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Topics: Affairs, Divorce, Grandparenting, Marriage, Parent Issues, Boundaries, Dating, Sexual Integrity, Pornography
Hosts: Steve Arterburn, Dr. Dave Stoop, Dr. Jill Hubbard

Caller Questions:

  1. After several affairs, we are divorcing; how do we explain it to the grandkids who adore him?
  2. My father is angry at me for marrying my husband; how do I get him to accept my husband?
  3. My husband’s family is unkind; why would he just say to accept it?
  4. Has my daughter been affected by me growing up in an enmeshed family?
  5. Do I set boundaries or leave if my husband uses porn again?

Suggested Resources:
Healing Is a Choice
Forgiving Our Fathers and Mothers
Is This The One
Worthy of Her Trust

Here is the Women in the Battle workshop testimony Steve read on the radio today:

Prior to this weekend, my husband and I could never resolve issues because hurt, frustration, and disappointment were always chasing us around. This weekend has been life changing. The new techniques and understanding of each other’s baggage has lifted the scales from my eyes so that I can see my husband as the man God intended. Anyone considering attending the New Life Marriage Weekend should sign up now! Beg, borrow or steal to get there, but go! – Kirsten

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