Love Forgives

For if you forgive men when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. – Matthew 6:14

Love Forgives

Love has many components and dimensions. It’s not all emotion and it often takes great effort.

One dimension of love that can require great effort is the act of forgiveness. Love, in its most liberating form, forgives. Forgiveness can be simple, or it can be difficult and complicated. It has its best chance to present itself when one has learned it from a parent over years of observation.

If children are to be forgiving, their parents must teach them the art of forgiveness. Every day in thousands of ways, children are asking parents, ‘Do you forgive me?’ Dashed expectations often lead parents to consciously or unconsciously give the message, ‘You’re not forgiven.’

What message are you communicating to others? The Bible contains many examples of forgiveness. Do a word-search and see for yourself. Then be ready to model forgiveness.

- Steve Arterburn

To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you.” – Lewis B. Smedes (1921-2002)

New Life Live: April 7, 2015


Topics: PornographyDatingCommitmentEmploymentCaretakersParentingGrace, Brain Injury 
Hosts: Steve ArterburnDr. Dave Stoop

Caller Questions:

  1. My dad is a porn addict; how do I bring up the subject so he can get help? 
  2. Do I have commitment issues after dating for 4yrs? 
  3. What is a realistic compromise between waiting for my dream job or taking any job? 
  4. How can I grieve that my 15yo daughter’s brain injury is in decline? 
  5. Comment: The man who couldn’t love his teen daughter needs to read about the five love languages. 
  6. Your advice that we all need grace from people touched a nerve; why is that so tough for me? 

Suggested Resources:
Worthy of Her Trust
Forgiving the Unforgivable
Is This The One
NIV Spiritual Renewal Study Bible
Toxic Faith  (not available from New Life)

This is the Every Man’s Battle testimony Steve read on the radio today:

When I arrived Friday a feeling of hopelessness and fear filled me, not believing that I would ever become the man I have always truly wanted to be. I used my addiction as an easy scapegoat to escape the reality that I would truly never accomplish becoming worthy of respect. Two days later, I am now fully in my reality of who I am. I am finally real. Thank you guys so much! My battle is not over, and to be honest, I don’t think the battle will ever end, but now I have an army. Now I have weapons. Now I have a reason to actually fight back and not escape reality. Now I have the greatest leader commanding my heart – my Lord and Savior Jesus Christ! There is no way that I can think to repay everyone here for the help they have provided me, but rest assured that when we get up to heaven and meet our perfect general, I will pay all of you back.  - Peter

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Love Letter

A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you,  so you must love one another. By this all men will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another. – John 13:34–35

Love Letter

Has the post office ever lost some of your mail? I heard a story about a man who just received a postcard written to him in 1948! The postcard was not initially delivered and somehow almost 60 years later found its way to eBay.

A postmaster purchased it because the picture on it was of interest to him. Upon receiving the card, however, he realized it was addressed to someone. So he took the liberty to deliver it. The letter–written to Charles Rose, who was then  eighty-two years old–was from his mother who was no longer living.

I can only imagine how precious this postcard was to him.

Isn’t God a creative gift giver? He loves to show us kindness. Many years ago, he inspired a love letter to you and me. The Bible, from beginning to end, is His great story of love for us.

- Steve Arterburn

When the power of love overcomes the love of power, the world will know peace.” – Jimi Hendrix (1942–1970)

New Life Live: March 3, 2015


Topics: Adult ChildrenAnxietySubstance AbuseAffairs
Hosts: Steve ArterburnDr. Dave Stoop and Guest Host Sandra McCollom, Author of I Tried Until I Almost Died

Caller Questions:

  1. My 26yo son lives with us and has severe anxiety; how can I help him? 
  2. Is tough love appropriate to kick out my 19yo son using drugs? 
  3. Should I let my 18yo daughter get married? 
  4. Am I enabling my husband to have an affair? 

Suggested Resources:
Healing Is A Choice
Life Recovery Bible
You Are What You Think
Is This The One
Secrets Women Keep


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Size Doesn’t Matter

Be imitators of God, therefore, as dearly loved children and live a life of love, just as Christ loved us and gave himself up for us as a fragrant offering and sacrifice to God. – Ephesians 5:1

Size Doesnt Matter

We live in a culture that values things that are large, extravagant, and impossible to miss. For this reason, we’re tempted to look at the struggles in our rather ordinary lives, and consider our victories insignificant if they’re not acknowledged or recognized by others.

But that’s just not true. Victor Hugo, the great French playwright who penned Les Misérables, rightly said our ‘greatest actions are performed in minor struggles. Life, misfortune, isolation, abandonment and poverty are battlefields which have their heroes, obscure heroes who are at times greater than illustrious heroes.’

It’s not the size of the audience, or the amount of applause, that determines the value of your achievements. Live your life before the one true God. And live it with faith, hope, and love even though you’re not getting accolades for it. Remember, your true character is what you do when no one is looking.

- Steve Arterburn

Live in such a way that you would not be ashamed to sell your parrot to the town gossip.” – Will Rogers (1879-1935)

New Life Live: February 13, 2015


Topics: Sexual IntegrityPhysical AbuseDatingFearDivorceParenting 
Hosts: Steve ArterburnDr. Dave StoopDr. Jill Hubbard

Caller Questions:

  1. My husband has been unfaithful the whole 14yrs of our marriage; does he really want to change? 
  2. Should I report a church member who physically abused his family? 
  3. I am concerned how my fiancée looks at men and might be into porn as well. 
  4. After a lifetime of struggling with fear, how do I conquer it for good? 
  5. As a divorced father, how do I work through the pain of seeing my daughters love their stepfather? 

Suggested Resources:
Every Heart Restored
NIV Spiritual Renewal Study Bible
Every Woman’s Battle
You Are What You Think
Rethink How You Think

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Facing Our Fears

Don’t be afraid, for I am with you. Do not be dismayed for  I am your God. I will strengthen you. I will help you. I will uphold you with my victorious right hand. Isaiah41:10

Facing Our Fears

We live in a world that is, at times, a frightening place. We live in a world that is, at times, a discouraging place. We live in a world where life-changing losses can be so painful and so profound that it seems we will never recover. But, with God’s help, and with the help of encouraging family members and friends, we can recover.

During the darker days of life, we are wise to remember the words of Jesus, who reassured His disciples, saying, “Take courage! It is I. Don’t be afraid” (Matthew 14:27 NIV). Then, with God’s comfort and His love in our hearts, we can offer encouragement to others. By helping them face their fears, we can, in turn, tackle our own problems with courage, determination, and faith.

God knows that the strength that comes from wrestling with our fear will give us wings to fly.”  ~ Paula Rinehart

His hand on me is a father’s hand, gently guiding and encouraging. His hand lets me know He is with me, so I am not afraid.” ~ Mary Morrison Suggs

Adversity is always unexpected and unwelcome. It is an intruder and a thief, and yet in the hands of God, adversity becomes the means through which His supernatural power is demonstrated.” ~ Charles Stanley

Facing our deepest fears means making peace with our seen self and with our unseen self.” ~ Sheila Walsh

Father, even when I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil because You are with me. Thank You, Lord, for Your perfect love, a love that casts out fear and gives me strength and courage to meet the challenges of this world. Amen

Thank You Letter From An EMB Wife

This is a letter we received from an EMB wife whose husband went to the Every Man’s Battle Workshop in 2014.

Dear Steve,

I cannot thank you enough for what happened to my husband at Every Man’s Battle last weekend.

We have been married for 44 years. We have 9 precious children. Most of my marriage has been almost intolerable. I tolerated the intolerable until I found out that I was worth love. God’s love.

My husband’s dad baptized him in the pool of pornography at a very young age. In that baptismal pool all of his five senses were stopped (except for his ability to see himself and his needs). He had no ears to hear me or others. No eyes to see. No heart. I felt hopeless except for trusting God for a miracle. Nothing I said would be heard.

He abandoned me for a total of 10 years while he gave himself to his hobby. Everything was my fault to him. It took a crisis in our marriage 14 years ago for me to start to get strong. I have been on a journey. I went back in your archives and have listened to every one of your shows. I can’t thank you enough.

I required my husband to attend Every Man’s Battle last weekend. I got a new husband when he came back! I got my miracle!

Thank you Jason! Thank you New Life! Thank you Jesus!

My husband has come back and he talked to our two oldest sons yesterday and is going to talk to all of our children. We are giving them your book “Every Man’s Battle. We are going to stop this generational curse. We are building the walls!

Thank you so much!

A Divine Appetite

Sow for yourselves righteousness, reap the fruit of unfailing love, and break up your unplowed ground; for it is time to seek the Lord… Hosea 10:12

A Divine Appetite

Unlike physical hunger, our appetite for God is endless. Once you’ve satisfied your physical hunger you no longer want to eat. In fact, the sight, smell, or even the thought of food can almost make you sick after you’ve eaten your fill.

But the opposite is true of our appetite for God. The very act of satisfying your appetite for God intensifies it. That’s precisely why Scripture tells us to ‘Taste and see that the Lord is good.’ To come to His banquet table.

Experience for yourself that He satisfies completely. And when you do, something wonderful and life changing will happen: you’ll find yourself wanting more of Him, and less of what you’ve been using as a cheap substitute for Him.

It all starts with surrender . . . surrender to the fact that you’re not God, He is. And His ways aren’t our ways. And trust Him every day, that He knows what He’s doing.

Steve Arterburn

“Being a Christian is more than just an instantaneous conversion; it is like a daily process whereby you grow to be more and more like Christ.” - Billy Graham (1918- )

Man’s Inhumanity to Man

Today I’m musing about man’s inhumanity to man. I want to share some interesting stories; one about a Japanese hero, another about surviving the Holocaust with unlikely helpers, Victor Frankel’s “Man’s Search for Meaning,” and the power of elevating our fellow man through love and high expectations. Watch the video here.


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