Is Shame So Bad For Kids?

Using shame as a way to send a strong message to children is nothing new, but is it actually harmful? In this clip from today’s Daily Show, Jill Hubbard and Henry Cloud join me to discuss the real psychological damage that shaming can cause. Watch the clip.

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New Life Live: June 16, 2014

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Topics: Sexual IntegrityBoundariesMarriageParenting
Hosts: Dr. Jill HubbardMilan Yerkovich

Caller Questions:

  1. My husband recently attended Every Man’s Battle, and I have some concerns about him.
  2. Should I stay with someone who doesn’t want me because I don’t want a divorce? 
  3. How do I set boundaries for my husband and still give him grace without enabling him? 
  4. My husband and I fight a lot and our small kids are affected; should we divorce for the kids’ sake? 

Suggested Resources:
How We Love
Healing Is a Choice
7 Minute Marriage Solution

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Spotting a Narcissist

Spotting a Narcissist

It’s pretty common to call someone a narcissist, but it often refers a person who is simply acting self-centered. True narcissism is a personality type combining extreme selfishness with grandiose thoughts and a few other defining characteristics. Dr. Jill Hubbard and Steve Arterburn help us define the term. Click on the image to watch now.

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New Life Live: November 26, 2013

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Topics: ParentingDifficult ConversationsAddDepressionSuicideAdult ChildrenResolving Conflict
Hosts: Steve ArterburnDr. Jill Hubbard

Caller Questions:

  1. Is it OK to send my 4yo to daycare if I want to work? 
  2. My mom doesn’t know my stepdad is cheating; should I tell her? 
  3. I am at my breaking point with my ADHD kids and my ADD husband who parents differently. 
  4. How can I overcome loneliness and feeling suicidal? 
  5. Am I wrong to want my 20yo and 21yo kids to leave the nest? 
  6. My sister is angry with me; how can I approach her to resolve this? 

Suggested Resources:
How We Love Our Kids
Healing Is a Choice
7 Minute Marriage Solution
Boundaries

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New Life Live: November 19, 2013

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Topics: Mother IssuesTithingChristian WalkSeparationDivorceAbortionGuiltForgiveness
Hosts: Steve ArterburnDr. Jill Hubbard

Caller Questions:

  1. My son-in-law wants our advice to deal with his controlling mom. 
  2. Comment: I was offended when you referred to the president but didn’t use his title. 
  3. Should I back-tithe on the money I saved? I want to be right with God. 
  4. My husband is giving me mixed signals; should I have hope for our marriage or move on?
  5. How do I stop feeling guilty for having an abortion and my decision to divorce? 

Suggested Resources:
How To Have That Difficult Conversation
7 Minute Marriage Solution
Healing Is a Choice
Surviving an Affair

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New Life Live: November 18, 2013

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Topics: SeparationAlcoholicsDrug AddictionAdult ChildrenAffairsPornography
Hosts: Steve ArterburnDr. Henry CloudDr. Jill Hubbard

Caller Questions:

  1. My husband is trying to find himself; am I making it too easy on him during separation? 
  2. Now that my 32yo daughter is sober, how can I see her differently? 
  3. How can I move on after my husband has lived with another woman off and on? 
  4. What is wrong with looking at pornography? 

Suggested Resources:
7 Minute Marriage Solution
Book of Life Recovery
Healing Is a Choice
Every Man’s Battle

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New Life Live: November 12, 2013

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Topics: Self-worthSalvationHomosexualityDivorceFriendshipBoundaries
Hosts: Steve ArterburnDr. John TownsendDr. Jill Hubbard

Caller Questions:

  1. Is there a way to love myself after being raised in an unloving home? 
  2. How can I help my husband to come to the Lord? 
  3. My 21yo niece says she is a lesbian; how can I help her? 
  4. My ex-wife thinks I am despicable, but I am not. 
  5. I reconnected with a hurtful girlfriend; is it better to distance myself? 

Suggested Resources:
Safe People
How We Love
7 Minute Marriage Solution

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New Life Live: November 8, 2013

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Topics: DatingParentingPornographyAlcoholismAddictionsChurch LifeAffairMarriage
Hosts: Steve ArterburnDr. Jill HubbardMilan Yerkovich

Caller Questions:

  1. Should I move forward with the younger guy I’m dating even though my kids hate him? 
  2. I am 25yo and into porn; why do I delay getting to Every Man’s Battle? 
  3. Is there hope for me as a 48yo alcoholic whose kids were taken away? 
  4. Why would the pastor and others at church treat me so unfairly? 
  5. My wife has been living with another guy for one year and will not come back. 

Suggested Resources:
When You Love Too Much
Life Recovery Bible
Healing Is A Choice
How We Love

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New Life Live: November 5, 2013

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Topics: DatingMarriageAdult ChildrenSubstance AbuseAddictions
Hosts: Steve ArterburnDr. John TownsendDr. Jill Hubbard
Caller Questions:

  1. When is a good time to leave a relationship that is emotionally abusive? 
  2. How do I talk with my sister and not be a trigger for her disassociative disorder? 
  3. Should I feel guilty for not accepting my 31yo irresponsible daughter’s boyfriend? 
  4. I am OK with our 17yo son using marijuana; why would my wife take issue with it? 
  5. Should I act or not on the fact that my ex is paying people to stalk me? 

Suggested Resources:
7 Minute Marriage Solution
Every Young Man’s Battle
Healing Is a Choice

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New Life Live: November 4, 2013

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Topics: IntimacyDepressionCuttingSeparationGetting Unstuck
Hosts: Steve ArterburnDr. Jill HubbardMilan Yerkovich

Caller Questions:

  1. Why do I feel guilt and shame when my fiancée shows me affection? 
  2. I am afraid to put my 18yo daughter on anti-depressants; how can they tell it will be helpful? 
  3. My wife is not paying the bills since we separated and I filed for divorce. 
  4. I am a 40yo single; how can I value myself so I can move forward in life? 

Suggested Resources:
7 Minute Marriage Solution
Secrets Young Women Keep
How We Love
Healing Is a Choice

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