Proverbs 31 Husband

However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband. Ephesians 5:33

Proverbs 31 Husband

Pastors often preach about the woman depicted in Proverbs 31 as what a wife should be. Godly, faithful, diligent, virtuous—she’s the entire package. Now, I don’t know about you, but I’ve never heard a sermon on what the husband of that woman must’ve been like. And I could stand to learn a few
things from him—and probably some of you could too.

Look closely at Proverbs 31. The character and accomplishments of the wife imply many things about the husband standing silently in the background. He must’ve granted her a great deal of latitude to make important decisions about the home and the family budget. Furthermore, he must’ve encouraged and respected her—two ingredients crucial to her operation of the thriving business discussed in the Proverb.

If a wife is to be free to succeed in her multifaceted role, the husband must hear, respect, and support her. Otherwise, her gifts will be blocked, and she won’t be the woman God called her to be.

Husbands and wives complement one another’s weaknesses. It’s ultimately, God’s way of blessing each of you! The only things Proverbs 31 does say about the husband is that he’s respected at the city gate, and that he rises to call his wife blessed.

– Steve Arterburn

Coming together is a beginning, keeping together is progress, working together is success.” – Henry Ford (1863–1947)

Husband as the Source in Marriage

There is a lot of discussion over interpretation of words like “submission” and “headship” in marriage, so I chose the word “source” to describe the role of the man in marriage.  What does seeing the husband as the “source” mean to you? Watch the video for more!


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God as a Husband

I received a question from a woman who overheard a woman reference God as a husband, and wanted to know what the Bible said about it.   I’ve got the verse, but I also have some thoughts about the need for relational support from people as well as spiritual support from God….  WATCH NOW.

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New Life Live: June 15, 2011


Topics: Sex Addiction, Pornography, Mental Illness, Separation, Blended Families, Adult Children

Hosts: Steve Arterburn, Dr. Sheri Denham, Milan Yerkovich

Caller Questions:
1. My husband and son are mentally ill and sex addicts; what more can I do for my son?
2. I feel bad I had to leave my 7yo stepdaughter behind when I separated.
3. My wife has cheated several times; should I stay?
4. How do I repair the relationship with my 19yo son?

Suggested Resources:
How We Love
Healing Is a Choice

New Life Live: May 27, 2011


Topics: Marriage Affairs And Infidelity Separation Getting Unstuck

Hosts: Steve Arterburn, Dr. Jill Hubbard, Milan Yerkovich

Caller Questions:
1. I feel in limbo because my husband has been unemployed for 7 years.
2. My husband cheated again; I called last year when he was with a Hooters girl.
3. After one month separation, what can I do to salvage my marriage?
4. How can I handle so many problems at once?

Suggested Resources:
How We Love
Emotional Freedom Workbook
Changes That Heal

New Life Live: May 19, 2011


Topics: Anger Reconciliation Teens Marriage

Hosts: Steve Arterburn, Dr. Sheri Denham, Milan Yerkovich

Caller Questions:
1. How do I help my angry 47yo son who was not in my life for 24 years?
2. Should I reconcile with my ex who was in prison?
3. How can I connect with my 14yo son who is into video games?
4. My husband won’t let me hire a handyman!

Suggested Resources:
How We Love
How We Love Our Kids

New Life Live: May 18, 2011


Hosts: Steve Arterburn, Dr. Dave Stoop, Milan Yerkovich

Caller Questions:
1. How can I make my long-distance dating relationship work?
2. Did I handle it right with my husband who was texting his ex-affair?
3. How can I change my negative emotions towards my wife?
4. Should I visit my sister-in-law who kept our brother from us?
5. How can I catch my spouse cheating? I know he’s lying but I have no evidence.

Suggested Resources:
How We Love
Every Heart Restored
You Are What You Think
Just Us

New Life Live: April 25, 2011


Steve Arterburn, Milan Yerkovich

1. How do I love families with 8 or 9 kids that can’t afford it?
2. My daughter’s husband took his family into hiding 5yrs ago and I can’t cope.
3. How do I deal with the guilt and shame from murdering a teen friend in my past?
4. Please teach me how to communicate with my husband.
5. Can you diagnose my dad? Is he borderline personality?

New Life Live: March 28, 2011


Steve Arterburn, Dr. John Townsend, Dr. Henry Cloud

Discussion Topics:
Marriage, parenting, dating

Caller Questions:
1. How do I grieve my husband turning his back on God?
2. Should I turn in a slanderer?
3. My husband and I disagree on the discipline of our 18 year-old.
4. I broke up with my boyfriend who was into porn. How do I know when I am ready to date again?
5. We are separated. My wife wants me to get a vasectomy.

Suggested Resources:
Changes that Heal
Boundaries in Dating
Rescue Your Love Life

New Life Live: March 21, 2011


Steve Arterburn, Dr. Henry Cloud, Dr. Jill Hubbard

Discussion Topics:
Dating, grief, marriage, evangelism.

Caller Questions:
1. How can I stop feeling tormented because I want to get married?
2. My husband died 5yrs ago and I have no goals or interests.
3. Since my divorce, am I stuck in the grief process?
4. My guilty husband is too complacent; how can I help?
5. How should a Baptist interact with a Seventh Day Adventist?

Suggested Resources:
Secrets Women Keep
Every Man’s Marriage
Perspective CD on Grief